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am I being a weird mum?

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bleakhouse · 18/01/2007 21:10

Ok - is this a strange reaction. Ds1 is 6yr old, and today I find out that the little brother of his best friend at school has been up all night vomiting. I've been thinking that I will keep him off school tomorrow just in case the best friend goes down with it, and passes it on to my ds before the weekend. Am I a control freak or is this actually quite sensible? Thought we could just have a nice day at home...

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bleakhouse · 18/01/2007 21:33

Well, ok, not as a general practice, but if it's going to hit the rug, dog, something else harder to clean than your hand. Or do you constantly carry a bowl around with you?

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bleakhouse · 18/01/2007 21:38

must go now... the doctor will be along soon to put me to bed. still think I'll keep him off though...if I was less honest i Could have said, ds is tired shall I keep him off to have a nice day at home. You'd all be going 'Aw! go on, then.'

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pointydog · 18/01/2007 21:39

when dd1 was little and couldn't tell me, she boaked on sofas etc.

when bigger she always got to teh toilet in time (atta girl!)or had a bowl by the bed (never used).

dd2 has stomach of iron. Takes a lot to make her vom. ONly happened once in fact.

How often has your ds been sick?

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nikkie · 18/01/2007 21:53

DD2 is sick very easily (a couple of coughs can do it) and have found myself doing the 'catch it in my hand thing'(even at the swimming pool)

paddyclamp · 18/01/2007 22:05

Even though i wouldn't keep the kids off i can understand you feelin anxious. I hate sick and am on edge whenever there is a big going round.

If there was something really special coming up, like Christmas then i'd consider it, but otherwise i'd send him to school and keep my fingers crossed!

Ladymuck · 18/01/2007 22:12

Out of interest what would you tell the school?

Madora · 19/01/2007 09:28

Mine have to carry bowls around with them when they have vommy bugs. I LOATHE vomit and unfortunately have 3 champion pukers! I think D and V are the sort of bugs no-one needs their children to catch because of the risk of dehydration. Colds and sneezes may be good for building up their immunity, but vomiting - why wish it on your poor child? That said, still should send him to school as bf has not caught the bug yet has he?

Skribble · 19/01/2007 09:34

I am reformed sick phobic, but I would never have used this as an excuse for keeping the kids off, there is always someone going down with something, so not a good habit to get into.

I would just start thinking about what stratigies you can use to help you deal with illness if it does happen, like having kitchen roll, pampers care mats on pillows, bwols, antibac spray, febreeze, carrier bags in the car etc.

Remember your thread title was "Am I a weird mum?", so don't get too offended, nobody is intentionaly trying to upset you.

Fireflyfairy2 · 19/01/2007 09:41

My dd complained on Monday night about a sore tummy & she was rather pale, so I kept her at home on Tuesday. She was fine. She went to school on Wed & Thur. She was sick last night again, vomited once & even then I think it was because she had shepards pie for dinner & kept complaining that she didn't want it & would be sick (drama queen y'see)

So she went to bed at 7pm crying as she "wasn't one tiny bit tired) & she cried for ages.. finally screamed "I'm going to vomit all over my bed!!!!"

she didn't.... at that time.... at 1.30am she came in my room, "I'm not tired, I'm going to be sick" She didn't. But she did at 2.45
She got up this morning, I dressed her & sent her to school, as IMO she isn't ill.

Her teacher just called me & said she is complaining of a sore tummy, I said unless she is being sick on her shoes she will be fine!![bush] I am not a cruel parent, but the last few times I picked her up from school she has been right as rain when we got home!!

noonar · 19/01/2007 09:50

sounds like you have some excessive anxiety around this issue. you are not mad though! alwyays best not to give in to anxiety if it makes you behave irrationally, imo.

MissGolightly · 19/01/2007 10:39

Hi Bleak, sorry if we made you feel got at, I cross-posted with you and hadn't read your reasons when I posted my response - your OP didn't say anything about the background. After your second post I can see that there is more to it than just over-protectiveness and understand your reaction.

Having said that, I think in spite of your feelings you should try not to let your phobia run your life or (maybe more importantly) your DS's. It is absolutely normal to hate sick, but if you feel there is more to it than that, perhaps you can seek help?

Either way, hope your DS is fine today!

sandcastles · 19/01/2007 10:44

Just sounds like an excuse to keep him home & 'have a nice day' imo.

singersgirl · 19/01/2007 10:47

You know, I am not vomit-phobic, but I hate my kids being ill - I just hate vomiting bugs and all the sheet washing and getting the smell out of the carpet. So I feel a bit like you when I hear that siblings of close friends have been ill. But I would never keep my boys off.

TooTicky · 19/01/2007 10:52

Sick or no sick, I can perfectly understand wanting to keep him at home and have a nice day together, although this would indeed be frowned on. And I hate sick. And I have been tempted to keep dcs off school to avoid sicky bugs but never actually done it.

TooTicky · 19/01/2007 10:53

Oh, and I am definitely a weird mum, but weird is infinitely better than normal.

Madora · 19/01/2007 18:55

Firefly - I think schools have a 24 hour rule on sickness and diarrhoea ie don't bring em to school until they have had 24 hours v/d free.

Hillary · 19/01/2007 19:31

If your not happy then do it! I think people who are sick and go to work or send their sick children to school are selfish - i know you said it was your Ds friends bro and he maybe wasn't at school but they just spread their illness! WE DONT WANT IT!!

I went to the supermarket the other day and half way through scanning my items the checkout girl blew her nose with a dripping tissue and sneezed all over my shopping. I turnned around and walked out and left her there with my shopping! Discusting. Not prepared for two sick children, my sister's going in for a major op if she got it she wouldn't be able to go in! You get paid for being off sick!

foxinsocks · 19/01/2007 19:35

mm I think it shows that your sick phobia is taking over your life and that of your children and you need outside, expert help with it (like a counsellor)

you did ask for opinions and sometimes, with a phobia, it is GOOD to hear that you are being irrational because it forces you to re-evaluate your behaviour

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