How on earth can we aid development of common sense in 'bright' child?

[BloodyEnderDragons]

We are frustrated!

Our daughter is only in year 2 so maybe it's too early to be so frustrated?

She's very bright, our girl. Reads to year 5 level at least (she's allowed to borrow books from their class shelves), is an excellent story-teller and writer, a top speller, picks up maths quickly and easily. She can tell me about how our bodies work in some good detail thanks to her eagerness to read through body books.

Common sense though? Argh it's awful! Is this a normal 7 year old thing? I'd hoped it would show by now.

I'll try to think of some examples.

Putting a cup of water down by her elbow during a meal, instead of further back.

I ask her to get pjs on. She looks on her bed, can't see any so doesn't get them on. She won't think to get some from her pyjama drawer, the position of which hasn't been altered in over 4 years.

She will STILL tear around the kitchen when the oven is on despite my years of explaining dangers with examples.

I asked her to grab a cloth to help me clean with a few days ago. She couldn't see any but instead of asking, she proceeded to use a t.shirt that she loves.

She's approaching 8 and I'm still waiting for it to kick in! Is that just all normal and should I just be patient?

My DD has ASD and no common sense (commented on by teachers). She spills water all the time and then will do things like running to get a cloth before actually picking up the cup.

We now speak out every process as we realised she doesn't really get the steps involved in common sense things. So ... lets pick up the cup, so no more water spills, move electrical items out of the way, then get a cloth. Apparently the more we do this the more this will become automatic... So the theory goes.

It is bloody frustrating though to constantly have to point out obvious things.