Got judged in public today. Not a big deal but.....

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Urgh. Doesn't feel good.
My 5yo DD refuses to wear hat/gloves/scarves/jumpers/long sleeves/jeans/tights/wellies/snowsuit/waterproof suit and most socks.
Even if I put them on her, after the hysterics, they wont stay on. It ruins days out. I dread cold days because I cant get her to wear the right clothes and then she cries because she's cold or wet.
Anyway. Walking across a busy road in the snow with inappropriately attired child a man stopped me. I thought he was going to admire DS in his buggy..... No. "why haven't you put a hat on that lassy?" He said.
What can I do??? People are always giving me looks. I know it doesn't look good but what do I do?. I'm exhausted by it.

Hes not having a good time at school. So if it gets him there any easier its no big deal.

When someone helpfully points out that your child isn't wearing appropriate clothing, adopt a faux shocked tone, thank them for their input and suggest that they try to get hat/coat/gloves on your DC because it hasn't actually occurred to you to try.

That makes sense. Hope things go better for him at school soon.

I love my pyjamas that much too I think. In this part of the UK, most folk do wear pyjamas as day wear

I once confiscated DD's shoes on the way home (she was in the buggy!) because she kept kicking them off.

I spent the whole way home going loudly "I warned you to stop kicking your shoes off DD, now mama has had to put them under the buggy"

gaggia! Tbf i'm pretty attached to mine too.

Thanks cleaty.

badger I'm such a doormat, that bloke today clearly enjoyed telling me off and I just did a nervous laugh and ran off. I'll have to toughen up.

Will she wear clothes if you cut the labels out and make sure they're 100% cotton? So hennes do some nice cheap cotton clothes which dd wears.

Also my dd has funny feet - her arches are quite high so shoes are actually quite a challenge. I only realised this when I took her to get her feet measured and they flattened them to Get a measurement. Then every pair she tried on were massive. But when she stands normally her feet fit a smaller size. If I buy shoes which cut across the top of her feet (eg converse type trainers or full shoes) then she complains.

So soft boots are ok as are Mary Jane type shoes, loosely done up....

Re the cold hands - I gave dd some of those hand warmer things which helped a lot!

i was the same as a little girl, hated feeling all uncomfortable and closed in in my clothes and shoes and wore as little as possible. drove my mum mad but i used to get so hot and it was a horrible feeling.
i'm still the same now, i was outside for most of the morning today in a sleeveless t-shirt and trousers (out walking) though i had a jumper with me i knew i wouldn't put it on as i'd be boiling but i carry it like the above mentioned show coat. had loads of people say to me it's not that warm yet love-it was for me. I've always been a warm person, maybe she is as well.

So I'm trying to clumsily say, check your dd's feet just in case!

bright that's happened to me! Only DD launched hers over a fence in a fettle so I then had to carry a giant squirming barefoot child home from pre school.

I've got a couple of teenage coat refusers. Don't get it myself, I like being warm.

believe she does have weird feet! High arches and one significantly bigger than the other. Poor wee thing.
All labels are removed but I cant do the same for seams and patterns. She doesn't make things easy.
Handwarmers are an excellent idea!

What about a thermal vest for her? I have a type from M&S that is so comfortable, I can't feel any seams at all. But it is thin, so you can wear stuff over the top of it. I would have thought someone does similar things for children?

My dd also has two different sized feet!

I have to say shoe buying is a nightmare. Next and richter are the only two I've had success with.

This has made me chuckle in recognition. My 3 yr old recently started refusing to wear a coat. I do the show coat thing. She will wear a hat though, I am grateful for small mercies. She will wear thermal vests, i got some nice soft ones from m and s. Clothing wise she refuses to wear anything but leggings and tops. I have 2 older dds and am gutted about all the lovely hand me downs going to waste! She hardly eats anything either. She is massively string willed.

That's a great link thanks MrsDV she does have eczema under her arms so the vests there might be good for her. Or I could check out similar thermals from better priced stores
moon DD will only wear leggings and Ts too. Drives me nuts. She was given a beautiful designer knitted hoody thing from a posh French shop last year that she won't entertain. Shame.

Gaggia

Ds has special needs, and clothes is a big issue. We get socks from here sensorysmart.co.uk/ not cheap, but ds won't wear anything else. Their vests are good too, although Tesco also do some boys vests which are very soft.

Ds would keep his socks and vest on forever - and screams when these are changed, but other clothes are hellish, school uniform is a nightmare - boys trousers are not made for comfort! His out of school trousers are mostly the tartan baggies from Boden.

Ignore the tutters.

Ds1 rarely wears a coat, it was freezing yesterday and he didn't want it on. He also wears the same things most of the time. He's 8 so wears uniform at school but outside of school he lives in running tights and t shirts. I got him a Jurassic World one from Sainsburys and it's really soft and he wears it all the time. Kids just have their funny little ways sometimes. Dd only wears dresses, not because she finds trousers uncomfortable but that's because that's what she likes.

I've given up on the coat thing with ds1. If he's Cold he will tell me I'm sure!

Would long thermals ((Uniqlo ones are soft and stretchy) under leggings and a soft long sleeved dress work? Dd1 lived in type of outfit (minus thermal leggings unless v cold) until she finally decided some trousers were OK around 7yo. And maybe a thick fleece jumper rather than a coat? I often bought secondhand, so the clothes were nice and soft.

On shoes, Bobux suit high insteps, might be worth a try. Dd2 doesn't wear anything else now, as everything else doesn't do up if it's the right length.

That is a day I look forward to, MrsDeVere - we have just had the nightly screamfest over socks. Sometimes if he is very hot in bed I peel them off, but then he wakes up an hour later screaming and clawing at his feet

Keep your eyes peeled for a thread in 2024 entitled, come drink champagne with me...Hazeyboy has changed his socks!

Take her coat , gloves , hat etc...out with you so when the next person judges you ask them to try and get them on her if they're that bothered.
My son used to have a high pitched screech and would feel under constant scrutiny around the supermarket. I used to just ask them what they were moaning at as they don't have to deal with it all day like me !!