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Is it sad to go swimming on your own with baby?

55 replies

sallykins123 · 15/02/2016 20:10

My daughter is nearly 7 months and I would love to take her swimming. I don't have any friends with children so can't go with them and my partner won't come with me as he has a complex about burns on his back - give me strength.

So I was going to take her on my own. But I always see people on Facebook going swimming with their baby and a friend or their husband, but I'll be going on my own, is it a bit sad?

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plantsitter · 15/02/2016 20:26

It's not sad to do ANYTHING alone! But swimming with a baby is not alone!

Sonnet · 15/02/2016 20:27

No not sad at all - you will both love it!

trixymalixy · 15/02/2016 20:35

Eh? I almost always took mine on my own!!

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SoftBlocks · 15/02/2016 20:45

I don't know if this is any help but surfy brands like Quiksilver, O 'Neill do swimming tops with long or short sleeves. Lots of people wear them, men and women.

And it's not sad at all to go swimming just with your dc.

OhShutUpThomas · 15/02/2016 20:50

Not at all.

You're never alone when you're with your baby. It's very liberating when you realise that you've essentially got a little friend to go everywhere with.

BestIsWest · 15/02/2016 20:51

Oh no, sounds like bliss to me.

AimUnder · 15/02/2016 20:55

No of course not! I do everything on my own, museums, playgroups, activities etc

RhinestoneCowgirl · 15/02/2016 20:56

During the week I did most things on my own when DC were babies, as DH was at work, this included going swimming.

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeG0es · 15/02/2016 21:01

Even though my DD is ten now and can go on her own I still like going just the two of us sometimes :)

FleeBee · 15/02/2016 21:05

I love going by myself (with small child) you can totally concentrate & decide how long you & child want to be in the water then get changed as slowly or as quickly as you wish. Definitely worth doing

MintChocAddict · 15/02/2016 21:14

Another one in the do things on your own camp. I absolutely loved doing things just me and the DC when they were small. We went everywhere and did loads together. I don't get the need to have family outings for every little thing. A bit of independence is a good thing and I'm sure your DH will have his special times with your DC too. Mind you I also didn't feel the need to seek out Mum friends either but maybe I'm just a bit more anti social than most! Seriously enjoy the precious times with your wee DC. It goes too fast.

Kbear · 15/02/2016 21:17

def not sad - it's wonderful thing to do

tell DH to get a rash vest - lots of people wear them when swimming = keeps you warmer too - my DS wears one. It's a thin tshirt designed to wear in the water, like surfers wear. Tell him not to miss out on fun times with you and his baby because he is self conscious - it's understandable of course, but easily remedied with a rash vest.

LovelyFriend · 15/02/2016 21:22

I've always gone alone. Lots of people do

plipplops · 16/02/2016 09:17

Def yes to rash vest for DH - I teach baby swimming and see loads and loads of parents in the water with tops on (had a mum came in leggings once as she was going on holiday and due a wax!!?!?!?!)

Notso · 16/02/2016 09:36

What a strange way to think. Even if there was someone in the pool judgey enough to think to themselves you were 'sad' the effect on you would be zero. They won't be chasing you out of town with pitchforks and flaming torches.

I used to go swimming during the week with my older kids all the time, it was almost exclusively people on their own or one parent with a child. At the weekends you get more families.

MintSource · 16/02/2016 09:58

I do it almost every week - started when DS was four months and he now 17 months and loves the water.

We did join a pay as you go tots swim group at the local teaching pool to start with and it was nice because they restricted use to just babies for that. But I am just as happy on my own, although it did take a while to get the hang of the changing. I now have it down to a fine art.

There are loads of children with just one parent in my local teaching pool. In fact, it's the norm.

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Mammabrown · 16/02/2016 10:06

Dh used to take them on his own as babies( I hate water ) go find a baby class if you feel awkward loads will be on their own

RatOnnaStick · 16/02/2016 10:08

During the week I only ever see people on their own swimming with baby. At weekends its different, far more families.

I go every week with ds2 to a class (he's 3) but eve before that in the quiet times just after school drop off it would be a handful of parents on their own with child (or granny).

Lots of pools have a toddler splash time or family time specifically a bit quieter with less going on just for mums and babies etc to play about without being overwhelmed by big children and large families. Why don't you try that?

Alison382 · 16/02/2016 11:27

I do everything on my own with my son because his dad isn't involved and my friends are all still young with out children and most of my friends work Saturdays anyway. I do everything from taking him to the park to swimming to the Zoo on my own with him and I love it because we get to bond better. My sisters nearly due so soon will have someone to hang around with which will be nice I suppose

LastOneDancing · 16/02/2016 11:35

I go swimming with my mate every Monday (DS!) I find its a great way to give him some full and undivided attention without one of us getting bored or distracted.

They love it so much OP. Give it a go.

Bellygirl · 17/02/2016 08:09

No of course it's not sad. I always took DS by myself... I never even thought about it being sad, what gave you that idea? Lol

KittyandTeal · 17/02/2016 08:12

I used to take Dd on her own loads, you don't really get time to chat with friends when you've got a baby that wants to swim and play and jump in etc anyway.

Have you considered a baby swimming group? They can be expensive but have been worth the money in my opinion.

Jaimx86 · 17/02/2016 08:13

Not sad at all! In fact, very normal.

I used to be a lifeguard at a large sports complex and saw mum's with their babies all the time. Have a look at the pool timetable and see if they do a session for babies when it's quiet.

Also, depending on water temperature, the lifeguard might advise you only spend 20-30 mins in the pool

BelfastSmile · 17/02/2016 08:19

Does your area have a pool with a specific toddler area? We have a couple of pools in the area that have these - very shallow water so they can just sit and splash. The adults barely get wet, and often wear regular clothes with shorts, so your DH could wear a t-shirt and not look out of place at all.

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