Can I just show off a little?

[puurfectmummy]

My 4 month old DD is just fab!!
Sleeps all night, smiles all day.
Only cries when she needs fed and grumbles a little when she's tired.
Took her on a 4 hour drive to PIL for christmas and she travelled soo well and did nothing but smile at all the strange new people whos laps she was passed from and to.
Swimming this morning and a shower after and no grumbles.
Where is the catch?
Is badness on its way?
I am gonna get it when no2 arrives aren't I?

I wonder how much this is due to you and how much due to pure chance.

It's lovely when people talk about how much they enjoy their children. It gets said so rarely.
Obviously there will be the terrible twos and if there aren't there's a problem. In other words a child who isn't normal is a problem even if that makes it easy to deal with at certain ages when certain behaviours are needed. But at the age yours is just enjoy it.

We used to call our twins the happy babies as they smiled so much when they were babies, which I put down to them having 3 older siblings and also strangely to staying in the womb until 40 weeks - I felt the extra weight, time inside (rare for twins) and nice births helped them too. And I suppose babies numbers 4 and 5 you might know more what you're doing too, more laid back with them.

hahahahahhahahahahahaha hahahhaha

not really... yes, it is wonderful that you are having a lovely time. my advice? savour every second of it because you never know what is around the corner...

smileyspeople said "Just be careful, don't put her wonderfulness down to your perfect parenting, that one really comes back to bite you on the arse." and oh how right she is!!

i was just like you with ds1... ds2 arrived but 13 months later and LO, it was made clear to me that the loveliness of my first child had bugger all to do with my parenting and everything to do with his personality.

by all means, walk around enjoying your perfection now... and rest assured mn will be here for when no2 comes along and shatters all your illusions...

my dd , just 3 , is like a little beam of sunshine, people say. In fact, my grandad, (83) suffers from clinical depression but says she is the best therapy and better than any drug, just seeing her being so happy gives him a lift. Its great to boast about our kids because they are wonderful, whether its down to us or not, I can just about manage the whinging and tantrums because the rest is so brilliant!

I do try to savour it all, everyone told me to do that when she was so tiny, telling me she would be a big thing before I knew it.
I vowed, to myself, I would but it has still flown in! 10cm, in 3 months! I didn't see it happening!
But I know that tommorrow is another day and who knows what it will bring! Never mind what the coming months or years will have in store!!
Can't wait, and yet can!{fsmile]
Thats realy nice for your Grandad, Oliviasmummy (love the name) I hope that my wee one is doing the same for my grandad, though he is not depressed I know he is feeling his age and anything that makes him smile is good by me.

(NG, DS2 is pretty damn fab and complimented all the time too Doesn't bloody sleep mind you...)

Ah, yes, I remember when DD was like that.

She still is, largely.

DS, outwardly, is an utter charmer by comparison. But oh dear GOD was he the antidote to DD.....

I'll have your DS2....

I can't think what you mean, VVV - your DS is such a calm child

I know you would, V - and he'd love it!

Hunker, you are a liar but I love you

So, you'll drop DS2 round here Saturday afternoon then?

Did I say calm? I meant ball of energy with the balance of an acrobat!

Yep, Saturday's fine

Yes, it was quite an opening gambit he struck when you saw him, wasnt it?

Im not kidding about Saturday.....

"Er, should he be standing on the back of the kitchen chair leaning on the windowsill?" ROFL!

Saturday, you say? We could go somewhere...

puurfect...- she'll be on heroin and stealing cars before she's 12.

Not really. Sounds perfect. Well done.

It can change overnight puurfectmummy! Your post would have described my DS until two weeks ago! He's now 5 months and he's getting frustrated with the whole world and everyone in it, especially himself, as he wants to do much more than he's physically capable of at the moment. Make the most of it I say.

actually, i've been holding out to prevent kidnappings...but i think you will all find that in fact, my children, and i do mean all three of the delicious loving gorgeous cuddly happy reasonably well behaved kooky little TREASURES, are in fact, the nicest and most delectable specimans of mini-person in, well, the universe actually.

since we're gloating, like.

lol, my dd has been a devil since the day she was born but i still have old lady fan clubs in supermarkets as she's so brazen she goes right up and befriends them and gives them her teddy bear

although she has stiff competition from ds these days

agree with the general consensus though, don't get too smug.... a childs temperment has less to do with parenting than you'd think, when you have a sceond you'll understand exactly how little. my 2 are polar opposites in terms of temperments even though we've not done anything differant with ds. thank god we had the difficult one first or i'd be a broken woman by now!

pah. My dds get a mexican wave down tesco.

I used to be all for nurture over nature. But since being a parent I'd swear my 2 were different from the day they were born.
So now I'm all for nature.

So it's not my fault

(Actually mine are scrumptious too, but not perfect, a right pair of tinkeroonies with it.)

Toddlers are meant to be naughty, its about being an individual not a pleaser. J

Toddlers are just spirited

my ds2 was like you dd puuuuurfect, until he was 3 and then I noticed 666 on his scalp one day whilst washing his hair......
All change!!!

Now he's delicious though at 6 so it's swings and roundabouts.

Nice to hear someone saying good stuff about their LO though

Ha, I have a dd (8) who was/is perfect in almost every way (there is a song somewhere in there) and life was a complete and utter breeze. What great parents we are thought dh and I rather smugly, haughtily bypassing screaming toddlers in supermarkets, we never have that problem with dd. In December 2003 I gave birth to a little whirlwind who has turned my "perfect" life upside down entirely. Now I am the one with the tantruming toddler in supermarkets whilst others pass me by looking smug with their angelic off-spring. Oh how times have changed - LOL .

Aw, there are times when its all good and being a mummy is the best thing in the world!

I think a lot of the time it is down to how we view things (eg when I am in a good mood I can focus on the fact she falls asleep beautifully next to/on me but when I am a bit low, I get cross that she won't fall asleep on her own).

My little one is nearly 9 months now and the last couple of months have been a lot harder (she's an acrobat/wriggler) - but she is still adorable and I am completely in love and can't quite believe my luck sometimes. She eats anything I give her (although in true mummy-revenge style I 'bragged' about this a bit much and she is currently in a selective phase!!) and is so smiley and loving and clever and sweet and fab - but we don't get much sleep... So it all evens up. Be pleased with the things your baby can do (but be prepared for it to change).

Btw I think parenting style IS important but it is only part of it, don't get bogged down in the competitive parent thing it's just too stressful and you lose confidence in your own decisions.

sorry but no child is that good just wait your little angel will turn into a little terror in some form or another at some point in the future, its there waiting................