WILL I EVER LIKE BEING A MUMMY?

[gingernutlover]

really thought by now i would enmjoy motherhood but i just still dont enjoy speniding time with dd 15m she is clingy demanding and i just feel so tired all, the time, please someone tyell me it gerts better, and when?????????

Does your DD like nursery? My DS loved it - he is an only child and enjoyed being around others. So another way for you and your DH to look at it is that she misses out on social development and fun if she does not attend nursery at all in the holidays.

I'd always wished you could have kids from the toddler stage before having Bubba Tom, but the baby stage isn't too bad. It's the freedom of going places I miss the most, as you really do have to plan your days out with a baby, from a feeding aspect. I'm hoping it'll be easier when he gets to the toddler stage in that respect.

Why don't you tell DH that sending her to nursery in the hols is keeping her in the "routine" and that in can be distressing for her to go back when she's been at home for a couple of weeks?

I'm a teacher and work 3 days a week. During the school hols DS (aged 2.9)goes to nursery at least 2 out of the 3 days unless we have something else on eg going away. I have a baby DD as well so there's no way i'm gonna feel guilty about it. DS is fine with it and it makes the remaining 4 days of the week so much better if i've had some chill out time.

Just wanted to add I have four dd's I do love them all but LO 16 months is not that well and being clingy and demanding and it is driving my absolutely nuts and if I could afford to put her at the childminders once per week I really would. today was a good day my friend was here so she could share the constant wanting to be held etc etc etc. Your dp is being unreasonable send him to read this thread. A day at home without any dds I could get so much done and I would feel that I have done something for me and I know that helps my depression (I have long term depressive problems) so does dp.

Big hugs x

winter with a toddler of that age is just grim.

DS1 used to enjoy housework (extra duster for him) and cooking/baking.

You'll have a great summer though - your DD will be walking, saying a few words and be more interactive. Hang on in there, Spring is just around the corner

much sympathy - good for you for getting her to nursery and getting some much needed time for you. DHs I think have no clue what it is like living in mind-numbing toddler land day in day out.