Please give me tales of 2nd babies

[Luckystar1]

My DS is 12 months, he is a delight, but when he's hard, it's so hard and I find myself thinking I just can't go through this all again.

The first few months were very difficult, as he was a big cryer, but I worry that I only seem to remember how hard it was, especially when I know we had lovely times too.

My DH and I have no family close by, so we have zero support aside from each other. DH works long hours in a high pressured and stressful job, I have given up a high pressured, stressful job to be a SAHM, which, some days/weeks seems like a stupid idea. But I don't really want to go back either.

Anyway my main question is - were the bad times as bad 2nd time round? Is it worse? Or has it been easier in some respects? Just tell me the good, the bad and the ugly please!

Congrats lucky!

I'll be looking out for you as we carry on being indecisive.

Seems we spoke too soon, I had a small bleed earlier and a negative test afterwards. Typical!

Perhaps my body thought it wasn't a good idea for me to have children in successive school years!

Oh, I'm sorry. Hope you're OK.

Sorry to hear that OP.

Sorry op, hope you're ok

Urge, I took another test after not drinking for a while and it's positive. I guess I'm in for a waiting game.

I had a mmc at 11 weeks before my DS so I'm hopeful that if it isn't to last it won't string me out!

Oh blimey, what a rollercoaster you're on

Oh fingers crossed for you OP.

I've been reading this with interest as DD is coming up to 6 months and I always thought I'd want to space 2-3 years between babies... But now I'm wondering whether to just crack on and get it over with!

Though tbh if this cold she has doesn't shift soon I might never ever want another...

It's indeed a roller coaster, I shouldn't have tested when I did! But my only symptom has also vanished so I'm not massively hopeful!!!

wheres DS had a cold last week, I said the very same myself! It went to his chest and he's on antibiotics so maybe just take a wee trip to the doc!

Reading the replies avidly! I'm 24 weeks with DS2 and DS1 is 14 months so will be 17 months difference. Ds1 was hard - silent reflux and milk intolerance and generally not contented much of the time because of that - and just his personality probably. Super inquisitive and short attention span! Still pretty demanding and never still. We pray to one day be accused of using tv as a babysitter as currently there's no way he'll sit still long enough to watch anything except when in his high chair! Anyway I'm soooo hoping for an easy and contented second one. Please tell me it's likely! I plan to try and slot ds2 into the same routine ds1 has as much as possible. I'm only taking 6 months mat leave as I only went back in July and feel a bit guilty Also need to recoup some cash. We have a lovely nanny who will be full time next year and needs to be paid! I know having her will make it all a lot easier but I'm still really worried about it all and about how ds1 will react. Excited too though. Two of the little blighters will hopefully be such fun and my biggest hope is that ds1 will eventually have someone other than us to play and go nuts with

DS is 10.5 months and we thought for a long time we would only have one because I hated being pregnant with a burning passion due to constant insomnia and then I had pre eclampsia so had to be induced at 36 weeks. But recently I've started to change my mind and revert back to my plan of having 2. I'm probably more worried about being pregnant with a toddler than having two kids together. Like others have said I'm hoping certain things are a bit easier because I have more experience (might be wishful thinking)!! Enjoyed reading all your comments and good luck OP. Hope everything works out for you :)

Thanks Sunny. Good luck to you.

I've had more bleeding again today so I'm not holding out any hope. I'm very sad and pissed off with my body, I don't want to continually have miscarriages to prepare for a successful pregnancy. Once again, all hope and excitement gone.

Anyway, that's for different day!

Thank :) Any news? I hope it's all working out for you xx

Hello! Still bits and pieces of bleeding, but it seems to have tailed off, some I'm really hoping and praying it's ok!

Fingers crossed for you

Thank you!

Really hope so. Let us know how you get on :)