sick of hearing "my baby is bigger than yours/she's so small" !!

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My daughter weighed 6lb 8oz at birth and was born 4 days over due date.

she's now 9 months and weighs just over 17lbs so she's put on a steady 1lb+ a month.

she is ebb and I know this can contribute to some bf babies being more slender than plump but my partner was small growing up and I was so skinng (until I had my first serious bf at 16!).

She is developing very well, cruising sofas, crawling and babbling away etc. Always been very alert and fidgety. I basically have no concerns whatsoever!

But I am SO fed of people guessing her age. Someone guessed 2ms the other day! Bloody moron!

I always here "oh my baby is younger but huge compares to yours" and "wow she's so tiny, by baby weights X amount".

How do I respond. I just say wow or woah. I feel like they are very naive and also comparing as if their baby is better than mine. Which I know is so ridiculous and no one means any offense but it still irritates me.

some lady said to me yesterday at a baby group "wow she's so clever!" to which I responded with "well she's 9 months..." surprise surprise I'm greeted with "oh... she's so small".

Help me not take their comments defensively as I know they mean nothing by it!

Any other mamas with small babies?

OP - You can always turn it round if someone says "oh my baby is so much heavier / bigger" and say "well it's probably because she's so active". Then they'll probably get annoyed if they think you're insinuating their baby is lazy :-D
This is the crazy thing about the comparisons. Sometimes you can never say "my baby does this" or "I did it this way" because some people just automatically hear "my baby does this, and so is better than yours" or "I did it this way, and so I am a better parent than you". Usually it's just an observation and nothing more. I find the differences the babies in our NCT group really interesting, and love talking about them all with the parents, I feel very lucky that no-one takes things the wrong way.

I have this both ways! Ds is big-he's on the 95th centile for height and when people guess his age they always say he's 3ish when he hasn't even turned two yet. People often think that he should be doing/not doing various things like talking fluently and out of his buggy etc. Dd is little, on the 9th centile and you'd think that there had never been such a small baby in existence the way people react!

I've had a sumo wrestler-shaped baby and a dainty Flower Fairy type baby. The comparisons are annoying, whether they are innocent or pointed, but they don't last. Once the kid can talk and walk people react more to the havoc they are causing than the shape they are!

I have never checked what centile my DD was. Never took her to get weighed either except for the 9 month ish/2.5 y checks. Never had reason to I suppose.

My little girl is 2 and 21lbs still in 9-12 month clothes so people have often said this but to be honest I've not been bothered

My daughter was 5lb 8oz when she was born, she was 8 days over due too, my other two children were only 6 and a half pounders. I'm very petite myself, so couldn't see myself having big babies. I get a lot of, "Wow she's tiny", "Was she premature", "Wow four months, she only looks a month old". I take it on the chin and don't think anything of it, I don't think it's meant in a way to offend me. Big or small, it doesn't matter, as longs their healthy. My midwife said to me that going back 30-40 years ago, 5lb babies were the average weight of most babies and 6-7lbs was considered big, but things do change. I was 5lb 5oz and my mum was 4lb 11oz.

She doesn't even sound particularly small. Bottom of the charts (2nd centile) for a 9m old girl is 14lb, your daughter is around 25th centile. People just feel the need to comment on something, ignore them!
My daughter is 17m and the same weight, though granted she is off the bottom of the weight chart and has been on meds that stop her growing. It does annoy me that people comment about it, as if they think I hadn't noticed. I'm always tempted to say "oh, maybe I should start offering her some food?"

Ime people love to brag about the enormous size of their children. I've had all this in the past, with most of mine. It's boasty and rude. They should shut up.

My dd is same age as yours but she is slightly lighter.however she was born at 8 13 so is gone to bed tonight in a babygro she wore last easter..
Value for money!

I get this too. DS was 3lb 14oz at birth and is now 19lb 2oz at 1 year old. I think he's done bloody well in a year to get to that size and for his corrected age is on 25th centile for weight and on 9th for length after being way off the chart at birth.

I did get a bit upset at his swimming classes as the other babies dwarfed him and parents kept commenting on how small he was but he eats loads, still drinks lots of milk and as I'm only 5'2 he's maybe just destined to be petite.

Venusvandamme yours has done really well! My baby weighed the same at birth and at 1 year old was 14 Oz and is nearer your baby's weight now at 2 years old!

My wee boy was 6lb 11oz at 5 days overdue and he had to have a fasting blood sugar heel prick before each of his first 3 feeds because he was 'underweight'. It made me really insecure...doubting where I'd gone wrong in my pregnancy...I hadn't smoked or drank, taken drugs etc...I'd eaten really healthy, balanced diet.

Then I realised it was arbitrary bollocks. 6lbs 11oz is a perfectly normal weight...both my husband and I were both around that weight.
I think my growth prediction chart expected a big baby based on the fact that I was 11 stone at my booking in appointment. I was fat because I drank shitloads of wine and ate curry, which stopped when I found out I was pregnant...therefore, the growth prediction based on my weight at booking in = total nonsense.

But yes, I've had the patronising tiny baby comments and listened to morons in the hospital droning on about how their 9lb baby was 'a good weight'...like my baby was a 'bad weight'.

Surely, if a child is born without complications or problems then they are a healthy weight...be that 5lbs or 10lbs?!?!

I had the same problem but reversed. People were always commenting, seemingly negatively, about my enormous DS. I had to train myself to respond with, "yes, he's lovely and big" or "he's big and strong" because I found it so upsetting and would always react defensively. How ridiculous?
Can you try the same thing? When people exclaim about how small she is, just say something like, "she's just right" or even, "she takes after me/DP".
Some other good advice I read which helped me chill out about DS' weight is that when you're waiting outside the school gates in five years time and a hundred children run towards you, you won't be able to tell who weighed what at 9mo and who was formula or breast fed, who was weaned when and on what, etc etc.

Baby charts are a complete nonsense designed to give people employment and stress out new mums. Children rarely follow grow curves. I have no idea what dd's weight and height are at the age of six.

My dd was small at birth 6lb 4oz and then lost a fair bit and was slow to regain, I had loads of 'isn't she tiny' at baby groups to the point that it was slightly annoying.

She is a very tall leggy 9yo in age 11 clothes now I get lots of isn't she tall comments now!!

Purple - thank you, that's really nice to hear someone else understand that he's done well. I bet your DD is just perfect, good things come in small packages (can you tell I'm small too!)

I get the same. Dd2 was 6lbs 14oz at birth and is now just over 16lbs st 9 months. No one believes me.
Have the opposite with dd1 where people tell me she's 'huge'. (She's tall but slight). She's only just turned 3 but everyone asks her if she's in school. It's so annoying as she's average height and the same height as her cousins of the same age.

Dd2 is little but feisty. She's very dainty and she surprises me with how strong she is.

I get this about my 18month old- she's on around then 25th centile so not particularly small really. In the playground I get "isn't she very steady on her feet" etc. I just nod and say yes.

I get this a lot my son is almost 10 months and 18lbs. He is also very very active and almost walking. It is so frustrating when people comment on how small he is - as if I am starving him or something !!

My daughter was 16lbs at a year old. She is now 18kg at 6 and half years old. With the obesity epidemic people have no idea what a normal size and weight is.

Side note:

she is ebb

This would be for exclusively breast fed, or extended breast feeding.

She is neither now. Hopefully she is also having solid food and 9 months is hardly extended breast feeding.

Breast feeding is not directly related to size or slenderness.
Genetics, on the other hand, have a big effect and I'd just mention she takes after mum and dad.