My baby daughter doesn't look at all like me

[sarah00001]

Hi, I have a baby girl who is almost 8 weeks. When she was born she looked a lot like her dad, then she looked like me for a while and now she looks just like her dad again and is his exact spitting image. I feel so guilty, but I'm really upset about it as I wish she looked more like me. It isn't that I think I'm good looking or anything, but I just wish there was some resemblance and you could tell she was my daughter. She looks nothing like me at all and several people have said the same thing.

I love my daughter to bits so it hasn't affected the way I feel about her and I know I'm being really silly and the most important thing is that she's healthy and happy, but I can't help feeling sad that she doesn't look like my daughter.

I wondered if the same thing has happened to anyone else and how did you start to feel better about it?

Thank you

Sarah

chrome100 it's not really straightforward because you and your siblings always inherit 50:50 from your parents but the percentage of overlap of genes that you and your silbings have inherited could theoretically go from 0 to 100% (e.g. siblings that are identical twins). So a child of yours could share no genes with an aunt or uncle up to 50%, usually somewhere in the middle though.

My DD is a fusion of me and her dad in the loveliest way. She has the same eyes that I have and I couldn't ask for more. However my little boy looks nothing like me at all. And he never, ever will because I'm not his genetic parent. My husband is, though. This doesn't relate directly to your question but I thought it might be helpful to remember all the ways your DD is going to be like you, if not now, then later. I'm delighted to have my DS and made the choice to have him, but I will never have any of that. Enjoy it!

I have two DC - the one that looks the most like me is the one we adopted

There is a huge gene pool. My mother has a great niece who looks very like her when she was young.
My youngest now looks like my father, he didn't when younger.

My DCs are the spitting image of my DH and identical to each other to the point where I can't tell them apart from photos taken at the same time (they have a three year gap and are girl and boy, not twins!). All three of them are totally different from me, they are blond, blue-eyed, tall, white skinned while I am dark haired, brown-eyed, short and olive skinned. I do find it a bit weird as they are nothing like I imagined my DCs would be but it doesn't affect how I feel about them.

My DD is 1 and the spitting image of her tall, blonde, blue-eyed father, whereas I'm very dark and small with olive skin. People love to point it out, too! Seriously though I would love it if she looked like me but wouldn't and couldn't love her any more than I do already

My dd didn't look like me to the point that friends joked I should take a maternity test. (Ho ho. They're lucky she was mine and not say a donor egg or I may have been upset!). Anyway aged 3 her face suddenly looked like mine. Not sure whether it's the features or the expressions, certainly not the colouring, but now people say she is very like me.

Ds is spitting inage of dh. But when he is asleep I can see my dad.

I also read that babies look like their dads as this is natures way of making dads bond with their babies.
They change so quick. So stop worrying about this and enjoy your time and all the newborn snuggles. Who is looking at their face when you have your nose in their hair inhaling their baby smell?!!

My DC1 is the image of me. He's developed red hair which isn't like me, but otherwise he's my clone.

DC2 looks like my sister.

Neither look like DH.

Like PP have said, what they look like doesn't matter. They both have personality traits of their parents, we love seeing them. And they also do the cutest things that are all their own. Give it time, and the other charming stuff they do will overcome any other funny foibles of yours ;)

My first son looks mostly like his paternal grandfather, my second son has a bit of me and his father, my daughter is 9 weeks and doesn't look like anyone (yet), although my dad said she's the image of me as a baby, but I found all of my children's looks changed slightly, as they grew older.

My now 14 year old daughter looked nothing liked me when she was a baby, I am olive skinned brown eyed ,she is a pale blue eyed blonde. My son is very like me. As my daughter has got older she has become more like me, body type etc, she is also so like me in personality makes for some interesting times!

My dd looks nothing like me. She's beautiful, exquisitely so, whereas I'm sharp featured and plain.

She takes after DP who is very pretty for a man and has a lovely symmetrical face with a beautiful wide dental arches.

She's got full lips and beautiful big eyes and plentiful thick hair with a nice feminine hairline. The opposite of me in every way..It satisfies me immensely that she's got everything I lacked.

Beauty isn't everything but it's certainly nice to have.

DS1 vaguely resembles me, but DS2 looks nowt like me whatsoever. He has my eye colour and that's it. They do both seem to have mostly my character and personality traits though. They are both persistent stubborn to a fault , inquisitive, chatty and DS1 in particular seems to have my daft sense of humour.

I look at baby pictures of DS1 and see how much he's changed since then - they could be pictures of an entirely different baby since there's very little resemblance to the almost 4yo boy we now have.

My son was born looking the spit of his dad. Apparently babies are born looking like their dads so they don't disown them or something, some nature thing. But now my son's 3 he looks so much like me with hints of his dad. I started to notice the changes when he was about 6 months-ish, so you might notice her gradually change.