Your top 3 'NON-NEGOTIABLE' family rules.

[Saturn74]

Children: two boys aged 10 and 8.
Our top three, non-negotiable rules are:
1: No hitting, swearing, mimicking or name calling.
2: No speaking whilst you have food in your mouth.

3: Put all dirty clothes and wet towels in the laundry basket.

What are your top three?

I think our real "non-negotiable rules" are the ones they learned and accepted years ago, so they scarcely count as rules now iyswim!

So for example for us things like are taken as read:
No swearing
Bed means bed - once you're upstairs you don't come down
Food/drink only in the dining room
Everyone helps with jobs - it's a home not a hotel

But more important rules are the ones that get broken more frequently:
Everyone's responsible for keeping their rooms tidy, and clearing up after themselves
No fighting, squabbling, being unkind to each other

DD 20 months.

Sitting in car seat non-negotiable
No climbing on the coffee table, dinner table etc
No eating the cats' food.
No pulling the cats' tails
No winging!

I have two teenagers

Everything is negotiable .

Hard to know what is top.

1. Treat others as you'd like to be treated.
2. No smoking (but the teenagers don't anyway)
3. Don't break the law in the home may be.

DS aged 9
dd aged 3
me aged 40
dh aged 30

All rules apply to all of us

1. We love you all of the time, no matter what (even if we're not keen on your behaviour sometimes)
2. Violence is unacceptable
3. Bad behaviour never gets you what you want

2 girls 2.4 and 1.1yrs

1. No Hitting/Biting/Punching ANYONE
2. No Throwing - be it toys or whatever
3. Every household member is to have a goodnight kiss and cuddle

mercy, our rules are aimed at everyone, not just my children. dh has loads of black marks for bad words LOL! (i just swear in french )

twiglett, fine rules!

no hitting or biting or any kind of violence
don't lean on my breasts or IN PARTICULAR poke your elbows in them
don't poke the rabbit

1 good manners at all times!! (please, thank you, excuse me etc!)

2 autism is no excuse for bad behaviour so don't even try!

3 don't forget that we all love each other - be gentle!!

Yes, hc, only mummy pokes the rabbit.

(Sorry, couldn't resist).

I love lorina's (teenagers - everything's negotiable), and think edam's number 3 (giggle when hiding) is wondeful, as I can imagine the panic over a really good hiding place, LOL !

Rule 1) and this is a really serious one! Every packet of Malteasers opened one MUST be given to mummy. (and they actually do this)

Rule 2) do not jump on Mummy when she is asleep that what Daddy's are for.

Rule 3) Mummy must give kisses at bedtime (it make magical dreams come quicker)

3yrs, and 9 months

1. NEVER call anyone stupid (follows on from both mine and Psychomum's DH being belittled and called stupid growing up)

2. No feeding the baby crayons

3. I am always proud of you

hub2dee
I am more of an omax girl myself

no hitting
be nice
do what you're asked to do

Oh yes hc, I also think Precision Abrasive Waterjets are very exciting.

1. Daddy is prepared to fight for democracy, but we don't run one in this house.
2. No hitting or putting down
3. When I say don't hassle me, it means unless someone is bleeding, or the house is on fire, I don't want to know

When you have 5 of them all my rules are non negotitable.

1. No food upstairs
2. Crying/whining when you don't get your way will get you nowhere
3. No-one goes to bed on an unresolved argument

i only have 1

I AM THE LAW

that seems to work ok.

1. dont do as i do, do as i say! (open to negotiation dependant on my mood)

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I think every day comes with a new and special message for us, rather than a set of rules

'don't stick your fingers in my soup' was today's

Capp - ours comes with a new brother related one each day... today's being

We DON'T feed Emrys the hoover nozzle... I don't care if he's laughing!!!

I'm sorry, yes, we don't say "I don't care", no, I'm not sitting on the stairs.

Bed means bed
No biting anyone or anywhere (that means you dd2, Queen of the loopholes!)
don't go in anyone elses bedroom with out being asked (I am allowed to put the washing away!)