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How old was your pfb first time left over night

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Kent1982 · 15/07/2015 08:49

Hello
How old was your breast fed pfb the first time you left them over night . I have to go somewhere over night baby will be 6 month. I'm having a melt down and I have 8 weeks to go yet

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Milkyway1304 · 15/07/2015 20:34

Just before 1st birthday, working nights.

tatumsfunkychicken · 15/07/2015 20:36

18 months and counting...

WorldsBiggestGrotbag · 15/07/2015 20:40

Left her with DH overnight at 5 months but he was fully involved in her care so don't think it counts as leaving her really! We've never both been away and left her (now 20 months), she still doesn't sleep through and no one is willing to have her.

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BitOutOfPractice · 15/07/2015 20:44

"19 months and counting, plenty of time for going out when she doesn't need me through the night. "

Daffodil you say you don't want to "undermine the mother's confidence" but that is such a judgey comment.

How do you know the OP's child needs her through the night? My two EBF DC slept through from 7 weeks fwiw so that's a ridicukous statement anyway. What about if your child "needs you through the night" at 6? Do you still have to stay at home then?

Everyone is different. Every (or most) mothers are making the best choice for their own child and family. They don't need someone breezing in and telling them that they are being selfish if they need to work or want to go out. Gah!

OP hope you're OK. I think you really should use the next few weeks to get your DP more involved so you (and he) can both feel confident that it will all be fine. Which it will Thanks

Looseleaf · 15/07/2015 20:45

4.5 years when went to hospital for a night. 4 years on she remembers and wished children were allowed too Smile but now ultra independent

Debs75 · 15/07/2015 20:48

dd1 was about 7 months and i hated every minute. i was young and mil pressured me into needing a night with dp alone. she only stayed about 3 times , i stopped it when i realised mil was smoking in bed with dd asleep next to herEnvy
ds and dd2&3 were a lot older and they never stayed with mil. i hated leaving them as babies and hate it now

FromagePlease · 15/07/2015 20:52

9 weeks. Went for a night away with DH, my mum looked after her. I pumped and she took expressed milk from a bottle. I worried for the first hour then enjoyed the freedom!

mrsnoon · 15/07/2015 20:57

About 4 days. Husband got swine flu and was pretty ill, I'd had a section and was in no fit state to look after them both so had to ring my mum at 2am to take the baby to hers.
First time we left him that was planned he was almost 3 months and we went away for a night for my birthday.

ftmsoon · 15/07/2015 21:21

11.5 months with DH. I went to a hen weekend and it seemed like a good time to give up breastfeeding. Haven't left her overnight with anyone else yet.

mrsmugoo · 16/07/2015 08:37

10 months but only because that coincided with me stopping BFing and he never took a bottle.

madbunnygirl · 16/07/2015 08:53

I left my 10 week EBF DD for one night with my husband to visit friends in London. Was fine and DH loved the time with her without me around, was away just over 24 hours. Did miss her loads but enjoyed seeing my friends too :)

My in-laws are meant to be babysitting for us Saturday evening though and I can't face leaving my DD (she's now 16 weeks) with them as she's so settled at night now I don't want to risk spoiling that for her!

RVPisnomore · 16/07/2015 08:55

14 months, it was so DH and I could spend our wedding night together. He was absolutely fine.

RunningJumpingClimbingTrees · 16/07/2015 18:00

First time was with her granny at 7 months and second time to her grandads at 11 months but may have another in between as she is 9 months just now. she is far more predictable and doesn't need night feeds now so just need to express some for her. Granny is keen to have her again soon and with the fringe coming up may have a wee night out to see some comedy and drink some lager Grin

Blankiefan · 16/07/2015 22:09

8 weeks. She went to granny's for her first overnight. Was lovely. She's been going now about once a month since. Gives us a night off and she gets to bond with the grandparents. It's never been a problem. She's 20mo now.

GingerDoodle · 17/07/2015 17:06

She almost 3 and we haven't. She's been left during the day, been put to bed and has had a load of nursery taster sessions but we've not had the reason to be away overnight.

futureme · 17/07/2015 17:16

Im so envious!

LW86 · 18/07/2015 13:01

My DS is 4.1 and still hasn't been left.

LissieD · 18/07/2015 15:54

2 yrs 5 months when I had to take ds (3 months) into hospital for 2 nights. I hated it. I didn't even leave her to give birth to ds as he was born at 7am and I was home just after lunch.

bonzo77 · 18/07/2015 16:47

10 weeks ish, as a practice run for when we went away for our first wedding anniversary. Am slightly Shock now looking back!

Providore · 18/07/2015 16:55

My DS is 3.9 and I still wouldn't feel okay leaving him overnight. He still breastfeeds to sleep and needs cuddles in the night. I'd hate to think of him waking and me not being there for him :-( He won't need me to cuddle forever so I'm fine with it at the moment.

JiltedJohnsJulie · 19/07/2015 21:38

6 or 7...years.

girliefriend · 19/07/2015 21:46

Well I had to have an emergency operation when dd was 2 weeks old so technically then however the first time I left her by choice she was about 6 months and I went to my friends wedding.

She was breast fed but was also happy enough with a bottle, it felt very weird leaving her but actually once I got there it was fine.

Op don't worry about it now, 8 weeks is a long time in baby terms and honestly she will be fine Smile

VenusVanDamme · 19/07/2015 21:51

Sadly, we were apart from DS for the first 16 days overnight as he was in SCBU.

He was 7 weeks when left overnight with one of his grans and it wasn't a problem. He loves staying with either set of GPs and they love having him.

worldsworstmum2015 · 19/07/2015 21:56

I really don't understand why people don't let their children stay over at grandparents or aunties/uncle's as long as whoever you're leaving them with isn't a violent drug taking alcoholic your child will be just fine. It's important to have husband/wife or not being a parent time. My dc have all slept at grandparents over night from an early age and now as they've grown up they love to sleep out and do probably about once a month. It gives me a break and also a nice bonding time with Nan & Grandad.

futureme · 19/07/2015 22:09

Wow arent you kucky worlds that you have family that want to have the kids!
Do you really not understand that not everyone has that?

Id not have left a child that's not verbal myself, but Id love for my 6and 3 year olds to have other places they could sleep. Certainly I'd love some time just with my Dh.