Excuse me, cod...

[doggiesayswoof]

...do you have any plans for another boot camp soon? I need a shove to start with dd and was thinking of doing it over xmas when off work. She's 2.4 btw. Anyone else ready?

i started potty training in june (dd was 2.4). mostly because the nursery kept telling me she was ready and it was hot, so i thought let's do it. made a big fuss of "big girl pants" etc... it took 4 MONTHS... 4 MONTHS of wiping up wee, 4 MONTHS of not daring to go out... some days were successful, mostly because i was getting her to "have a try" every 30 minutes and she was in the mood to go along with it.
In the end i bribed her into pull ups (she totally refused nappies "i'm a big girl").
Anyway, all of a sudden she just got it. Just like that. She went from having 6 accidents A DAY to about 1 every other day, to none in the space of a week. The really noticeable thing is before she was weeing really often, now she can hold it and the wees are big ones.

What i am trying to say is before she just wasn't ready and when she was ready it all was very quick and easy. Definitely letting DD2 decide when she is ready - can't go through that again (and it's not fair on them either)

Interesting twickersmum. I've asked dd if she wants to wear pants, and she was pretty definite that she still wants to wear nappies. In other ways she wants to be a 'big girl' but obviously doesn't see wearing pants as a defining factor.

It intrigues me that in general people think they know better than their children on this subject. We wouldn't dream of keeping a baby on its feet all day because we had decided it needed to learn to walk.

doggie if you want i will help you

I'm with Franny.

My DS is 3 in March and I haven't even contemplated potty training yet.

fine
but doggie wants her kid to be continent

I don't. Ilove cleanign up shit!

Doggie, I've got a foot in both camps on this issue.

I tried to potty train dd during the summer when she was 2.3 and it didn't work at all. I tried again 6 weeks later and it still didn't work. Tried again when she was 2.6 and she got it in a week.

I had to get her trained because she was about to start playgroup and they would not change nappies or use potties. But socially she was more than ready for playgroup even though I disagreed with the no potty thing.

I now have ds who is 2.9 and I will not be sending him to playgroup because of the leader's attitude re toilet training, and also because he is far less independent compared to dd. I will be leaving it until later with him - he won't be going to nursery until next September anyway.

Quite a lot of isuccess in training depends on your child's temperament and your own circumstances.

Good luck though!

Can I just say that Cod spends a lot of time on here helping people potty train, just because she is a kind person, and it was a bit rude of me to butt in. But I did it anyway

no prob#

anyway let me knwo if oyu want the cod treateent

Hi again, we didn't have internet access for a few days - doggie/cod, is there another boot camp coming up? I am gritting teeth and following the 'wait till your child is ready' thing at the moment but the thing is, I know he has control and, like Kate Clanchy's child (in the Grauniad article) the problem is more not wanting to do it in the 'right' place and on cue, some sort of emotional hang-up rather than not being ready physcially. I know a lot of the time when he has a poo coming, but when I ask him he just says no, then does it (in his nappy) when I'm out of the room.

oh alright then
next week
s tart tomorrow

I might join cod. Waiting for ds1 to be ready was a disaster, as he never was (still got there though when we eventually went for it, which impressed everyone when he swapped schools )

DS3 weirdly enough is showing signs of being ready (he's 2 in January). Showed me when he weed behind the curtains ages ago, and tells me when he's doing a poo, and goes and fetches nappies and wipes to get cleaned up afterwards. After over 7 years of nappies I'm ready to stop.