Oooh...welcome all WOHP's!

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Good evening!

Thought I would start a new thread in the new topic. Feels a bit strange though! Might settle in with a

Who's glad Friday is over and its a bank holiday weekend? I've just started a new job with new challenges so the last couples of weeks have gone fast but loving it! Have been working since DS was 9 months and full time when he was 2.

Are we all WOHPs with a WOHPartner/Husband or is anyone's the SAHD? My partner is a qualified professional but has been SAHD since DS was 2 and will return to work when DS goes to school in Sept. Although his first 2 weeks at school are going to be half days which will be difficult to manage if he isn't at home so I think he will wait until DS is settled full time.

Any plans for this weekend?

Thanks whoknows.... Reassuring to know it could all be worth it longer term. By working ft now I'm hoping I can focus on my career and create that flexibility and financial stability. Though am possibly deluding myself that I'll have flexibility as I get more senior (currently middle management) and worry that instead I'll be working all hours.

My real stumbling block tbh is my commute - 1-1.5hrs each way. No chance of that changing unless we move abroad. Which is actually a possibility!! In that case DH would become a SAHD most likely.

Hi! I've been working FT (DH is also FT) for 6 months after 9 years of PT.
Its hard work isn't it! Its got easier recently, probably because I've chilled out a bit and lowered my standards!!!
I find its feasible to get all the regular things done IYSWIM, but big jobs (DIY, deep cleans, clearouts, or even trying to arrange tradespeople) are almost impossible to fit in.

I travel quite a bit with work, which means I have to be even more organised, although DH has been great adapting to the changes. DCs have also cooed well, although they are obsessed with clarifying the schedule (who's picking them up etc).

Hooray for half term. I am working three days, but it is just so lovely not to have to get on top of all the school admin - permission slips, fruit snacks, lunch money etc etc!

Hello,
I work 4 days a week and so does dp, dd is two and goes to nursery for three days.

We do chores on our day 'off' and are lucky to work close to home so no real commute. It has been working really well but now I am pregnant with dc2 things are going slightly to pot as I am getting home from work and collapsing on the sofa instead of getting on with jobs. Hopefully dd will not be permanently traumatised by a few months of baked beans for dinner

I've just left uni (graduate in October woo!) and straight into full time work. Just finished training, I'm with a lovely group training at the same time so its nice but I feel very out of my depth as they are all older than me and have worked FT befor.

Then again I seem to be good at my job so

DD Is 13 months old and DP is still a student for another year. Term time she's in nursery but DP will be a SAHD for the summer!

Ooh this is new :)

I've been working FT since dd was 6 months old- she's now 17 and I also have ds1 (16) and ds2 (11)

It has got a whole lot easier now that childcare isn't so much of an issue, in fact I'm not even sure if I really belong on here but maybe I can just be the one handing out shots of vodka, saying "it really does get easier" :)

DH and I are both FT WOHPs to 1 Dd in the. Equivalent of P3.

We muddle through.

I've always worked since leaving uni, and we've always had DD in paid care, as we live 3 hours away from family.

BumTum - what do you do on your commute? I listen to podcasts and I now enjoy that part of my day. Let me know if you want suggestions. I'm afraid I'm one of those who abandoned poor Grimmy on R1 :)

margo I used to sleep but it made me feel so groggy I'm loathed to fall back into that pattern.

I recent got a kindle so plan to load that up and get my reading mojo back. I'm also thinking I'll try and do any phone/internet based jobs like the food shop or meal planning. I've actually only got the long commute 3 days pw and the other 2 days I'll be at a different office which will be a 5-10 bike ride away. So I'm hoping I won't feel totally ground down as I won't be doing it every day. Just always feels like such a waste of valuable time I could be at home though... And the expense and the palava if the trains are delayed

I didn't quite get Grimmy either... I now listen to radio2 !

I drive in to work, I wish I could use the time yo just sleep instead.

I'be become addicted to the Wittertainment film review podcasts. It sort of makes up for my lack of adult film going experiences that I know what's out there! (not sure if I'm welcome on here as I'm currently a WAHP with the occasional travel to clients and meetings, but I suspect this is more where I should be!)

Hi DH and I full time, him days and me nights, so usually totally knackered! On the plus side no child care costs
Its my night off so to everyone

This is exciting!
I am WOHM with DS2 and another one on the way. DP is also WOHD but is out of work at the moment.
I do a lot of travelling, around 800 miles last week! Soooo pleased it's bank holiday weekend.

Been there Betty
Worth it but tiring !

Enjoy

namechange I'm looking forward to when they are old enough to look after themselves so I can have a 'normal' life again

Mine were cycling to school age 10 and I don't have the "driving them everywhere" challenge as we have great links- bus and train.
They are able to cook, clean and look after themselves so I feel like Ive done a reasonable job.
They know Im always here for them though.
I usually get inundated by DSD and all her friends and BF from uni because they like it here ! 27 loads of washing

I have 2 adult DC too and they were independent like yours, so fingers x my twins will turn out the same
The thing is I'm (a lot) older this time round and find nights much harder than in my younger years.
Just sneaked a peak at the SAHP board, I predict there will be a lot more swearing here

Fancyanotherfez - is that the Mark Kermode podcast? I've just subscribed to that. Have you listened to Serial? I also listen to Womens Hour, Science Weekly, Litopia, London Arts a Review, NY Review of Books, LA review of books, Friday Night Comedy, Food Review.

Can I join? I went back to work full-time rather unexpectedly when my twins started school (offered a promotion that I hadn't expected but was very grateful to accept). They are now in Y1. I have a flexible working arrangement that means I work school hours on Monday and Friday, and longer on Tuesday, Wednesday & Thursday to make up the time. Usually WFH on Mon & Fri....

signing up, although I will probably hang around the lp boards more.

LP (no xp so no weekends off ever) and work 3 days a week. Quite tired, messy house, but I do get to the gym and we eat well. Could be worse!

Great to have our own topic.
I work 4 days over 5 so 3 full plus 2 half days. DC are both at primary and I can't wait til they are old enough to take themselves to school, or at least walk home on their own. DP works ft but manages to be at home one or two days a week, I do longer days on those days. We compare diaries the week before and agree who will pick up which days. I am default taker though.
We've got next week off and are off on holiday.

Hi! two FT WOHP here, but DH works from home two afternoons so can pick up/be there for DCs. Three DCs, three different schools, we have a childminder for DC 3, after school club for DC 2, and DC 1 in senior school has to shift for himself.

Sympathising with bumtum as my previously very flexible job (but informally, nothing in writing) has become much less so. I'm looking to change jobs but it's a wrench as have been in current one since pre children and a new job is likely to mean a significantly longer commute.

Margo Yes it is. No I haven't listened to Serial. I have a massive backlog!

Fancyanothetfez - you know what you need to listen to next :)

I work 3 days a week with lots of travel, but flexi time so I get the hours I spend on the road back. Dh works 4 days a week.

Child care is nursery and grandparents. Unfortunately dd (3.5) is hating nursery at the moment after loving it for a while. Feeling lots of guilt but she's so happy when she's there and at pick up I have no idea what to do. It's just getting her in the door that's a problem but she's only in 1.5 days, so not a lot. Fingers crossed it'll settle down soon.