Oooh...welcome all WOHP's!

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Good evening!

Thought I would start a new thread in the new topic. Feels a bit strange though! Might settle in with a

Who's glad Friday is over and its a bank holiday weekend? I've just started a new job with new challenges so the last couples of weeks have gone fast but loving it! Have been working since DS was 9 months and full time when he was 2.

Are we all WOHPs with a WOHPartner/Husband or is anyone's the SAHD? My partner is a qualified professional but has been SAHD since DS was 2 and will return to work when DS goes to school in Sept. Although his first 2 weeks at school are going to be half days which will be difficult to manage if he isn't at home so I think he will wait until DS is settled full time.

Any plans for this weekend?

Can I join too :) I work weds-sat 20 hours.

I'm a single mum so when dd finishes school she goes to my dm's. I miss her like mad but also like the feeling that im providing everything. I was on income support when dd was little and I realy struugled money wise. I do not want to go back to that. I would shovel shite if I had to

How nice that there is this new topic. I work full time, DS is at school and goes to childminder 4 days, paternal grandparents 1 day. I live with my DP and one of his kids (DP is not DS' dad) but we don't get involved in childcare for each other so it's pretty much the same juggling act as when I was lone parent living with just DS. I have been working FT since DS was 22 months - he is almost 5 now.

My employers are generally pretty cool about child emergencies or planned things like sports day etc. DS' dad has him on Friday and Saturday every other week.

I have a fairly senior role that involves a lot of work events to attend in the evenings and am based at another site at least two days a week, so getting meetings planned in order to be back (using public transport!) for 6 is a challenge but it's been mostly manageable so far.. Fingers crossed! DS' amazing childminder has kept him overnight on a couple of occasions when I have been travelling - she also had the key to my old house, so used to take him home and put him to bed when I was at a late meeting / event. Priceless woman. Would not have been possible without her for the first year, for sure.

I should add I am a WOHP as is DH we shared care - no CC needed as we worked back to back.

Hello all

I work 4 days per week (longer hours on a Tuesday so that I can work school hours only on a Thursday and I have Friday off) and Dh is full time. I'm lucky in that in school holidays I am contracted to only work 3 days a week so that helps somewhat.

We don't have any plans for next week really. I'm working Tuesday and Wednesday. Our school has a brilliant holiday club and the children love going. Wish I had planned to be off now it's here!

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Should also add that both DH and I travel a fair amount. We coordinate to make sure we're not both travelling at the same time and it works pretty well.

I must admit I would go crazy staying at home, and even being in a purely desk job, I love the buzz and feel like I'm a better parent for having a fulfilling working life. No guilt here

Although I did give up trying to get to a hairdresser and gave myself a MN haircut the other day. Although we are extremely fortunate to have the income to throw money at problems to solve them it still doesn't resolve the lack of time problems.

Hi, I'm going to be a turncoat I'm afraid, and defect to the SAHM topic later this year when I finish work.

Have been a full time working mum for the whole of my 2 boys' lives, they are now 10 & 13 and each went to childcare from 6 months old so I am staking my claim as a wohm before I defect
I worked a mix over the years from standard 8 - 5 Mon to Fri, as well as various types of shift work, also had to go away for periods too. My husband has also been ft work the whole time, and only a short period where we lived near family, so it has been quite a juggling act over the years.

I'm currently going away on all sorts of courses prior to leaving work, and then I'll be out of the workplace for a year at least due to other stuff - don't know what I want to do in the long term future though.

for everyone, and have a lovely bank holiday!!

Ooh hello everyone! I work full time and so does DH. We have one DS who starts school in September. Have been ttc #2 since Jan but no luck yet.
I do morning drops off at childminder, DH does afternoon pick ups. I work from home on a Monday in term time and take DS to and collect him from preschool. Just trying to sort out before/after school club for September at the moment.

Don't know about anyone else, but I always feel like everything is getting on top of me. Would love to be more organised and calm but when I get in from work I either have to work from home in the evenings or I'm so tired I just fall into bed! Hoping some of you have some tips to get me more organised as I've no idea how I'd manage with two (if it ever happens!)

Millie I use holidays to try and get on top of the chores.

I used to have enough uniforms so no washing in the week.
All school uni washed on Friday night ,tumble and hang up - ready for the week.
Online shopping - love it but only use Abel and Cole and Ocado
Divide chores so that one of you does all appts the other all school stuff.
Don't cram weekends ,leave space to chill out.
dirty dishes will keep - sleep

Quick hello from me as well. I work part-time, as does my DH. Our kids are a bit older now, so childcare getting marginally easier to organise. DS is old enough to look after the others, so DH and I can even get to go out together without huge expense and hassle. We're usually too tired to make the most of this.

Cornwalls- I'm terrified of juggling everything. I've skived been a SAHM for nearly 9 years so it's a great big change and it's terribly scary.

He may I join? I work full time as does my DH. I'm lucky that I can part work from home so I get to do before school and after school pick ups.

We have no family help so rely on our own holidays and holiday clubs as well as helping friends put in return for a days help

Hello everyone!

We both work full time. I've been a WOHM for 11 years now. DH does a slightly odd shift pattern and I do compressed hours. Childcare is shared between us two and grandparents although the children are getting older now which makes things easier.

I'm working one day next week but have the rest of the time off so I'm looking forward to a couple of days out with the kids and some time to relax. I've got a friends child for one day so I think I'll take them all out somewhere to run off some energy.

in weeks when I am not home at all it does all start to unravel a bit - I rely on being able to put washing on in coffee breaks and being able to pick the DC up and go straight back to work. I tend to have to hunt down the grubby uniform from around the house if DH has been in sole charge for the week.

The next 2 weeks have also highlighted how much we rely on my parents to pick up the pieces. They are on holiday, I am away, and there are 2 mornings when DH has to leave early. Sigh.

I think I'll start online shopping too when DP returns to work. I always resent using up my Sunday morning to do the shopping DP doesn't drive and having to make plans around bloody Tesco. That will be a spare 2 hours per week!

Pink good luck with it

Online shopping is a total godsend. We spend £6 per month for Tesco deliveries and it is the best thing ever!

I am not generally organised to do food shopping online, but everything else is bought online. I hardly went in a shop last Christmas at all - and when I took DD actual physical shopping with various vouchers she had for her birthday I realised slightly guiltily how much of a treat that was for her.

Quick tip for online shopping which I learnt from MN...

I now make an order for the minimum spend (£25 with tesco) to lock in the slot I want and then I have until midnight the night before to amend the order.

Hello everyone, nice to see this new topic area. We're both full time WOHM parents here, although I'm lucky to WFH one day a week which allows me to catch up on a few chores during tea breaks!

Have 2 DC, 1 in school (5yo) and the other in full time nusery (2yo) and with no local family support it costs us a small fortune in nursery fees and after school care, but we have been fortunate to find an excellent nusery and after school club and my work are pretty understanding when disaster strikes and someone comes down with an illness - as it did this week!

For those worrying about juggling things - you will get used to it - lists for everything, get a cleaner if you can afford it and, most importantly, make sure that the spend the time that you aren't working doing fun stuff with the DC. We certainly don't take our time-off for granted

Morning all! A WOHM here. I work four days in a stressful office job and DH full time in similar. It is hard as I feel I don't see the kids much but if I took a lower paid job, I'd probably be out just as much at first but with less money. And therefore not as good childcare (we have a nanny).

Hardest thing is trying to juggle everything - homework, chores, keeping on top of school appointments etc etc and dealing with children who need me around more (5&3) so I only get a little bit of time to myself on the train to and from work.

Another full time wohm here, I'm on shifts directly opposite Dh so we can get away with no childcare. We have no family support available but our dc are 18,14 and 2. We use a nursery one day a week so we can sleep between 2 night shifts, we also have a cleaner once a week and get shopping delivered

Hi, we have 3 children aged from baby to age 7. One of which has SN. I work full time, and I am currently studying as well. DH works 25 hours at the moment.

We aren't using childcare and don't use family to look after ours either, and just do it all ourselves. Haven't ever found we need a cleaner or anything like that, however we do have a storage unit so our actual place looks really organised.

I am in bed right now and am off out tonight and am in bank holiday party mode

Woo hoo, love this thread! Two FT WOHP parents in our house, we both have a day WFH per week however which helps (DH sometimes weeks at a time as he's technically home based but deployed out to projects on client sites).

We have DS who's nearly 3 and another due in September. Will have one in school and one in nursery when I return from mat leave so will need some top tips on the logistics of that one when the time comes.

Off to start my online shop

I'm a WOHP! I'm a single parent (no overnights etc with ex...or anyone so not much support!) and I work 35 hours a week.
Dd is 6 and has SN. Life is hectic but I love it! I find it hard to.juggle everything though, I do try to.keep up with the housework but as long as it's reasonable I don't particularly care

Morning all, I've got a foot in both WOHM and SAHM camps as I work p/t, within school hours. At the moment I generally feel like a SAHM who happens to fill some of the time the DCs are at school by working. However I worked full time after DC1 was born, as DH was setting up a new business which was precarious, dropped to 3 full days after DC2, got made redundant just before DC2 started school, had a year at home before starting my current job. So I've tried all sorts. DCs are 9 and 11 now.

Bumtum, I can relate to your post. And I am happy to report that the mortgage is nearly paid off, I have no regrets about going back f/t in the early days and the DCs do need me around more now, homework, playdates, taking them to all their after school activities. I was lucky to find a job that lets me work school hours, but there's no way I would have got it if I hadn't done the years in my previous job.

Hi Everyone! We are both WOHP and both work ft. My job is very flexible now most of the time; Dh less so and both DC are in primary school. Our biggest issues are managing after school activities and covering holidays. No family nearby to help.

Great to see this board. It can feel very full on sometimes; good to have some space .