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Did you wait the six weeks to have sex?

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Snicklebump · 24/04/2015 19:40

I had a normal vaginal delivery with a couple of stitches. I'm really not sure whether to wait the six weeks to have sex because I'm absolutely rampant. Considering we barely had see during pregnancy due to my non existent sex drive, I'm quite keen to give it a go sooner rather than later. Am now three weeks post partum - think it's safe as long as lochia has stopped and I'm feeling well?

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Christelle2207 · 24/04/2015 19:43

I've never heard of this six month rule. I think we waited a couple of months but it took that long to feel ready. If you feel up for it I can't see why not.

BlueThursday · 24/04/2015 19:43

I waited 5 and didn't receive a 6 week check.
CS delivery though

NoMaybeAboutIt · 24/04/2015 19:43

You don't need to wait six weeks!! I asked the MW at my day 10 appointment when we could have sex, and she said as soon as we wanted! I too was like something possessed after birth! Think I held out for two weeks, and everything was fine. Enjoy

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Christelle2207 · 24/04/2015 19:43

Six weeks I meant not six months!

TheAuthoress · 24/04/2015 19:43

If you feel ready then go for it :) I personally was too exhausted for about a year lol! Just take it slowly and if it hurts stop.

Minty82 · 24/04/2015 19:44

Hahaha, go for it!! We didn't do anything for about three months after my first but managed it four weeks after the second which I was slightly staggered by! Had a couple of stitches after both but all healed by then. As long as you both want to try and you're both prepared for the fact that things might not be quite the way they used to be just yet, then good on you!

elspethmcgillicuddy · 24/04/2015 19:46

No problem but remember that after 21days postpartum you need to use contraception or you could fall pregnant again (Irish twins ;) )

Unless you are fully breastfeeding with no formula top ups whatsoever and haven't had a period yet in which case you don't need contraception (look up lactational amenorrhoea)

purplemurple1 · 24/04/2015 19:48

Both times i was ready and wanting sex at 3 weeks but both times we waited until 2 months until my oh was ready.

applecatchers36 · 24/04/2015 19:48

Same as nomaybe, vaginal birth, couple of stitches, when we asked midwife said whenever you want to, so was 2 weeks after birth was fine, also never heard of 6 week rule.

Groovee · 24/04/2015 19:48

With dd it was 8 months before we had sex due to how they stitched me up.

With ds it was 2 weeks!

MrsGuyGarvey · 24/04/2015 19:50

No we didn't wait - go for it. I did get pregnant again though even though I was bf - so be careful.

CookPassBabtrigde · 24/04/2015 19:52

We didn't until six months
Only because I didn't feel ready, we were quite tired, and to be honest, didn't have the opportunity anyway!
If you feel like it go for it!

WyrdByrd · 24/04/2015 19:53

I had an emergency CS and was, ahem, back in the saddle, at 5 weeks and 5 days - it was DH's birthday !

Feckeggblue · 24/04/2015 19:56

I had an emergency section 3 weeks ago and have been gagging to have sex with DH since like day 2. I'm a little concerned about my scar though, and my Movement which still isn't great- also haven't sorted out contraception. Hmmm

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Snicklebump · 24/04/2015 20:39

Eeeeeexcellent!! Thanks all. Poor DH isn't going to know what's hit him.

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Snicklebump · 24/04/2015 20:40

Oh and condoms will certainly be being used. I'm breastfeeding but absolutely do NOT want to be pregnant again!!

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Grinningcat · 24/04/2015 20:48

Unless you are fully breastfeeding with no formula top ups whatsoever and haven't had a period yet in which case you don't need contraception (look up lactational amenorrhoea)

Please remember that you will have a period after you ovulate and that you can get pregnant before you ever have a period. I personally cannot believe that using bf as contraception is promoted in the literature I have received since giving birth. I know many people who are fully breast feeding who have had their periods earlier than they expected and I know one person who got pregnant within a month of giving birth because she was told this.

Notso · 24/04/2015 20:55

I did but only because bleeding lasted that long. Am of people who did not have the same problem! it was a long 6 weeks or 8 in the case of DC4.

Suchafunnystory · 24/04/2015 20:58

We waited about a week, I was pregnant with DD by 6 weeks.

mrsmeerkat · 24/04/2015 21:00

Four weeks both times

yetanotherchangename · 24/04/2015 21:01

Second grinningcats warning. My periods came back at five weeks despite full breastfeeding (in fact constant feeding)

Juno213 · 24/04/2015 21:01

I tried after 2 weeks but it was a bit sore. So it was 3 weeks with both of mine. At both 6 week checks I was asked if I had dtd and if it all felt ok? I think you just need to get straight back on the horse. Enjoy.

Somethingwitty2015 · 24/04/2015 21:40

Six weeks for both DCs and then it was "right, we have to do this". As long as you're feeling fine then go for it - but be prepared for a bit of soreness (bf hormones can make you dry so lube is your friend). Also I don't know if it is just me but my lochia, which had finished about a week before, came back again for a few days after we had sex for the first time.

BertieBotts · 24/04/2015 21:41

I didn't feel ready at all by six weeks.

dodi1978 · 24/04/2015 21:54

I was like that - felt totally rampant! I think we first had vaginal sex after about 3 1/2 weeks. Felt fine, some positions still a bit sore, but others no difference at all. At six weeks I felt totally back to normal.

We were so rampant that my husband did some finger work down there at about 2 1/2 weeks I believe... also fine...

Strange hormones...

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