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Girls better than Boys?

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Tinkerboo · 04/11/2006 15:46

I've got 2 DS's but ever since I first got pregnant I've sensed a girl bias. Everyone seemed to want girls,then girls viewed as easier babies, better developed toddlers, generally cuter etc.

Even felt people felt slighty sorry for me having 2 sons.

Is it there or am I paranoid?

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hana · 04/11/2006 15:48

think you 're being paranoid!
all individulas
pah to stereotypes

mousiemousie · 04/11/2006 15:50

Lots of folk will be jealous too...don't waste time on this subject

Mellowma · 04/11/2006 15:51

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zippy34 · 04/11/2006 15:52

Paranoid or just the people you know? Everyone around me seems to want boys! Apparently less troublesome than girls when older.....?

People are idiots basically!

Mellowma · 04/11/2006 15:52

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hana · 04/11/2006 15:54

but i get t he same about when we're having a boy-we have 3 girls

sometimes its jist something to say imo

foxtRocketsToTheStars · 04/11/2006 15:54

don't think you're imagining tinkerboo, i had two boys first and everyone, without exception, assumed that i would want the next one to be a girl (which she was BTW). Even when i said i didn't mind either way, i felt i wasn't being believed. I think this was borne out by the piles of gorgeous pink stuff she was given - if she had been a boy i think people wouldn't have bothered so much.

TenaLady · 04/11/2006 15:55

I personally have had trouble with girls older and young, so for me my preference would have to be boy. Listen, you get what you are given and for that you WILL be grateful.

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Tinkerboo · 04/11/2006 15:55

I'm vvvvvv happy with my boys and agree with pah to stereo types, but think it's interesting as I do sense a wider societal view that girls are favoured now.

Someone said to me 'girls are the new boys'

I think it's a lioness instinct in me wanting to fight for my boys.

Did you know being male is one of the greatest risk factors in western society? More at risk of having learning diffs, being excluded, going to prison, commiting suicide etc.

I think I was a feminist before I had sons , now I'm the opposite...er whatever that is

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CatsdontlikefireworksBert · 04/11/2006 15:56

Gah - it's a misconception anyway. My girls were VERY stressful and difficult babies. ALL the boy babies I knew (and there were quite a lot) were all lovely, chilled, sleepy chaps who would fall asleep in their carseats when out, whilst I stood there with my screaming-can't-be-put-down-girl.

Now, being the mother of 2 DDs (2 3/4, and 4 1/2) I would easily say that there are few differences ultimately. I have friends with compliant, polite well-mannered boys of same age, and boys who are boistrous and a handful. However, DD1 likes also to rough and tumble, climb trees and throw strops of insane proportions. I have as much trouble trying to discipline and calm down my DDs as any of my friends with boys. BOTH boys and girls can be whiney. BOTH boys and girls learn what fun screaming and squealing at the top of their voices are.

All toddlers are cute. And that cuteness for the general public wears off with age regardless of the sex of the child.

And besides - when your friends have pre-menstrual teenage, stroppy girls (I am afraid, very afraid) then who will be laughing then!

I also have had people feeling "sorry" for me having only girls. One friend said to me "oooh - it would be lovely if you had a boy second time around. Because they are sooooo special"??? Eh?

And there was me thinking ALL children you were blessed with were special!

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Tinkerboo · 04/11/2006 15:57

Amen Tenalady!!!
And beleive me I'm very grateful.

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TenaLady · 04/11/2006 15:58

Girls are the new boys eh? Have you seen the state of them these days, you would be right there.

Boys/Men are such uncomplicated creatures. God help us all if the world is over run by emotional, irrational women. >

SaintGeorge · 04/11/2006 15:59

My sis has 2 girls. Always got comments such as 'don't you miss not having a boy'; 'will you try for a boy'.

I have 2 boys. Comments reversed.

My bro has 1 boy, 1 girl. Comments have included 'oh that will make it hard, they won't play together'; 'expensive, they can't share' etc etc.

Ever get the feeling you can't win?

Mellowma · 04/11/2006 16:01

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Tinkerboo · 04/11/2006 16:01

oooh cats don't get me started on the' I bet you want a girl/boy brigade.'
I always think what bloody bubble do they live in where children are delivered like christmas presents?
have they never met anyone who couln't or struggled to have children? Or had an ill child.

They need a long hard reality check.

Told you you shouln't have got me started.

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kid · 04/11/2006 16:03

I have a girl and a boy, from my own experience, DS has always been harder work. He walked earlier so I had to chase after him much more, he talked earlier so I had him answering back earlier.
People just seem to feel they need to say saomething!

TenaLady · 04/11/2006 16:05

kid, being forward is not a problem surely. The quicker they are independant the better for you.

Mellowma · 04/11/2006 16:18

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kid · 04/11/2006 16:22

DS is much more indepentant than DD, even now and he is 3 years younger than her. It is better for me that he is independant, but I was just pointing out that in my case, I did find a boy was harder work than a girl.

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Tinkerboo · 04/11/2006 16:22

I guess we all tend to think that whatever we've got is the best( in my case any way as my sons are the finest boys of their generation)
Most of us just have the good grace not to say it. Except anonymously on MN.

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kid · 04/11/2006 16:23

I have seen many cases of people having babies just so they don't have to go out to work
I also know of someone with 5 boys that had a 6th baby that was a girl. She openly admitted that she would stop having babies now she got her girl!

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Tinkerboo · 04/11/2006 16:26

Kid preconceived notion IMO tends to be that boys are harder, butfor the opposite reason you found. As they thought to be slower to develop, more clingy and less independent.
Just shows, Stereotypes...Pah.(To quote Hana)

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3andnomore · 04/11/2006 17:31

hm, have 3 boys and everytime was asked if I was disappointed once I found out the sex of the Baby, even with es....so, can't even say it's that "you want one of each thing" sigh!
But personally I don't think it matters which sex you have, they can be difficult or they are maybe not, more down to personality then sex, I think...however, as a mother you might be more able to relate to a girl and you might do more things that are more up the mothers, street...girly things....must say, I do hope that I get grandaughters one day just for the sake of buying cute girly clothes, lol! But,if I do get grandkids and if they are all boys then I will be happy and blessed anyway

DizzyBint · 04/11/2006 17:40

we got a card from dh's auntie when dd was born and in it she wrote 'well maybe next time you'll get a boy' !!!!!!! she was our first baby!!

juuule · 04/11/2006 17:56

With my children I found that it was down to personality, not gender, which babies were more difficult or easier.

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