What do you miss most about your life BC (Before Children) ?

[mollipops]

I was thinking about this the other day, and wondered how other mums felt about it... Of course, none of us would give up our children for the world or ever truly regret becoming a mum. But it does change our lives so dramatically, what do you really miss the most???

My list:

• Going to the toilet by myself (with the door open or shut as I pleased!)
• Being able to make a phone call or have a shower without interruption!
• The spontaneous Saturday visits to the shops with dh for no reason, just to "look around", maybe grab a cuppa and some lunch...or any spur-of-the-moment outing, without having to pack drinks, snacks, nappies, dolly etc...
• Having a cute(r) belly button!
• Having a career and my own guilt-free spending money!
• Talking to my dh about things other than bills, money and the kids.

Sounds pretty pathetic (and selfish!) now that I look at it - if I wrote a list of what I would miss now if I wasn't a mum (knowing what I know now), it would definitely be longer! And I do feel better now I realise that!

Anyone else have any others to add?

My brain!!!
And lie ins!!
And sex in the afternoon!!!

my waist,my clear skin(no stretchmarks),boobs that dont point south,my sanity,but wouldn't swop him for all of the above.

Sleeping until lunchtime.
Not getting up at all and staying in bed with DH all day.
Going to the cinema/going to see bands.
Not having to do a load (or three) of washing every day.

Watching my soaps in peace without having to say shhhh every five mins or get out the way of the tv.

Going to the races and actually getting to enjoy all the action without missing horses parading or racing because dd wants to queu for the bouncy castle, face painting etc.

To spontaniously go to the pub at night with dh.

To do my housework and it looking spotless hours later. Dd makes such a mess wherever she goes and it takes all day to coax her tidy up with constant nagging, threats of taking things away.

Rolling out of bed half an hour before work without having to iron school clothes, get dd sorted for school and do the school run.

Sleep, spontaneous everything, sex, drunken evenings, eating out a few times a week, money, handbags without weird shit in them, heels, hair and nail appointments, tiny washing loads, tidy house, make up, not having to talk all the time, not having to live at the leisure centre/playground and drs 😂

Lying in!

Everything else is good but this I really really miss.

Money and being spontaneous. I had a point in my life when I could book a city break on a whim.

Sleep
Not getting up at 6am
Eating food with both hands/ eating lunch when I want not at nap time
Did I mention sleep?
Having clothes that fit

I miss not having to juggle the separate wishes of child and dp.
Dp is quite anxious. Before DD, I used to balance his desires with what I wanted and give in to him a bit to keep anxiety his down.
Of course DD is a child and doesn't give a * what he or I want, and loudly proclaims what she wants (good thing I've only got one).