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Chicken pox party?

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Millie3030 · 23/03/2015 22:06

Hi, my friends little girl has chicken pox and has asked if I want to go round there tomorrow, her little girl is 3 and my DS is nearly 2. My DH thinks it's crazy to potentially let my DS catch it and cause him discomfort, I think it may be better while he is young, he doesn't really know how to scratch himself as such and his skin should heal well with scarring while he is so little. (No guarantee he will catch it obviously) but what are your thoughts? I know kids that have caught it at 15/16 and the scarring is bad especially on their face.

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mousmous · 23/03/2015 22:07

noooooo don't do it.

nancy75 · 23/03/2015 22:10

Chicken pox can lead to dangerous complications, it is rare I certainly wouldn't let my child get it on purpose

piechuck · 23/03/2015 22:12

No don't do it, DS was hospitalised with chicken pox, why would you want that?

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JuliaDream · 23/03/2015 22:12

Stupid idea.

Sirzy · 23/03/2015 22:15

Why would you deliberately expose your child to a potentially serious illness?

ozymandiusking · 23/03/2015 22:20

There really are some incredibly stupid people about.
Also irresponsible, potentialy dangerous,
Why on earth would you want to join them!
NO PARTY!

BigRedBall · 23/03/2015 22:22

I'd do it tbh. My dd got it aged 2.3 and coped well. She was still running about. DH got it around the same time and was in excruciating pain for days. His whole body ached on the first night he was writhing in pain. It was horrifying. He was signed off work for 2 weeks.

Fiddlerontheroof · 23/03/2015 22:23

I had a friend took both her kids to one, both ended up in hospital seriously, seriously Ill. Please don't do this, it's incredibly stupid.

gamerchick · 23/03/2015 22:24

And if your child reacts badly to the virus and ends up in hospital with complications you'll be fine with doing it then?
If so then crack on.

Muchtoomuchtodo · 23/03/2015 22:25

I think it would be an irresponsible thing to do.

GColdtimer · 23/03/2015 22:25

No. Just don't do it. Horrible illness and just wrong to expose them deliberately.

GColdtimer · 23/03/2015 22:28

A poster on her has a relative who did this. Child is seriously disabled and mother has had mental health problems as a result. Such a sad story.

BigRedBall · 23/03/2015 22:28

What about when there are breakouts in schools and nurseries? Does it make you less irresponsible and stupid if they catch it by accident and end up in hospital? Hmm

Wolfiefan · 23/03/2015 22:28

Your DH is right. It's bonkers.
I would worry about the health of my child rather than potential scarring.

Justyouwaitandsee · 23/03/2015 22:29

Please don't. The virus stays dormant in your body forever afterwards and can reoccur despite what the old wives tales say. In rare circumstances, it can lead to things like encephalitis in later life (which almost killed my mum). Chicken pox is a serious infectious disease, not something to arrange to have at a convenient time.

GColdtimer · 23/03/2015 22:29

That can't be helped. Deliberately exposing them can be.

Joyfulldeathsquad · 23/03/2015 22:30

Just no!

MrsKCastle · 23/03/2015 22:31

Catching it by accident is very different from deliberately exposing your child to a potentially serious illness.

SoonToBeSix · 23/03/2015 22:33

No , absolutely not. Pay for a private vaccine if you don't want your ds to get chicken pox when he is older.

expatinscotland · 23/03/2015 22:35

No. Just no. Irresponsible in the extreme.

mandy214 · 23/03/2015 22:43

There are lots of people who think chicken pox is a mild illness to "get out of the way". It may be, but we have family friends whose DS had an adverse reaction to CP and had a stroke. He was hospitalised for months and 3+ years he still needs physio because his movement on one side of his body still hasn't fully returned.

Rare reaction? Yes. Knowingly expose your child to it at some sort of party? No. Just no.

JuliaDream · 23/03/2015 22:50

My DS had hundreds of spots,in his eyes,in his throat , he was covered from head to toe.It was bloody awful to see him so distressed.

Would I deliberately have exposed him to that,not a bloody chance.

QOD · 23/03/2015 23:51

twofalls yep my neice who just turned 23
her mum is an alcoholic drug taker and d n has been put under some sortof order now where she gets rrespite and loves it!
It's the intentional introduction that does the damage.
if you can cope with the guilt and horror of watching your perfect n t child become a drooling one who can barely walk and has almost cracked telling the time aged 23 ... go for It

fattymcfatfat · 24/03/2015 00:09

my son had a very mild case at 8 weeks but I would never deliberately expose them to something which could potentially be so dangerous.

I understand you're thinking of get it out of the way, but as everyone has said the possibility of a terrible reaction is there.
QOD Thanks for your niece and rest of your family

UnbelievableBollocks · 24/03/2015 00:13

My 2 have had it. Eldest one, mild bout. The youngest one was really ill and OP, the scars happen even at that age and younger.

It's not something I'd put them through deliberately.