I'm not sure if any of this is still going on but I've had the same happen to me and it's left me massively paranoid about everything I say or do. I've lost all confidence in myself as a mother. I'm currently under social services due to a completely unrelated matter so as the saying goes I'm not in the habit of sh*ng in my own nest. So the last thing I'm going to do is shout, swear or emotionally pr physically abuse my children. Anyway my social worker came round and told me they had received a referral from the NSPCC stating that for the past 8 mth, since moving into my house, all I did was shout unprovoked at the children, man handle my 2yr old in and out of the car, my children appeared to be petrified and very scared of me, I shout even when the children are having fun and doing nothing wrong, I was heard swearing at them "why can't you just do as your fu**ng told" and I appear to drive away and leave them on the drive (forget them) only to return once I realise I've forgotten about them.
And I leave my son who's two in the car for over 10mins at a time.
First like Ruby, I do raise my voice, I'm slightly deaf so shout anyway. I did say that phrase but that was to myself in tears, in the house, children in the car NOT in the house, the door was just closed too.
I DO NOT shout at them for no reason, there's 5 of them and you have to raise your voice to be heard, it's not aggressive shouting, I don't shout in their faces and also I have a three story house so have to shout for them to hear me above xbox head sets etc.
I DON'T man handle my 2 yr old in and out of the car. I suffer from a chronic illness which gives me no grip when trying to hold a weight so I have to use my elbows to grip him out from the car also getting him in is like hoisting a shot put then if he fights and goes ridged then I have to push him back which I do as gently as possible. Do I just not put him in and put him at risk to please my spies??
My children are not petrified or fear me, quite the opposite as they know social services are always seeing them at school.
My 6 year old ran over the closes rd with aeroplane arms shouting "I'm getting fresh airrrrrrrr" at the point of a car about to turn in. I'd shouted his name in shock. It appears that after this they had rang in. Also prior to them ringing and on the day of my swearing in the house alone my 8yr old daughter had been screaming for two hours solid, she had called me a bitch so I'd said she wasn't going to build a bear workshop with her dad. Same day she had repeatedly slapped and punched her 6 year old brother. So understandably I'd refused to reward her bad behaviour, she in return went ballistic.
On returning from the school run I pull on to the drive outside my front door, leave the door open while grabbing bits for going out. I've got a 16mth old too who's doors is slid open and I talk to them all the while in in my passage gathering their bits.
And I've never left ANY OF THEM on the drive, who the hell FORGETS their children??? I have a 12 and a half year old an 8 and a half year old a 6 and a half year old a 27mth year old and a 16mth old. How could it be possible to forget such vocal kids. I've been on the drive about to leave and beeped the horn for the eldest to go for his school bus which stops a few hundred metres from our door then drove off. But I don't take him to school?!
But as you can guess sw said she finds it hard to believe when they have waited over 8mth to report me, the children ARE NOT scared of me, I DON'T leave them on the drive and she knows my condition that causes me to struggle holding, lifting and walking. I've never ever felt so humiliated, put down and paranoid. I don't like going outside now cause I know I'm being spied on, it's awful.... to top it off they do not know what the children are doing withing the house, my front faces north and they are about 50ft to my right facing west in direct sight of my drive. All that's been said revolves around my drive area. And cause they have said they can't see if my doors open due to the position it means it can only be one of two neighbouring properties. One has children the others are around late 50s early 60s.
I've rang NSPCC who have said they have to report all calls but according to their policy THEY ASSESS if there's need to refer the call and also was advised that I need to call 101 and report it as malicious if there's no issues as they could keep doing it and then the police can take action.
This has totally gutted me to think that someone who doesn't know me at all has judged me on something that they have seen from driving past my house and from their house. And can only see my expressions and hand movements which look the same if I'm excited or agitated. And please who goes to town on their children in full view of the world constantly on a daily basis?? No one unless they genuinely do care about their children....
Just needed to vent this cause I've got myself so low stressing eventhough sw has dismissed it...
And if the accuser is reading this then thank you for making and already stressing mum more stressed!!!! Congratulations