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Forgetting pack-up.

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oneboy3girls · 09/03/2015 13:37

If your 14yr dd 'phoned to say she had forgotten her pack-up ,would you drive 8 miles to drop it off?Or would you let her learn? tia.

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Highlove · 09/03/2015 14:03

What's a pack up?

NickiFury · 09/03/2015 14:04

Yes I would.

Pack up - packed lunch.

CMOTDibbler · 09/03/2015 14:06

A 14 year old should remember, or be resourceful enough to borrow from friends

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stargirl1701 · 09/03/2015 14:06

I would not deliver it. She will not starve missing one meal on one day this week.

Gileswithachainsaw · 09/03/2015 14:08

Let her learn.

but knowing my dd if she's the same at 14 as she is now shed have forgotten it because she was trying to prove a point that she wouldn't forget it if she didn't put it by her bag.

so id let her learn

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 09/03/2015 14:09

I'd drop it off (and have done for 13 year old DS2), but only if convenient.

I admit I only opened the thread to see what a "pack up" was though .

squizita · 09/03/2015 14:14

I'd probably ring the school and explain I will send money in tomorrow but could she have school dinner today.
If it's rank, more fool her but she won't starve then.

I've had to arrange this a couple of times at work.

squizita · 09/03/2015 14:14

...as in working at a school.

MincePieDiet · 09/03/2015 14:18

I've never heard a packed lunch described as pack-up before so am curious is this a regional dialect thing? If so, without being too specific what area is it?

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 09/03/2015 14:22

Also had no idea what a pack up was!

I wouldn't have asked when I was 14 because I knew what the answer would be! I'd have gone without.

sunnydaylucy · 09/03/2015 14:23

I have a friend from the NE who calls it a pack up. I am NW and never heard it before I met her (we now call them pack up's!).
...and in answer to the OP yes, I would if it was convenient and was genuinely forgotten. My DD seems to forget more items since I started working from home

ScaryMaryHinge · 09/03/2015 14:26

I thought this was a typo for forgetting pick up, as in forgetting to pick the DCs up from school!

FWIW I wouldn't take her the lunch, one hungry afternoon and she won't forget again.

Highlove · 09/03/2015 14:27

Ah. Yes I opened the thread just to find out what it was! My DD is a baby so I'm not sure. When I was 14, I wouldn't have even bothered with the telephone call - it would have been an absolute no!

TheMoa · 09/03/2015 14:33

I don't think myvchild would even bother to phone, they'd just eat when they got home.

They'd certainly not expect a delivery service!

TheCowThatLaughs · 09/03/2015 14:50

I think they call it a pack up in Sheffield too, so maybe a Yorkshire thing?

NickiFury · 09/03/2015 14:51

I think I would do a favour for my child, just as I would anyone else I cared about, not just refuse just to teach them a lesson. I do think that using every opportunity to teach lessons to your kids can be detrimental. My parents never put themselves out for me, ever. They did for everyone though. Couldn't do enough for them. Teenagers notice that stuff and absorb it.

Obviously if I really couldn't, I wouldn't but I would certainly try to. Not more than once or twice though!

ivykaty44 · 09/03/2015 14:54

at 14 the teen can organise her own substitute lunch if she or he wants lunch after forgetting their pack up.

I wouldn't be driving to school to take the forgotten lunch

onepieceoflollipop · 09/03/2015 14:55

I would as a one off. And I think/hope my dd (oldest is 11) would appreciate it. I would have a low key discussion that it cost me x in terms of time and petrol and if I was working I wouldn't be able to do it. If it happened again (within a few months), no chance.

If my dd was secondary age, I would advise her to always have a £1 or £2 coin for such circumstances, so a snack could be bought by her.

Ragwort · 09/03/2015 14:55

No - unless I was genuinely passing the school door on the way to do something else. And it's a lot less than 8 miles to my child's school. A round trip of 16 miles is quite a commitment.

At our school the students can usually get a meal and then you pay the next day - or they just scrounge from each other. .

VivaLeBeaver · 09/03/2015 14:56

I say pack up as does everyone I know. Am in East midlands.

onepieceoflollipop · 09/03/2015 14:56

nickifury I agree with that :)

DamsonInDistress · 09/03/2015 14:57

Well I can't drive so no, I wouldnt be able to, and nor would I be inclined to even if I could. It's not about 'teaching them a lesson' as a deliberate act, rather them understanding that are natural consequences to actions and in this case for us, the consequence would be that they'd have to sort it out with the school themselves. And at 14 I'd expect them to be able to speak to the class teacher or the office or whoever and make the arrangements independently.

onepieceoflollipop · 09/03/2015 14:57

W Midlands here, we tend to say "packed lunch" or even just "sandwiches" (even if the packed lunch doesn't actually contain sandwiches!)

Breezy1985 · 09/03/2015 14:59

I'm in Lincoln and I've always called it a pack up.

bonkersLFDT20 · 09/03/2015 15:19

My 14 year old would not have phoned me to tell me such a thing as he knows I would not drive to school to drop lunch off.

If he ever phones me for a favour it will be because he really needs me to bail him out e.g. guitar for actual show not just rehearsal, GCSE course work.

I work at home now, but have only done so for the last year so he had learn to take responsibility for his things.

I like to remember to give him his lunch money, but it's his responsibility as well if he knows he's run out. He has friends who can lend him money and he lends money to his friends. All part of maturing.

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