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Why isn't my baby doing anything??!

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BossWitch · 22/02/2015 21:25

She's 9 months tomorrow. She can sit up for ages perfectly happily, she is a very adept roller (she can get to anywhere in the room she wants to by wiggling herself sideways on and then rolling to it!) and can make da da da sounds. There is a bit of a hint of a 'b' sound and she sometimes goes 'fffzzz'.

BUT THAT'S IT!!

I just read a 'your baby at 9 months' article; there was mention on starting to walk soon and "mama" "dada" type babbling. Mine's not even crawling yet! And no hint of a "mm" sound. Oh, and no teeth.

Shitting myself now. Did I make a broken one?

(This is mostly lighthearted. But seriously, wtaf is my beautiful, darling daughter up to?)

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BikeRunSki · 22/02/2015 21:29

She sounds fine. She's doing stuff. She'll do more stuff in her own time. Some babies don't crawl. Some walk at 10 months, others at 18 or more. DS hardly said a word at 2 - by 2.4 we couldn't keep him quiet. She just hasn't read the article.

girliefriend · 22/02/2015 21:29

She sounds like she is doing lots!!

Mine was the same and then at 10 months decided to crawl and at 11 months walked, she didn't really talk till she was 2yo!! Is now a great big 9yo and funnily enough can walk and talk fine [grin

Enjoy every second, they grow up so fast

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BossWitch · 22/02/2015 21:38

Well that's me a little bit reassured. Still, we might be having stern words tomorrow about her lack of progress...

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ArcheryAnnie · 22/02/2015 21:45

Mark Rylance, currently starring in Wolf Hall, didn't speak until he was six. I don't think you need to worry just yet!

McKitten84 · 22/02/2015 21:49

Don't worry, ds didn't crawl until 10 months, walk at 14 months, at 19 months says mama and dada but nothing else. They all develop in their own time x

MrsNuckyThompson · 22/02/2015 21:53

Careful what you wish for! She sounds relatively stationary, content and quiet. Perfect!

My DS crawled at 9 months and was so utterly peed off before hand at not being able to move that it seemed a blessed relief!

AppleSnapple · 22/02/2015 21:53

I know this is lighthearted but I do hate these threads- she's sitting, rolling, babbling... What more do you want??! What about the babies who are doing none of the above? Enjoy your beautiful girl for who she is and please don't feel she has to follow every line in some silly book or website. It's a guide. Life would be so very boring if they were all the same.

Sorry- I know you were being all light and lovely, I apologise for my strop. It just hits a nerve.

mewkins · 22/02/2015 21:53

Ds is 8mo this week. He can do very little! He has rolled a couple of times (typically off a bed), can sit up but still a bit wobbly and nowhere close to crawling. Hence he is grumpy 80% of the time. I shouldn't compare but dd was crawling confidentally and cruising around furniture by now.

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BossWitch · 22/02/2015 21:53

On a (slightly) serious note, she's going to start nursery in 6 weeks, and while I'm genuinely quite happy to let her doodle along at her own pace, will the nursery start keeping tabs on her lack of development?

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BertieBotts · 22/02/2015 21:55

Walking "soon" at nine months?

No, nursery are just there to look after them, not hothouse them, don't worry :)

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BossWitch · 22/02/2015 21:56

Oh Apple, I'm sorry - I didn't mean to hurt anyone's feelings. Just a tiny bit worried but at the same time knowing that it's all bollocks really.

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ElphabaTheGreen · 22/02/2015 21:59

DS1's development was exactly the same as McKitten's DS.

Now, at 2.8y, he can direct us to and from nursery, which is a good few miles from home ('left here, mummy', 'straight ahead here', 'right to go home, straight ahead to go to Tesco').

greensnail · 22/02/2015 22:01

My dd1 did the lining herself up then rolling across the room thing, it was impressively effective at getting her to where she wanted to be. She crawled at 11 months and walked at 16 months. She's 6 now and doing well at school, she's always been a bit behind where the books say she should be on gross motor skills but she can walk, run, ride a bike, swim etc so no problems, she just does things in her own time.

TSSDNCOP · 22/02/2015 22:03

Chill Boss. Mini TSS didn't do much at all for ages But he had the look of someone planning devil deeds so we worried.

Nursery said "don't worry" he's plotting a life of evil he'll get there.

7 years later and life is a white knuckle ride where we frequently wonder what silence sounds like.

A word of caution. It's probably wind, but very quite likely the formulation of evil.

AppleSnapple · 22/02/2015 22:04

No, I'm sorry!! This isn't the thread for my stropping! Genuinely though, as someone who has experienced various positions on the spectrum of normal... (!) nursery won't be at all bothered that your little one is or isn't doing age appropriate things/ they'll rejoice like you will when she crawls, they'll make you feel like she's a genius (if they're doing their job right!) you may also hear about things that she's doing that you hadn't particularly thought about but they think is advanced, or what have you. Sounds like she's moving nicely along the right track so do enjoy it all and try not to worry too much about what other babies are doing (although I know it's hard!)

OccamsLadyshave · 22/02/2015 22:05

I was the most neurotic paranoid mother in the world, reading every book and ticking off lists of things because I couldn't believe I'd made a real baby that worked. I think I counted her toes every day for the first two weeks because I kept waking up thinking she didn't have enough / had too many!

Even I didn't bat an eyelid at her not crawling at 9 months. Also IME they don't gradually do a bit of crawling, just going a few inches at first, they go from not crawling at all to crawling the length of the landing and heading straight for the top of the stairs so you have to leap off the loo mid-poo to catch them. Or is that just my DD?

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Lonz · 22/02/2015 23:23

She sounds fine, like she's doing all the things she should be. Moving on her own and sitting. These "your baby at __months" are a rough guideline, don't go by them word for word. Every baby is different.

My sister walked at 9 months. I didn't walk for ages, they even thought I wouldn't walk, ha! o.O

As long as you're encouraging her to advance her skills when she's ready to, you're doing the best! Try not to worry yourself with these silly guidelines that like to make you panic. You will probably notice in the next few months that she'll start to do more as she has free reign now!

BattlingOnAgain · 23/02/2015 12:47

She sounds perfect. My dd who's 11 months has only just mastered crawling and is now trying to take her first steps. Don't stress. I was the neurotic mum who phoned up the hv convinced there was something wrong with her, all babies develop at their own pace

Allstoppedup · 23/02/2015 12:53

She sounds absolutely fine! The internet can terrify you that your child is behind. Most do it in their own time and any legitimate concerns are usually picked up at the year check. Your LO will pick it up at her own pace. They really are so varied with when and what they do.

My DS is 14 months and only has 3 words!

So far, the only thing he's been 'advanced' in according to internet milestones is throwing blocks with violent enthusiasm. Deep joy!

Allstoppedup · 23/02/2015 12:55

Ooh, also, I read it on here now and I think it really applies to a lot of the basic milestones!

You've never looked at a grown adult and thought, wow, they walk really well, I bet they started really early!

LostMyBaubles · 23/02/2015 12:57

Not read the full thread buuut
your dd is doing well imo.

Shes only 9months
my 19 month old ds is yet to say mama or dada.
In fact hes never said anything

jeee · 23/02/2015 13:00

When pfb was 6 months old every other mother at the baby group was talking about reading - specifically, how their baby loved being read to. At that stage in pfb's development the only interest she had in books was eating them. I went home from the baby group and cried for a couple of hours a little bit.

Fortunately, I didn't really have internet access when pfb was small... or else I'm sure I'd have found even more to worry about.

jeee · 23/02/2015 13:02

And none of my children spoke a word before their second birthday - in fact none of them even babbled as a baby.

AnneofCheese · 23/02/2015 13:06

I remember taking DS to one of those 'sensory' baby classes when he was a few months old. One of the parts of the class was 'tummy time'. I'd never even heard of it! Poor DS just flopped on the floor pathetically, his head dragging on the ground, while all the other babies raised their heads like wee turtles and looked around. Fucking tummy time. I rushed out and spent a fortune on a stupid ladybird tummy time thing which DS HAAAATED and vommed over it so much I couldn't even ebay it.

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