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changing a nappy on a bus

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nappyaddict · 17/02/2015 08:41

Would you change a nappy on a bus (either wet or dirty) if baby was crying? bus is an hourly bus and the journey is 90 mins.

should one ask the other passengers if they mind? if you were asked and did mind would you say so or would you say no out of politeness?

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wakeywakeyteaandcakey · 17/02/2015 08:43

No I wouldn't mind and yes I'd do it. It's a baby. We were all one and you can't keep them in a dirty nappy causing a rash because a few strangers might disapprove. Change your baby and if any rude person gives you looks make sure you send them back!

ConfusedInBath · 17/02/2015 08:50

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TeenageMutantNinjaTurtle · 17/02/2015 08:55

I doubt I'd ask. But I would explain and apologise. 90 mins is way to long to leave a baby in a dirty nappy. Wee is a different matter and I'd change her before we left and possibly put on a larger size, wet nappies shouldn't be an issue unless they are totally full.

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Cleanbean · 17/02/2015 09:01

No absolutely not. A wet one can be left on and if it was a dirty one that couldn't wait I would get off the bus.

ArcheryAnnie · 17/02/2015 09:04

No. Most modern nappies won't cause a rash if not changed for an hour. It isn't fair on your fellow passengers.

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Andcake · 17/02/2015 09:08

only for poo but then would probably find a way to do it v discretely - apologise to otehr passengers maybe find a spare seat - but the baby woudl have to have pooed right at the beginning of the ride.

Definitely not for wee. For wee basically if you always put a new nappy on before you leave the house (which I thought was common practice) or check before getting the bus back it should never be that full.

GaryShitpeas · 17/02/2015 09:10

Hell Yeah I'd do it. Couldn't give two fucks if some strangers disapprove

My baby's way more important to me than appeasing some tutters

BeansInBoots · 17/02/2015 09:16

I wouldn't ask but I would apologise 'so sorry, I'm going to have to change this nappy, won't take a second!'

I wouldn't change a wee unless it was literally leaking..

MavisG · 17/02/2015 10:12

Yes of course. Open window, be quick as poss, apology of the Of course you understand type. There is no way a child should have to sit in shit. (& if wet only it's not that smelly for other passengers so no big deal(

Thurlow · 17/02/2015 10:22

Not unless it was an absolute emergency ie leaking everywhere. In which case it might be quite apparent to everyone that something needs to be done. And I would probably apologise to the people nearby and make some sort of joke/comment about how it will be better in the long run for everyone if I change it quickly.

I don't agree with the "we were all babies once" and "its just natural" argument.

I wee and poo. That's natural. I still don't do it in front of other people.

It's easy to get inured to the smell of your own baby's nappies and start treating them as normal, everyday things. They really, really aren't to everyone else though.

ArcheryAnnie · 17/02/2015 10:23

appeasing some tutters

So you are fine with stinking up an enclosed public space shared with other people? And dismiss anyone who doesn't want to sit in your pfb's stink as "tutters"? Even if those people, eg, get travel sick (a big chunk of the population) or have sensitive noses (eg if pregnant)?

You are going to bring up the most spoilt child alive, with that attitude.

shumway · 17/02/2015 10:26

Think I would tut.

TeWiSavesTheDay · 17/02/2015 10:27

I definitely would if it was poo,sitting in poo for 90mins would be awful for them (if it was ny dc their bums would be bleeding from nappy rash after half an hour)
I wouldn't get off the bus because they are so infrequent.

I wouldn't ask because what are you going to do if they say no? But I would say something aloud that made it clear I dithered and was sorry about the smell etc.

Kerberos · 17/02/2015 10:30

No! That's vile. I wouldn't change it on the bus no! I'd get off, sort child out and get on the next one.

NeedABumChange · 17/02/2015 10:33

No, how nasty. An hour wouldn't make a difference. I don't understand why people think baby shit is anymore acceptable than adult shit. Shit should not be seen on a bus or in the library or on restaurant tables. I don't care that the person it came out of it small it makes no difference.

How would you wash your hands afterwards too? Or would you just spread poo crumbs all over public transport?

Notso · 17/02/2015 10:43

Great thread for your username NeedABumChange

I would change a dirty nappy. It wouldn't be my finest hour but if mine had pooed then everyone would smell it anyway and they get sore really quickly.

mayfridaycomequickly · 17/02/2015 10:44

Depends - bus where you're at the front and on show - probably not (my ds could sit in poo for a long while though without getting nappy rash in Asda cheapo nappies)

If it was a coach and I was tucked away on a double seat on my own - yes.

MirandaWest · 17/02/2015 10:46

To the people suggesting that you get off the bus and that an hours not long to wait - the person might be travelling to an appointment.

I'd just get on with it as quickly as I could

88blueshoes · 17/02/2015 10:51

Not if it could possibly be avoided. But if there was really no other option (e.g. if it was dark, raining, in an area I didn't know with nowhere to stop, and the baby was screaming and clearly in discomfort) then yes. I wouldn't ask the other passengers, but I would be very apologetic.

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nappyaddict · 20/02/2015 18:38

Sorry totally forgot about this.

The bus is very rural. Ie if you got off there would literally be nothing to do for an hour. Those saying get off or that they would tut would you really rather someone got off in the cold and rain in the middle of nowhere for an hour? Or the alternative which is listening to the baby scream for 90 minutes?

Also what about if it was the last bus? they didn't have any more bus fare? they were going to an appointment or a connecting train?

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AGirlCalledBoB · 20/02/2015 18:43

I would if I absolutely had to, if the baby was screaming or leaking.

It's not nice but neither is the alternative. I would try and do it as quickly and discreetly as possible. And the pp who said about the smell. To be fair it would smell on the baby. At least if you change it, you can put it in a fragranced nappy sack and passengers won't have to
listen to a screaming baby.

SelinaG · 09/03/2015 21:25

I always said I'd never do it but a few weeks ago I had to do it :-(

My 3yr old wears terry squares if they aren't changed quickly he gets distressed, we had over an hour to go till we got home and he was soaking, I suggested to him I change the nappy on the bus but he refused to cooperate.

Once another mum sat nearby realised I wanted to change him she said she had no objections and others also said I should just carry on. I did tell them he really didn't want it done but I'm going to have to do it and will be as quick as I can.

Admittedly he didn't like it but it must have taken no more than 5 mins from start to finish.

Linstock · 14/03/2015 08:27

I think what I did would depend how the child was coping at being wet, if I thought they could last another hour I'd leave it otherwise I'd politely ask others then if all was ok I'd change.

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