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Oh dear, OH will not be happy!!

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namechangeafternamechange · 09/02/2015 20:52

My OH is due back from work soon and is going to be mightily pissed off to find a 3 year old in our bed and I don't know what to do!!

Before bedtime tonight ds and I cleared up his toys n his bedroom. As he was running towards his bed (big wooden single) he tripped over a stray mega blok and hit the side of his head on his bed (ouch). He hit hard enough to leave a bruise on his temple but didn't make a fuss so I read his story, he went to sleep...happy days.

20 minutes ago tho he started crying. I go up and have a flippin heart attack when his bed is empty. I follow the crying and find him nicely tucked up in my bed, saying he had a headache. I gave him calpol, brufen and went to move him back to his own room and he was having NONE of it. I'm a bit to say that, instead of insisting on him moving, I left him there thinking I could move him later. I know full well that's not going to happen, he'll just wake and have a 2 hour tantrum (talking from experience) if I try to move him

OH is not going to be happy

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Pikkewyn · 09/02/2015 20:53

Tell him DS needs careful watching overnight after a head bump as he has a sore head.

pepperpigmustdie · 09/02/2015 20:54

Why will he not be happy?

scratchandsniff · 09/02/2015 20:55

If it doesn't happen too often can't he just suck it up this time? He can sleep in DS bed. If he banged his head and was complaining of a headache maybe its best that he's in with you in case if of concussion or feeling poorly in the night.

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Guitargirl · 09/02/2015 20:56

Well, it happens doesn't it? He had an accident and is finding it comforting to be in mum and dad's bed.

Is there going to be some massive back story now to explain why your OH is going to be so pissed off?

Elfina · 09/02/2015 20:56

Which bit won't have happy with?!

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 09/02/2015 20:57

Maybe OH is not DS's dad? I find it hard to think of any proper reason that someone would be "mightily pissed off" in this scenario. Poor DS, I hope he's ok OP.

PurpleWithRed · 09/02/2015 20:57

do you think he really has a headache now or is just putting it on? I'd be a bit cautious of a DS who develops a real headache a little while after banging his head.

LoofahVanDross · 09/02/2015 20:58

I should have thought his dad would also want him close if he has hurt himself. I don't understand why he would be pissed off?

CynthiaDelgado · 09/02/2015 21:01

Well my DH regularky wakes up in bed with 3 small boys while I've tucked myself up in an empty bed all alone. Everyone's a winner! It doesn't bother him. He doesn't even notice.

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 09/02/2015 21:01

Are you genuinely worried about his reaction? If my DD banged her head and had a headache I would definitely want to keep an eye on her.

Discobugsacha · 09/02/2015 21:03

Why would he be pissed off? Wouldn't he want him close if he has bumped his head?

Zucker · 09/02/2015 21:04

Odd that your child has hurt themselves and climbed into your bed to comfort themselves, that your reaction is worrying that your OH is going to be cross.

GettingFiggyWithIt · 09/02/2015 21:04

My dh is not happy every day in that case...oh hang on

StampyShortnose · 09/02/2015 21:05

I cannot see why anyone would be 'unhappy' that an unwell child is in bed with their mum? Even if 'OH' isn't the child's father surely he could kip on the sofa or in the kid's bed for one night?

Don't get this thread at all tbh.

Why would your Oh be annoyed?

JuniperTisane · 09/02/2015 21:10

Its always a gamble in this house as exactly what time during the night ds1 creeps into our bed and which one of us wakes up hanging off the side of the bed, gives up and spends the rest of the night in his bed instead . I thought that was fairly standard for preschoolers?

Mrscog · 09/02/2015 21:13

Why would he be pissed off? To be honest that's a bit strange - DH would be delighted! DS is a good sleeper in his own bed so we don't want to rock the boat, but we're both waiting for the perfect excuse to have him with us for the night! We had a power cut a few weeks ago and ended up with him in with us, it was lovely :)

WilsonWilsonWoman · 09/02/2015 21:13

Agree with the pp's wondering why he'll be "mightily pissed off"? My DH always thinks it's super cute when he's come home to find dd tucked up on his side of the bed.

pepperpigmustdie · 09/02/2015 21:18

Agree wilson

If dd wakes up it's a race between myself and dp who gets in the spare bed. The lovely cool, amazing mattress from heaven.

NerrSnerr · 09/02/2015 21:18

You need to be keeping an eye on him anyway if he has a headache after bumping his temple.

cheeseburgerandfries · 09/02/2015 21:21

My DH doesn't like sleeping with our DD in our bed. It's too hot, there's not enough room for the 3 of us etc. I know he finds it annoying and I don't tend to make a habit of it. As much he doesn't like it he is never annoyed with me if I have brought her into the bed and certainly would never be "mightily pissed off" to find her there.

Especially in the circumstances that you've written, he would be concerned and be happy to keep in the bed with us so we could keep a closer eye through the night.

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namechangeafternamechange · 09/02/2015 21:22

Ok guys just to be clear...there is no back story to this at all other than we both agreed that our bed is our bed and YES he is ds's daddy can't actually believe that was thrown in there and he will be relegated to the sofa.

As it happens he has just come in and wasn't at all fussed about that, was just worried about ds's head!!

I was just worried that, as we had agreed not to let ds into our bed, he would feel like I'd undermined him somehow. But that's not the case

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LovesBooks · 09/02/2015 21:27

Well you didn't exactly paint your oh in the best light really did you op?

Most dads would not care in the slightest if their child was hurt and in their bed. So that's why someone thought maybe your oh was not the child's father because a good father I would find it hard to believe would be pissed off because a 3 year old was in their bed . Just out of curiosity what would you have done if he did come in pissed off?

StarCrash · 09/02/2015 21:34

Don't worry op I understand, my dp doesn't like the idea of our DC in our bed either, you're not the only one! I'm sure you knew deep down he wouldn't mind in this circumstance, as I'm sure my DH wouldn't - but not everyone wants a toddler in their bed all night! Despite this my DH is a fantastic dad, as I'm sure yours is. Hope ds feels better in the morning.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 09/02/2015 21:35

Nice bit of back-pedalling there OP

LovesBooks · 09/02/2015 21:38

That's what I mean, I mean most people don't want toddlers in their bed but in the circumstances op has why would be worried about your oh being pissed off? I think op worded it wrong. It made it seem she was frightened of his reaction

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