Oh dear, OH will not be happy!!

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My OH is due back from work soon and is going to be mightily pissed off to find a 3 year old in our bed and I don't know what to do!!

Before bedtime tonight ds and I cleared up his toys n his bedroom. As he was running towards his bed (big wooden single) he tripped over a stray mega blok and hit the side of his head on his bed (ouch). He hit hard enough to leave a bruise on his temple but didn't make a fuss so I read his story, he went to sleep...happy days.

20 minutes ago tho he started crying. I go up and have a flippin heart attack when his bed is empty. I follow the crying and find him nicely tucked up in my bed, saying he had a headache. I gave him calpol, brufen and went to move him back to his own room and he was having NONE of it. I'm a bit to say that, instead of insisting on him moving, I left him there thinking I could move him later. I know full well that's not going to happen, he'll just wake and have a 2 hour tantrum (talking from experience) if I try to move him

OH is not going to be happy

It's going to be a long old 18 years plus for you if you get yourself in a tizzy second guessing yourself in relation to your child and your OH's reaction over such small things.

What's rhe opposite of a drip feed called when the op tries to retract info after they get a unanimous YABU..,

Your OP made it sound like your OH was unreasonable, controlling and unpleasant and that you were either scared of his reaction to a perfectly normal occurrence or that you put your OH's needs before that of your child.

That is why you had the responses you did.

Tortoising, Jean

Bahaha "tortoising"

I'm another one saying keep an eye on that headache. Both of mine get in my bed when poorly or scared, doesn't affect their day to day sleep at all.

Jean did I ask AIBU? I wasn't aware I had posted there

Crikey sometimes I wonder about the ladies on here. Nowhere in OP did I say my OH AND FATHER OF DS was abusive, intimidating, scary, unreasonable, controlling or unpleasant. It always seems to be the default assumption that someone's OH must be all of the above if the DP dares to suggest a slight concern of their reaction to a situation.

What I did say is that he wouldn't be happy that ds has made his own way into our bed and I hadn't really tried to get him back to his own bed. I was wrong, and I'm happy to admit that I perhaps read the situation wrong.

And for the record, unless my lb is really unwell, he will not ever be 'sleeping' in my bed again!!! Good god he's tiny but demanded 3/4 of the bed and was all arms and legs, terrible night's sleep!!!

(and his head is fine )

not sure why everyone is giving OP a hard time over this, yes I would be concerned and consider if unreasonable if her DH really had a major strop over DS being in their bed after an accident, but in normal circumstances this is nothing to be apologetic about. as a child of divorce myself I can without hesitation it is really important that you don't put your relationship on the back burner after you have kids (unless it is abusive etc). part of that is keeping your boundaries as a couple. it doesn't mean you're a bad parent - if your relationship suffers then your children suffer too in the end.