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Do you let your children come into your bedroom in the mornings? Feel a bit mean, but not sure why

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Lsmum · 29/09/2006 12:10

This might seem a bit trivial, but do many of you let your children come into your bedroom & wake you up in the mornings? I've never let ds do this (he's 6) because dh has never been a good sleeper and I've suffered from insomnia on and off since having ds, so basically having ds come in to our room early in the mornings doesn't have a lot of appeal, IYSWIM!

Having said that, I'm not the type of person to lie in and I'm usually up by about 7.30 - the latest I ever sleep in these days is around 8.00am. Ds usually gets up around 6.30 and then watches some kids' tv and gets himself a drink, lets the cat out & plays with his toys, etc. until I get up. He seems happy to do this and so far hasn't come into our bedroom, but does this seem 'mean' in any way? It's just that I always used to go into my parents' room when I was a kid and I know that friends of ours let their kids get into bed with them as soon as they wake up - never mind how early it is! Basically I'm just not very good at coping without enough sleep, which is why I have tried to enforce this. Does anyone else feel the same way? I'd love to have ds come and jump in with us in the mornings, but every ounce of sleep just seems to be vital these days...

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Blondilocks · 29/09/2006 23:02

DD gets up & gets her own breakfast then watches tv & reads for a bit. Sometimes she'll come in for a hug but she's been told not to do that before 8am.

Thomcat · 29/09/2006 23:11

blondilocks - how old is she?

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brimfull · 29/09/2006 23:30

I think what you're doing is perfectly reasonable seeing as you need your sleep.If it's the early morning cuddles you feel are missing why don't you tell him what time he can come in.5-10 minutes before you need to get up perhaps.
That last hour of sleep makes all the difference so don't feel guilty.

harrisey · 30/09/2006 00:27

What I have realised formreading this is - how many of you have a tv/video/dvd/playstation in the bedroom?
We only have one of al htese things in the lounge, they are banned from bedrooms (otherwise dd1 would play on the cbeebies website on the chin all day evey day.

izzybiz · 30/09/2006 10:16

My Dd is only 2 so she has a gate on her bedroom door, when she gets up she stands at the gate calling us. I then get up and get her and take her in our bed for half an hour or so.

My Ds is 13 now but hes never come in in the mornings, he was one that used to go downstairs and put the tv on, he would turn the sound right down and just sit on the sofa. He was older than 2 though!

Twiglett · 30/09/2006 10:19

my 5.5 year old comes in whenever he wants to .. might be in the middle of the night (about once every couple of months) but definitely he checks to see if we're in bed when he gets up and if we are he clambers in with us

DD (2.5) has to be picked out of her cot .. although she'll happily stay there wittering to herself .. and also comes into bed with us

BUT .. my children don't get up till after 8am .. 7.30 at the earliest

hulababy · 30/09/2006 10:25

DD (4y5m) comes into our room every morning she wakes before us, whatever time. Normally it is to use our toilet in the ensuite (why I don't know as the other bathroom is closer). Then if earlish she crawls into the middle, snuggles down for cuddles and maybe another sleep. If later she comes in with kisses waking us up

Most school days we have to wake her up though!

hulababy · 30/09/2006 10:26

harrisey - we have a TV (linked to Sky) in ou room. DH and I very occasionally might watch TV in bed. Other times it might be used is at a weekend when DD might watch TV in our bed whilst I shower, etc. Since she started school it is being used less.

I won't let DD have a TV in her room though.

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Lsmum · 30/09/2006 22:24

harrisey - my ds doesn't have a tv, computer or playstation in his bedroom either as I wouldn't allow it. We have a tv in the lounge room and one in our bedroom which dh & I only watch occasionally. Ds won't be getting anything like that in his room until he's a teenager.

The only thing ds has access to besides the tv/dvd player, is our computer - so he can play his games on it. Dh would love to get him a playstation or an XBox but that won't be happening for a few years either!! Plenty of time for that kind of thing in the future - he only turned six a couple of months ago.

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alex8 · 30/09/2006 22:30

What did you do when your son was 2, 3, 4? I'm impressed you could keep him in his room at that age. My son was out and about as soon as he could climb out of his cot. He sometimes plays on his own in his room in the morning with persausion but mostly wants to annoy us. I would love the extra sleep. Although I have to admit I love his little face when he comes in all sleepily and gives me a cuddle.

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Lsmum · 30/09/2006 23:15

Hi Alex, to be honest ds was never a climber as a toddler and loved his sleep, so he stayed in his cot til he was 4! It was a fairly large cot though, so he still had room to move. When he was little he used to call out to me and I would go and get him, but for the last couple of years he's been in his own bed and has been able to operate the tv and vcr/dvd for quite some time now.

As soon as I felt he was old enough, I asked him to just turn the tv on in the mornings and get himself a drink/play with his toys and wait until mummy got up. Since then, I guess he's just known to amuse himself for a while in the mornings and not come in to our room before we're awake. Of course if he's sick or something then it's different, but otherwise he understands that mummy & daddy just need a bit more sleep. It's been a lot easier since he's gotten older in that respect, he seems to like having the house to himself for a while when he wakes up

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Blondilocks · 01/10/2006 22:35

She's 8. Although most days it's irrelevant as I'm up at 6 to go to work.

Blondilocks · 01/10/2006 22:37

We only have a tv in the living room at the mo, computer is in my bedroom. Not keen on the idea of tv/computer in bedroom for little children - maybe when she's 14/15 but we shall see!

wrinklytum · 01/10/2006 23:24

Mine always come into our bed every morning.dd usually at 5.30-6ish for a good bf and ds 6.30-7.00 where he bounces around on the bed/plays with his cars/"Reads" his toy rabbit a story(pretends to ,hes only nearly 3 and sometimes its really funny listening)until he can persuade a bleary eyed mummy to read him one.

I dont think you are being mean,I wish ds would stay in his room but really cant ignore the yells of "Mummy,Daddy,Baby,Are you there?Its wakey wakey time!!!!" TBH sounds like youve got it sussed.Oh how I would kill for a lie in!

Skribble · 02/10/2006 00:21

Mine are trained to go downstairs, I don't think they are missing anything. I am grumpy and horrible in the morning anyway. I think the kids realised it is much more fun munching cereal while watching kids tv then trying to get in to my bed .

DS 9 gets his own breakfast and gets dressed before I get up. Lovely .

As for cuddling we do that in the evenings on our huge sofa and sometimes on weekend mornings kids will come back upstairs at a reasonable hour.

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