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is my behaviour strange or is anyone else like this

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bubbly1973 · 20/09/2006 22:09

i have 2 boys, my youngest is 14weeks and yet again i find myself worrying over the fact that i want to be the first to see him do things

i thought after my first child this obsessive behaviour would have gone but it hasnt

i wont let my inlaws look after him incase they give him his first taste of food, (fully breastfed at moment but coming up to food stage)
or his first taste in chocolate or some other sweet food that somehow they insist they should try because they 'want it'

i remember when ds1 was 6mths old and we were over there at xmas, my fil really wound me up because even though he knows how i feel about it he told me he let him have some chocolate to taste and he loved it (i later found out he was winding me up but thats not the point, it didnt help me having a crap xmas night)

i know i should feel like this but cant help it, until i have done all his first's i dont want them to have him because they will do as they like anyway even if i say no

they are not really the problem, perhaps its me, when ds2 first came home from hospital, he was in his car seat when neighbour knocked the door to visit, i had to quickly take ds2 out of carseat so as i was the 'first' to hold him in my arms in my house

i had to be the first person he laughed at (although i am not too bothered if he laughed at dh or ds1 but it cant be anyone else)

i am the first person to give him gripewater/calpol etc so i can see his little face

please either tell me im not the only one like this or tell me that you also do similiar

i can understand many mothers want to see there childs first step etc etc but i seem to have gone to the extreme and its something i just cant let go, its like an obsession

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Twiglett · 24/09/2006 08:40

Sorry I think it is obsessional behaviour and I would seek help to get it under control

There are bits that are nice to be the first to see but they're not crucial / important

I also think you need to get DH to have a strong word with inlaws because winding you up about your kids is totally OUT OF ORDER

UniSarah · 24/09/2006 21:25

1st to deal with a nappy overload in public? 1st to be covered in sick and pooh at once ? 1st to be covered in snot when LO sneezes and their head empties? 1st to spend all night up with a baby who won;t sleep coz their cutting teeth hurt? 1st to look after baby who is full of beans while you are throwing up and ill?
Not all 1sts are fun or cute. Sounds like you want the nice firsts , share some of them with your dp and others and they might deal with some of the less nice 1sts when they happen as well.

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