"Oh never mind, you can always have another baby" ARGHH!!!...

[cocopop]

Sorry, this is probably going to sound like such a rant but why do people keep saying this to me?

I have a lovely ds who is 17 months old and am now 5 months pg with #2. We found out last week that this is another boy and my dh and I were both delighted.

We're very happy and feel that another little boy will complete our family but everytime we tell friends and even relatives that we're going to have another son they have the same reaction - "oh that's a shame" "never mind" "you can always have another baby". Some people are a bit more sensitive and try not to look disappointed for us but you can see that they are. What is wrong with people? All I care about is that this baby is healthy, what's so good about having one of each? Why does it matter?

Has anyone else experienced this?

I must be weird. When I learn that someone has just had another baby, my reaction is always "Oh wow, how wonderful!" 2 boys? "Wow!", 2 girls? "Wow!", one of each? "Wow!", or, as a friend had last year, 4th boy in a row? "Wow!". How can it be anything other than "Wow!"?

It drove me mildly potty when everyone assumed that I was hoping for a girl after ds (I was certain I was having another son, and thought that phenomenally exciting), and after no2 turned out to be a girl, MIL said to me - at every single visit - that I would't be having any more now that I had one of each, there was no need. *&$£%&! What business was it of her's?!

Have DD and expecting again but the latest one i got was 'would'nt it be nice a gentle mans famiy' meaning would'nt it be nice a boy and a girl! Granted i would like a boy but this little cutie is going to be a girl and i dont mind one bit. Its better then none, I love them both very much. If i am destined to have girls so let it be.

I've got a (adorable) 3yr old DS and found out 5 wks ago that I've got another (adorable) DS in my bump. I was in shock(rather than disappointed) for a day or so.I thought the nausea,exhaustion and "differant" pg symptoms signalled a girl!{naive emoticon]What I expected came from the fact that I have a brother 2 yrs younger than me so it's my norm.(I also have a much younger sister so I'm hoping to be back on an ante-natel thread in about eight yrs again-another norm!)

I digress. When I told a local new mum (very pink mummy with very girly pink baby IYKWIM) that I was having a boy she replied "oh you'll obviously be having a third cos you didn't get a girl". Why does anyone thing that they're clever for getting a baby of a particular flavour!!!!!

It is just one of those million of things that people say that are really annoying, but you either let it wash over you or have a good old rant on MN.

TBH the only thing about my two that I know will be the same is their gender. I'm not going to be dissapointed if DS2 turns out to be a chilled,funny,clever little boy like his big bro. But no-one ever asks you if you're disappointed that neither of your kids have an ASBO!