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should I /shouldn't I leave dd??

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lemondriz · 05/06/2014 19:12

I am about to get a stoning I'm sure as this is a remarkably selfish request... But here goes!!

Dd is 8 months also have ds 3y
Dd is breastfed fed but won't take a bottle ever she is on 3 meals a day.plus snacks and will drink.a.little from.a cup .. I have a trip to London planned for my birthday We will be going early afternoon saterday and back for dinner Sunday.. I planned to tank her up.before we go leave lots of dairy rich foods with my mum and hoping ones she is milk hungry enough will mayb take a bottle

Before the stoning just a little background info I have been suffering from pnd between my partner and I we have
Had the mother of all years, Inc hyperemesis during pregnancy, moving, death of my sister, the worst xmas known to.man due to illness dd and dh rushed to hospital several times within in says of each other and I have not had a night out at all since new year 2012-2013. And dh and I haven't spent an evening alone since then either.. There is more but I.will leave it at that... Needless to say I really REALLY need a break just one heavenly night a bath with out an audiences of children a lie in and maybe get to know the man that lives in our house and fathers my children.....

Please please any advice no matter how brutal would be appreciated the alternative is taking them with and doing kid stuff so not all is lost.. Butty sanity is solely reliant on getting a break and I have been dreaming of it for a year and half

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ladyblablah · 05/06/2014 19:14

I don't see the problem?!?
Unless your mum is a violent alcoholic or something?

Slipshodsibyl · 05/06/2014 19:15

I am sure she will be absolutely fine for such a short time. I hope you have a lovely trip.

lljkk · 05/06/2014 19:15

GO. You deserve time for yourself. Go Go Go. Your mum loves them & will do her best (is generally competent?). Your baby will be fine.

GO.

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AppleSnapple · 05/06/2014 19:17

You need this and you deserve this! Go and have a wonderful time. Your dd will be totally fine. Enjoy!

littlegreengloworm · 05/06/2014 19:18

Totally go, No one would tell you otherwise. You deserve a lot more after all your have been through.

Also be kind to yourself a bit more often

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lemondriz · 05/06/2014 19:21

It's more the bottle thing she will probably not have more than one small cup of milk the entire time I am gone and she also wakes up for feeds every 2-4 hours I have no.idea what to suggest my mum does in the night as she usually screams when dh tries to give a bottle at night and become hysterical

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Pregnantagain7 · 05/06/2014 19:22

100% go! You need a break she will be fine, and the morning you get back book your next couple activity even if it's just going out for dinner in 2 months time. There is only so much you can do before you need a break. Enjoy!:)

StealthPolarBear · 05/06/2014 19:23

Lol I thought you meant leave for good. GO. and have a great time

MrsDiesel · 05/06/2014 19:23

Sounds like you have got it all planned well.

Enjoy yourself Grin

lljkk · 05/06/2014 19:24

is your mum willing to make it work?

At 8months she might be a lot happier with a no-spill beaker than with a bottle. Give it a try.

MrsDiesel · 05/06/2014 19:26

Just saw your update. Your mum may be in for a tough night but ad long as she is prepared for that then you don't nerd to think about it.

I remember stressing so much before I had an evening out and my lo woke up, took his dummy and went back to sleep. Let your mum break the routine for one night. If baby wakes up and gets really upset she could take her downstairs for a little bit and distract her, push her in the pram, rock her etc. They will manage fine.

defineme · 05/06/2014 19:27

If your mum is prepared for what will be a tricky night thrn go. You absolutely deserve it.

LadyNexus · 05/06/2014 19:27

If it was going to be for a couple of months I could see the problem (although maybe not, you have had a shitter of a year!)

Enjoy your well deserved break op :) It's very easy to feel guilty over things like this, but I'd say in your case you really really don't have to!

( I'm jealous of your trip btw Wink)

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lemondriz · 05/06/2014 19:28

Yer have tried the beaker she will drink a little in the day but the night feeds r the problem she will just freak out I'm sure

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geekaMaxima · 05/06/2014 19:29

Go! But do bring a breast pump as you're likely to get pretty uncomfortable otherwise if your dd is a frequent feeder. You don't have to keep the milk unless you want to.

Pidgy · 05/06/2014 19:33

Go!!
I stressed about going to a wedding when DS was a similar age. We ended up driving back after the wedding as we cancelled our accommodation as I was worried since DS refused a bottle. Should have stayed! He took bottles with no fuss from my mum and was an angel by all accounts!!

Your mum will be just fine and I'll bet she'll take a bottle.

Enjoy!

anotherdayanothersquabble · 05/06/2014 19:35

I did this when DS was 9 months old, I needed to go away with my older two children and it was not possible for us all to go, he stayed with DH and they survived, not the best night sleep ever but not the worst! She will survive. But yes, do bring a breast pump, especially if you plan to have a glass of wine as this can increase milk supply!!

BernardlookImaprostituterobotf · 05/06/2014 19:36

My bottle refuser got on brilliantly with a soft cup so that may be something to try.
Hated the doidy cup (which I have heard is quite common).
At first a sippy cup with a valve was a complete non starter, the free flow worked ok eventually but he wouldn't drink enough from it to stop using the softcup for proper feeds.

Absolutely go. Honestly it's one night - long enough to get your head together and actually speak to your husband! But even in the very worst case scenario it's not so long your dm couldn't cope. She's done it before after all.

Toowittoowoo · 05/06/2014 19:38

it sounds just what you need!

Hopefully it will be a success and you can do it again soon.

Enjoy xxx

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lemondriz · 05/06/2014 19:43

Oh my goodness I feel so.much better now I felt like the worst mother in the world for even.thinking of going and have been putting off this thread for ages for fear of being.told not leave her.... You have made my birthday/year... This is the thing that dh and I love do the most we have done it every year since we met and look forward to it months in advance even though its only a night it makes such a difference and reminds us of us when we 1st met... U have no idea how reassured I feel now and I will sit my mum down and.explain what her night entails but at.the end of.the day if she doesn't sleep for 1night she can catch up for the rest of.the week

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Kitsmummy · 05/06/2014 19:43

Erm, it sounds like you need this but it's honestly not fair on your mum to leave her with a baby when you know that baby won't settle...

Could your mum come with you and you pay for a hotel room for her?

VisualiseAHorse · 05/06/2014 19:45

GO GO GO!

museumum · 05/06/2014 19:47

bernard what is a soft cup? I googled but just got menstrual cups! Hmm

I have the same issue with my 9mo old (but no nights away planned till October).

mrsspagbol · 05/06/2014 19:48

I dont agree with kitsmummy.

I am willing to bet money that I don't actuay have that your baby will settle fine and/or take the bottle while you are gone.

Have a great time!