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Child missing mum hearting sent with love

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runkid · 03/09/2006 21:30

this is for a lady i have just spoken to her DS is missing and i want her to know that we are with her and will help and support as much as we can.She feels she cant cope i want her to know that you can get through this. so come on ladies lets show some support

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Diva75 · 04/09/2006 19:40

Karen is here now, there wont do anything! Just took down some names and numbers thats it!

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runkid · 04/09/2006 21:21

So Diva have they gave you any useful advice or support and what do they suggest NOTHING

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SpaceCadet · 04/09/2006 21:25

diva im so sorry-i have a thread in teenagers refarding my teen dd..ive exhausted every avenue with her..just wanted to send you some {{hugs}}

Diva75 · 04/09/2006 23:10

Nope no suggestions at all, l dont know what there purpose is! Any way Tim has come home now, dont know how long for this time?

Aero · 04/09/2006 23:12

Have been following this thread. Glad he's home.........at least for the time being.

Diva75 · 04/09/2006 23:14

Runkid Apparently there is a new way now that we have to use when the kids go missing, Karen will be intouch with you regarding the details of this.

Am exhusted with all this, l dont know if this will ever stop or improve! I dont know how to help him.

Diva75 · 04/09/2006 23:17

Thanks for all your support, will keep intouch! Any suggestions on how to get through to a tenage kid, please help, how does one communicate with them?

Diva75 · 04/09/2006 23:19
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runkid · 04/09/2006 23:25

Diva i am glad he is home has he said where he has been? you just have to be there keep showing him you love him. It may take awhile but it will stop eventually {smile]

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losingdd · 05/09/2006 09:14

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theUrbanDryad · 05/09/2006 13:23

hi diva....just thought i would quickly post as you ask how to communicate with a 14 year old! i think the classic answer is YOU CAN'T! but as other mumsnetters from the teenagers thread will know, i was a troubled teen too.

i think one of the best ways to communicate with anyone is by using mirroring and matching techniques. this is a very basic psychological principal and actually we pretty much do it subconcsiously (never know how to spell that!)....but basically, match his gestures and tone, mirror his body language. don't do it really obviously or he'll think you're taking the piss! but he will be more sympathetic to you hopefully, and will thus be more inclined to listen to what you have to say. also, keep your voice low and calm. don't get into a shouting match. i know that all this is easier said than done, but he has to understand how worried you were, and how unacceptable this behaviour is.

hope this helps.....UD xxx

MoreTeaAnyone · 05/09/2006 17:51

Glad to know that he's home Diva75. I have been thinking about you both a lot. Hopefully you find a 'way in' soon. Hope you can begin to feel something other than uncertainty (sp?) soon.

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runkid · 05/09/2006 21:06

hi diva how are things is ds a bit more settled and going to school let me know how you are getting on

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Diva75 · 05/09/2006 22:50

My son went to school and spent the day in school, he has also been to the gym, the police came and did a safe and well check, so did the socail services people.

I have spent the evening with him talking about nothing and watching a movie!

Will try my best to stay calm, but its not easy. I cant get through to him, not sure why!

Thanks again everyone, any suggestions welcome..........thanks!

Diva75 · 05/09/2006 22:53

theUrbanDryad thanks for that mate! will try that, l have learnt not to shout, but l do feel angry inside.....Runkid as met me and she has an idea of what sort of a mother l am, l dont think am such a bad one! I try and willing to try and build a healthy relationship with my son, but am hitting a brick wall. He is not interested!

Diva75 · 05/09/2006 22:56

MoreTeaAnyone keep the prayers going please, every little helps, thanks! x

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runkid · 05/09/2006 23:34

Glad you have had a good day with ds speak soon

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