Dd is 2yrs 9months, do we really HAVE to potty train now? Am I leaving it late? Nursery want me to but it's ruining my week off, frankly!

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I would have left it a bit longer but dh said that dd's nursery said to him on Friday that 'they'd prefer' she was potty trained when she comes back to nursery next week. I don't think she's ready: she doesn't appear to know when she's about to go and wasn't showing any inclination, which is why I was leaving it tbh. I think if you leave it until they're ready then surely they get it faster.

But anyway, we have given it a go, bought her pants and loo seats and told her to tell us when she wants a wee etc. I've asked her a few times and she always says no. She won't let me lift her onto the loo, she's miss 'I DO IT!' She hasn't once told me she wants the loo and has had 2 accidents today. I'm fed up with it and it's only a matter of time before we have poo on the floor imo. Plus this is my one week off with them before the school holidays end and I feel worried sbout going anywhere since we could have accidents at any time. Nappies are easier from that pov. So:

Should I go back to nappies and leave it a bit?
Or should I perseverse and stay in the rest of the week?
Or should I just realise I have to take 3 bags of bloody clothes everywhere and wipes etc?
Is she too old to leave it?

All opinions appreciated. Thanks. She's 3 at the v end of November btw.

www we did (very) sporadic "special loo/potty visits" with nappy off and she remembered those when we eventually did the full monty.

I had MIL pecking my head to train dd1 'before she was 2'

oh, that'd be around the time of dd'2's birth then, yes? Get real woman.

olive, ffs the nerves between the bladder/brain aren't connected that early, imo

WWW

Have emailed you.

potty training is not a sign of a clever child or a good parent.
I could house train you a bbit in a day, I rpomise you. and rabbits are spectacularly stupid animals.

I have read my post back and think I should point out that I didn't get nursery to do the trainng for me!
First time round (didn't work as too early and abandoned after a few days)we started over the weekend then she went to nursery where they continued what we had started except she used the toilet at nursery but not at home. They continued for a couple of days until we asked them to stop (dd only goes 1 1/2 days per week)

Second time (successful)we started over the weekend so she had a few days at home to practise and by the time she went back to nursery she had a good idea of what to do so they were just continuing what we had started.

I really wouldn't like to say that I got nursery to do it for me. I think if you have a child in nursery it is inevitable that they will have to help with the potty training if they attend regularly...

Seriously, www, I would wait until you feel your dd is ready, which you seem to have decided anyway!

I have looked after a huge range of children over 24 years of being mum (to four) and being CM for 15 years

I have never known two children the same in this area'it causes more stress to them and poor mums then anything else .some kids are ready by 18 mnth maybe sooner some can be well over 3yrs. it really does'nt matter.they will let you know when they are ready and as their mother you will recognise the signs for your own child.

Dont let nursery boss you so, thats your child! and how they expect you to do it in a week HA

not to scare but one little boy i looked after came to me after a weekend trained!!!

within an hour it was clear he was'nt they (his parents) insisted so much, he ended up not pooing at all so nervous like it was naughty poor little mite he was just two

when your dd realises what the others are doing nipping off to the potty corner or bathroom i bet she'll be so nosey she'll want a go herself

I posted a similar prob last month; my dd is 3 in early Dec. I got some brilliant advice but best of all the reassurance that if she's not ready, then, she's not ready!! Simple. since then, maybe cos Ive been so much more laid back we have begun to make some progress, yesterday she told me she wanted to wee-wee, got onto her toilet seat and weed! She was delighted with herself, as most of the other kids in the 2-3 room at her nursery "go to the toilet" and up til now she has been in nappies. So its certainly a breakthrough, but the one thing Ive learned is that she will drive this milestone, not me, and theres no point in us both being miserable about something that is sure to sort itself out in its own good time. Good luck! x

Thanks, she let me put a nappy on this am without a fight although I admit I haven't tried to change it yet!

Hi www, just seen this whilst scrolling the nappy threads - just to say, firstly, our playgroup said it is illegal to request a child is potty trained (this was when I remarked that they were very chilled about having dd in a nappy when she started). They also said it is not unusual to have 3 and even 4 year olds there in a nappy.

I put it off and put it off with dd, and did her age 2.10 (having made lots of excuses about the baby etc.). Because she was ready, she got weeing in half an hour (I'm not joking - we just went in the garden with no nappy, and a potty, one wee went on grass, then the rest were in the potty with no prompting from me!). Poos took a bit longer, but she's utterly reliable. Training earlier imo can be done, but means lots of accidents! Ds1 wasn't ready first time we tried with him, and it was a total and utter nightmare, I hated every second of it, and we had to go back to nappies anyway.

Anyway, sounds like you've got things under control.