At my wits' end with screaming DS :(

[Cariad007]

DS is nearly 11 weeks old. I was expecting a baby to be hard work. I wasn't expecting hell on earth. He basically cries non-stop each evening from about 6pm and has started doing this in the mornings too. And there's nothing I can do to stop it. He has improved from earlier days where he would scream unless being fed or asleep as he does have happy periods now. But he can literally be smiley and playing happily one second and screaming hysterically the next. Last week on two occasions he had a sudden attack of screaming that really scared me as he shrieked until he burped loudly and then was peaceful. So I figured that was just wind but I don't know what the other, more continuous screaming is about. He seems to get very tired and then gets furious because he can't sleep and then screams in anger. I don't know what to do to stop this.

He is EBF and growing well (91st percentile for weight and so long that he's literally off the growth charts for baby length), seems to latch on properly and I give him Infacol before feeds too. He is quite windy and produces a lot of smelly farts but only poops about once a week, twice if we're lucky, though it's of a normal consistency and not constipated.

I've taken him to the doctor AND a paediatrician who both said they couldn't find anything wrong with him. I initially thought he might have silent reflux but the doctors said no, the GP going as far to say that reflux is just a buzzword that everyone is latching onto now and that the medications for it can cause bone density issues. I've tried osteopathy and that doesn't work either.

My mum has been staying with me for the past month or so but I don't know how I'll cope when she leaves as all my family live overseas and DP works full time. He helps as much as he can, usually by taking DS for a long walk when he returns from work and if DS goes to sleep that gives us an hour of peace. And then the screaming begins again.

Anyone experienced the same and got any tips for coping? Otherwise I think I may hurl myself from the balcony once my mum leaves!!

Oh and working on naps for my daughter also helped, as other posters have suggested. If they nap well in the day it helps them sleep better at night and not get over-tired. Definitely learning to recognise sleepy cues and reducing stimulation made a difference.

Agree with. Pragmatic, naps are crucial. Overtiredness crying sounds a lot like pain crying so you want to rule that out first
Your gps comments re green and frithy pii are incorrect, sadly many gps do not recognise this problem especially in breastfed babies.
If you cut out dairy it needs to be everything entirely and you should remove soya too as many also react to that.
Whilst it turned things around for us i would only suggest it if everythibg else is ruled out. It takes time to see a difference so the screaming plus struggling to eaton a new difficult diet is incredibly hard

Does your instinct tell you there is something medically wrong there? I had a sense, but before i knew why, i was just so angry with my dd. Couldnt take her to any baby grouos, she screamed all the time. But when overtired itwas much worse.. in our case the allergies made it difficult for her to sleep so it was a right mess

You could search the allergies board for cmpa, info and ideas for alternatuves there
Good luck op