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Wanting another - Tell me it's a phase because I'm reading parenting books for research.

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threebob · 18/08/2006 03:03

I have maintained on mumsnet (and other locations) for some time that ds will be an only child.

I now have to review advice given in parenting books about sibling rivalry for a section in my research project.

I now find myself thinking it would be a good idea to have another when ds starts school.

Have I been invaded by aliens? Thank goodness I have a coil fitted or I could do something rash.

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Maddison · 18/08/2006 09:24

I have 2 ds's and would STILL like another (but I don't think I could stop at just one more)

hunkermunker · 18/08/2006 09:25

Do it

thinkingmum · 18/08/2006 10:37

well threebob,

I am 41, DS is 2.3, we started late, I'm a bit tired, a bit skint and trying to set up a good life for DS another one would make this very hard.
wish I was a bit younger cause I'd love to give him a sibbling.
Pros and cons hmmmmmmmmm

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trinityrhino · 18/08/2006 10:39

do it do it do it

expatinscotland · 18/08/2006 10:40

Just LOVE our dd's! DD2 is now 8 months and has the sweetest personality - she gives cuddles! There's nothing like when she wakes up and she's cooing away in her cot and reaches up her arms to be picked up, and kising her fat cheeks!

Oooo.

Have another one.

Nemo1977 · 18/08/2006 10:45

Am another one who thinks do it but I cant talk. Ds is 2.10yrs dd is 8mths and am nearly 19wks pg. I grew up with 2 sisters where dh was an only child and he feels he missed something...would love ot have lots of children but it isnt financially viable etc.

thinkingmum · 18/08/2006 10:49

If you have the urge...then do it while you can threebob

PinkTulips · 18/08/2006 10:49

speaking as an only child myself...... DO IT! it's lonely being the only one

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threebob · 18/08/2006 11:05

Which part of "tell me it's a phase" do you people not understand?

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GeorginaA · 18/08/2006 11:08

It's a phase.

(but go for it anyway )

Though saying that - physically, I could really go for a third child... I ache for a third. But mentally and emotionally, I don't want a third child at all - another baby maybe ... but they have a tendency to grow up and I like our family as is

Ulysees · 18/08/2006 11:09

I want another too but am 38 and going to split from dh soon. My 'phase' has lasted a while. I need to quickly meet and fall for someone soon to be in with a shot at another!

You never know though?

Threebob, go for it! I have 2 and it's great. Didn't think I'd dare go for 3 but I'd love to.

hunkermunker · 18/08/2006 11:10

Oh sorry.

It's a phase.

It'll last till you have another one

twinsetandpearls · 18/08/2006 11:10

I have always sworn I would never have enother, infact I have discussed a sterilisation with my doctor and have been referred for the necessary counselling. But yesterday I was pushing my friends dd around the zoo in a pram thinking wouldn't it be lovely to have another baby!

twinsetandpearls · 18/08/2006 11:11

So I am hoping it is just a phase and a rather short one at that.

expatinscotland · 18/08/2006 11:13

those tiny nappies. that floppy wee body. the wee cry.

then, the first smiles. the toothless gums. the kicking feet. the cooing.

and what smells better than a scrummy baby?

i think you should have another one.

twinsetandpearls · 18/08/2006 11:16

the nights with no sleep, achey boobs, bqaby crap all over your house, endless shit and piss filled nappies, baby stuff all over your house, the endless expense, squabbling siblings ....

go on have another

tortoiseshell · 18/08/2006 11:17

Definitely go for it, especially once your eldest is at school. I've got 3, and I'm thinking it would be lovely to have another when ds2 starts school (like having your 1st again!) - but ds2 is only 3 months, so it's a bit premature!

But then again it could just be a phase....

expatinscotland · 18/08/2006 11:19

what if it's twins?

tortoiseshell · 18/08/2006 11:19

Just to add, my ds1 was SO thrilled to go into school after ds2 was born with his photo and show his reception teacher - he even took scan pictures in. Although we have a dd in between who he adores, ds2 is 'his' baby, and he just worships him, and vice versa.It's a lovely age gap (nearly 5 years).

twinsetandpearls · 18/08/2006 11:21

I just don't get the argument wouldn't it be lovely to have another when ds/dd starts school ( that is the current line of attack I keep having to defend) Why, having put up with the little bugger at home for five years and then finally managed to pack them off to school why o why for the love of God would you have another.

GeorginaA · 18/08/2006 11:22

LOL twinsetandpearls - there is that

Ulysees · 18/08/2006 11:42

twinset, it's our hormones that convince us it's great to have babies They do something to our brain that make us forget the shitty bits.

I reckon there should be a rental service....rent a baby for a month to re boot our memories

twinsetandpearls · 18/08/2006 11:50

My hormones must be faulty then as I remember the bad bits very well and nothing has convinced me that having babies is great.

Ulysees · 18/08/2006 11:52

But you said you're thinking of it twinset? The zoo visit was such a blast no?

Bibliophile · 18/08/2006 11:56

Oh go on! It's lovely!

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