Phew.
- In my opinion, you are at the hardest stage of kids right now. It seems like it will last forever, but your 2 year old will be 3 with childcare entitlement in less than a year. It's tough, but it is a finite period of time.
- Let them watch TV! It would be better to park them in front of the TV for an hour watching CBBies while you get a few moments peace than to send yourself crazy. Give them dry hoop cereal to munch, plug them into the TV, ignore it if they jump on the couch and have whatever counts as "me time" for yourself. (I am not suggesting you let them sit there for hours on end, but surely a golden hour each day would be ok?)
- Find out what activities are available in your area, library story time, mum's coffee mornings run by local churches etc. Just getting out with them for an hour helps fill the time and structure your day. By the time you get there, get home, they have lunch and then a nap, you've managed to fill at least half the day. You may also meet some other mums there in your position. Having comrades at arms to moan and gossip with is balm for the soul.
- Summer is coming! Life with toddlers is so much easier when you can get outside. They aren't destroying the house anymore and the fresh air makes them sleep better. Also, you sound a bit down, fresh air, sunshine and exercise will do you a world of good too.
If that helps you cope until dc2 gets into a playgroup for 20 hours a week, you will then be able to think about what you want to do and to make a plan. If you have a law degree, you are clearly one smart cookie. Loads of people do jobs that don't relate directly to their degrees. I have the impression that you are young and won't have been out of the workplace/education for more than five years when you start applying again. Just do it. Start applying for graduate, entry level jobs, that is what you are. Of course you will get loads of rejections.
Everyone does. Just keep trying. You don't need to be offered every job you apply for
just one.
As for your spouse,
. He doesn't sound very supportive, but I'll give him a break, he probably feels his own pressures about supporting a family and has his own worries. The raising-babies stage of family life is tremendously difficult for everyone. The resources demanded are incredible. It's really common to have mum and dad both thinking the other has it better and feeling under siege. It's sad when couples give up on each other before coming out the other end of this stage of life. Things really are much easier once all the children are in full time primary school.
Finally, if a job is right for you, you must pursue it. Don't ever make a partner responsible for your happiness. It's just not fair to either of you. Don't become so weak that you can't drive your own life forward without his encouragement and approval. I think if you find a job, arrange childcare and present him with a done deal, he will go along with it. And if you are happier in the end, he will be too. As they say in the USA,
If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy! Or, if you prefer,
A happy life is a happy wife.
Good luck and I hope you feel better soon.