Would or has anyone else left their baby for so long?

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I am feeling so torn as we have our honeymoon in September, dream trip for 10 days. Taking dd who will then be 10 months is not an option. DH seems to think it will be fine as I will have stopped bf and she will be with family etc. But I feel sick at the thought of her being traumatised by my absence. Has anyone any experience with leaving their baby for such a length of time?

OP - good plan to make it a shorter trip. Sounds like it will make you feel better about it.

Yes, people are hideously judgemental on here but that's the joy of Mumsnet! Don't let them bother you, ignore ignore ignore.

FWIW - I personally wouldn't leave a baby for more than a night or two but I really don't think a 10 month old baby would be traumatised, tbh I think they would hardly notice! I think we parents sometimes think we are more important to our children than we actually are....

mmm...I left my 9 yearold with PGL holidays for 3 nights while I went on a weekend away and cried the whole of the first day. My feelings got me totally surprise and I still wonder about it a year later! I wanted to ask total strangers whether they knew what I was going through as if it was some kind of condition everyone goes through one day! the 2nd and 3rd day I was fine but that day will always stay with me! Weirdest thing ever! Also she was left up to 5 nights with my sister before and that was fine, I think it was because I didn't know the people looking after her. Anyway it's a bit different but a shock reaction so I guess you can't know how you will feel.

Op is your dd close to the family members who would be looking after her? Does she see them often? Do you intend to have these family members play an important part in her life?
Some of my fondest memories growing up were the weeks I spent with my gp's. I was incredibly close to them and that only enriched my childhood.

It is perfectly acceptable for someone other than you to care for your dd for a period of time. I'm sure she will be doted on. Whether you go or not is up to you but don't be put off by the views of strangers on the Internet.

I also don't get the pass the bucket comment a pp made. Is that because you want to spend time with your dh? How abnormal of you

I'm doing it! I'm leaving my 2.5 yr old and 9 month old with GPs for 10 days for honeymoon! I'm a SAHM and have been either pregnant and/or breastfeeding for over 3 years now!! I am 27 and I want to ski really fast, drink lots, smoke and have fun with my DH without worrying about being up early and making sure DCs are having fun. My children see me and play with me all day, everyday and have done since they were born and will continue until they go to school. They love my mum and will be fine. I can not wait!

I couldn't. I think it would be awfully upsetting for the DC. I don't particularly judge others who do it, but it wouldn't work for us.

A mum at school left her 2 year old behind while the rest of the family (including older siblings) went ski-ing. When she got back, the 2yo was absolutely furious and wouldn't go near her for a week.