What is the age gap of your dc's - and would you recommend?

[Quintessentialmadonna]

Hiya
Just looking for some feedback. I know I definately want another dc, the love I feel for my dd is just too good not to experience again! For various reasons I would not have one just yet though. Just out of curiousity , what is the best the age gap? Or rather, what is the the age gap of dc's and how is it reeeally!?

Really interesting reading this thread. My DD is just 1 and we plan to start trying again this summer - probably would like a slightly bigger gap but am 35 this year and don't really want to leave it much later just in case it doesn't happen quickly. That's about the smallest age gap I feel I could cope with though!

What is the age gap of your dc's

13 months gap

- and would you recommend?

Sometimes Yes and sometimes No :o

I think that goes for all age gaps tbh

13 months wow!
I'm not sure this thread is helping me decide, so much variation!!

Haha! You are prob right there soontobeslender! Glad others are appreciating how insightful this thread is! Well everyone thanks so much for all replies thus far! Dh and I did breifly discuss things again tonight. We are considering trying again when dd 18minths... She is 9 months at present. I realise my mind could change once she walks!?

All answers have been to interesting and informative over all. Cheers guys!

So*

The other thing of course, is that sometimes you don't choose the age gap, it chooses you. Infertility, miscarriage all take its toll.

I have a friend who was devastated after a miscarriage and couldn't reconcile that she wouldn't have a 2.5 year ago gap, she ended up having a 3 year age gap, she really struggled with this. She's a planner, and always planned a 2.5 year gap. But things just don't always happen according to plan....

Yes true imip. I think with ttc it is the ine thing no one can control or plan absaloutely. However, a positive attitude and rough idea suit me!

That's very true. I had 3 mcs before ds so I could plan a gap of 18 months and fall pg no probs, or same could happen and it could be a gap of 3 years!

19 months, brilliant (they are now 1 and 2.6) but in my opinion 12 months would be ideal.

Well I have 2.11 between dd and ds and will have 22 months in April when dc3 arrives.

Obviously I can't speak for the age gap yet, but this pregnancy has been much easier. I find an 18 month old much easier than a 2.5 year old though. Ds naps for 2 hours, doesn't really demand things, whereas dd was very firm that today was time for painting / toddler group / whatever and it wasn't fair to disrupt that really. Ds is happier just to pootle around looking at toys. Obviously that could in part be personality.

The 2.11 gap has been lovely in a lot of ways. Especially now they are really beginning to play together which is lovely to see. Their interests are still quite divergent due to age though, it would be easier if they were both into the same thing. I found having a partially potty trained toddler who didn't want to but needed to use the buggy quite difficult! I know others see that as a big advantage but I'm wondering if smaller gaps makes it easier in that regard!

Personally I wouldn't have wanted a big gap. I wanted them at similar stages so we could do things together as a family without one parent staying with the little ones the whole time. I also wanted to be able to move past the baby stage (even though I have loved it) and do fab things for older children which may not have been possible with babies / naps / nappies etc. I also really wanted them to grow up together and play together which I think is sometimes more unlikely if they are further apart.

Bloob I see what you mean on family time perhaps being easier all round if kids similar in ages.