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Farley's rusks in a babies bottle?

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Newmum0113 · 07/12/2013 22:09

Hi all, I asked this on someone else's thread, but I wanted to get more opinions/anecdotes please?!

DD is 8 weeks old and DH was considering we should put a rusk in her last bottle (11pm) to help her go through the night.

We aren't doing this yet, and may not do it, but both our parents did it with us and our siblings.

Thanks for your replies.

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LittleBearPad · 07/12/2013 22:37

No no no no no no no

Your husband sounds like an arse.

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Newmum0113 · 07/12/2013 22:42

littlebear you sound like an arse. I said it was a consideration because our parents had done it with us.

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ems1910 · 07/12/2013 22:46

I don't think your husband sounds like an arse, a lot of people still give this advice and as a new parent, it is hard to know what to listen to and what is 'old' advice.

I have asked my OH to read up on breastfeeding, weaning at 6 months, sids guidelines as I know he will get comments and questions and may feel like we are doing things wrong/question our methods. My ex got very good at telling his mum to 'speak to Ems if you think there is a problem', she never did lol!

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feelingfuckingfestiveok · 07/12/2013 22:48

This is such an outdated to thing to do. Dont feed her any solids until her gt is mature enough to handle them. at east 16 weeks but current advice is 6 months

Plus rusks a quite sugery.

There are loads of website with up to date advice please read and make your own mind up. Dont be ushered into something by an impatiet husband who doesnt want to do night feeds.

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Feelingfatty · 07/12/2013 22:49

New mum ignore people who are being arsey! You clearly said only an idea! Definitely look at dream feeding as baby gets older worked so well for us! To put in perspective at 8 weeks my dd was waking hourly!! By 12 week (when I changed to bottle) slept right through! And now sleeps for England! At nearly three she sleeps from 7.30pm-10am most days!! The worst sleepers can become the best!!! Xx

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BertieBowtiesAreCool · 07/12/2013 22:51

Arse?! No way. Not everybody reads new baby advice, poor bloke! Perfectly reasonable suggestion if you didn't know the guidelines had changed, people have been doing it for years.

If he was saying "Put the baby in it's room and shut the door and let it cry" then he might be an arse but definitely not for suggesting something that he's probably seen done in his own family and not realised that it was advised against these days.

In fact I think it's nice he's suggesting stuff - listen to some stories of some blokes on here who don't even bother to hold their own babies :(

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MortifiedAnyFuckerAdams · 07/12/2013 22:52

Wow. I had to search your name to see if this was a "questionable first post" ahem but I see you are in fact a New Mum and a regular poster.

Im assuming from the replies above that you wont be doing it, but I am glad you asked on here first. Please dont do it.

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PacificDogwood · 07/12/2013 22:54

Yes, it was very commonly done in the past is really, truly outdated advice now.
There is evidence of its downsides AND it does not work as far as the sleep goes.
Sorry.
Looking after a young baby is bloody hard work, it really is.

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Only1scoop · 07/12/2013 22:56

Op my own Dp thought as soon as dd was weaned she would be 'on rusks' they seem to be a baby staple of past generations.
He's definately not an arse
Good luck with the through the night sleeping x

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girliefriend · 07/12/2013 22:58

Am guessing you have probably got the general gist that this is not a good idea but just incase you hadn't - nah don't do it!

We were all weaned at 12 weeks - not done now.

My mum was given brandy in her bottle to help her sleep - def not done now!!

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PacificDogwood · 07/12/2013 22:59

Oh, whisky in the bottle was suggested to me too when I was struggling with DS3 - by our builder!!

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LittleBearPad · 07/12/2013 23:03

But you were told on the other thread that it wasn't a good idea bit your DH wants to sleep so thinks putting biscuits in a bottle is the way forward...

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Newmum0113 · 07/12/2013 23:47

It was never about DH wanting to sleep. I've never said that.

We were told that she should be sleeping thru now (by a health visitor no less!) and thought we should ask about putting a rusk in the bottle.

I've never said we are struggling with late nights or lack of sleep at all. You've made that assumption all by yourself.

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SecretSantaFix · 07/12/2013 23:49

You said so in your original post.

DH was considering we should put a rusk in her last bottle (11pm) to help her go through the night.

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MortifiedAnyFuckerAdams · 07/12/2013 23:53

Is the bottle fed? Tbh she will probably drop the 3am feed soon anyways.

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MaryMotherOfCheeses · 07/12/2013 23:57

Erm, shall we give the OP a break? I think the message has been conveyed loud and clear.

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rockybalboa · 08/12/2013 00:00

A HV said your 8w old baby should be sleeping through? Bloody hell, what is wrong with these people. Anyway I think you've already gathered that rusk + bottle = bad idea and if you're not sleep deprived then I'd just carry on doing what you're doing and ignore any outdated and daft advice from HVs or parents.

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TheRobberBride · 08/12/2013 00:07

If your HV told you an 8 week old baby 'should' be sleeping through then they are a twat. What an utterly false, unhelpful and stressful thing to say to a new parent! She's talking crap. Please, please ignore her.

And no, you should never ever put rusk in a bottle. But you already know that now

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FionasFatFairy · 08/12/2013 00:15

Newmum, are either you or your DH Spanish? I ask this as most of our Spanish friends add "cereal" to the babies late night bottle? As mentioned above, it is not popular in the uk.

At 6 months I transferred my girls onto Hipp grandchildren bedtime milk has has rice added to it.

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Newmum0113 · 08/12/2013 00:38

secret that still doesn't say are sleep deprived and my DH wants to sleep. It says to help her sleep through the night. As per health visitor saying DD should be sleeping through by now.

Fiona yes my mum is Spanish and my Dad is Turkish. DHs family is all English.

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Mrsantithetic · 08/12/2013 01:12

Newmum
My daughter is 16 months old breast feeds about ten times a day has three meals and deserts plus snacks and I'm still on my 3 Rd wake up of the evening after putting her to bed at. 730. She will likely wake another three times before getting up.

So no I wouldn't bother with Rusks and your health visitor is shit.

Babies wake up a lot. That's what happens. What might be more useful is to sleep in shifts. So you go to bed at 8 and dp can do the feeding and settling until midnight then you do through the night. Is that possible

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MrsCakesPremonition · 08/12/2013 01:25

You and your DH sound like you are lovely, caring parents.
Your HV, on the other hand, needs to either update her training or find a new job where she isn't offering dangerous advice to new parents.

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MrsTerrysChocolateOrange · 08/12/2013 01:41

Your HV is an idiot. Perfectly healthy, happy DD didn't sleep through consistently untill 2 years.

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Dollybird86 · 08/12/2013 02:05

Your baby is 8 weeks old she should not be sleeping through the night! Do not feed her something that could be harmful! Man up and don't be so selfish!

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Sunnysummer · 08/12/2013 02:12

Maybe there has been a misunderstanding with the HV? I can't imagine even really poorly informed ones expecting 8 week olds to sleep through, even the strictest of sleep training methods expect extra feeds at night at this point.

Fwiw, it sounds like you're doing a great job with tricky advice from all sides - you must have had an inkling that rusks in the bottle weren't a great idea, which is why you came on here for advice, your instincts are clearly on I'm sure that people didn't mean to jump on you personally, they are actually upset that a worried new mum is being given incorrect advice by people who should be helping you. Good luck with the sleep!