when did your lo sleep separately?

[RiotBecky]

how long til you put your lo in their own room away from you at night? guidelines say at least 6 weeks but I've heard people doing it before that and it working well.

I'm finding it really interesting seeing how wildly people's experiences vary!

Ds was in his own room from about 5 weeks. He was a big baby, too big for his Moses basket (which he ruined anyway after a massive poo) and our room at the time was too small for his cot.
Dd was in our (new, larger) room for about 5 months. We would have moved her sooner but her room wasn't decorated - it didn't even have a carpet. She was a noisy sleeper and a very light sleeper too so we would disturb each other in the night, meaning none of us got a good night's sleep. The night she moved she was so much more settled and happy.

4 months with ds1 as a he was a noisy snorter!! We had the motion sensor kit and did feet to foot plus sleeping bag, no blanket. Ds2 is still in with us at nearly 12 months because we had a leaky roof and his room needs a new ceiling before he can go in - on top of a million other house related jobs! CANNOT WAIT until he's in his own room as I'm sure he will sleep better.

My lo slept in her own room from 2 weeks. It was the right decision for us and I'll prob do again with next baby.

First at 8 weeks, second at 12 weeks (we had been on holiday for several weeks otherwise would have moved her earlier). We used movement sensor video monitors (Tommee Tippee). My sleep deprivation was too terrible when they in with us - mine were also v noisy and I'm a very light sleeper - and I also kept waking my second DD up as she's also a terribly light sleeper. We have morning cuddles every morning - after I've brought them both in from their own beds!

6months, 8 months and 12 months.

No way would I risk having them in a separate room, I nearly died in my sleep at 5 months, my mum found me just in time. Why do it earliler if it reduces risk?

3 and 2 years old

I moved DS when he started stealing ky duvet :o - he was just over 2.

14 weeks here, DS didn't sleep more than a couple of hours at a time in our room but went 6 hours in his own! He was a very noisy sleeper too, so when he was in our room one of us would end up on the sofa downstairs with him to let the other sleep (DS in basket, parent on sofa, not DS on sofa!). He'd also grown too big for the Moses basket by that point, and his cot wouldn't fit in our room. He's now 2.1 and in a big boy bed ready for the arrival of his little brother in 13 days OMGOMGOMG and I often wake up in the early hours to find his little head on my pillow!

I'll move DS2 when he's too big for the Moses basket, but this time I have a movement monitor (which I admittedly did buy accidentally but have decided to keep) so won't be quite as twitchy, for the first few weeks months I was constantly in and out of DS's room checking on him!

DD is 6 1/2 months and still in our room. She's a terrible sleeper though, and I'm interested to see other posters have found their DC sleep better in their own rooms... hmm....

7 weeks - she is a very noisy little thing, she is right next door and we have an angel care monitor - but no-one was getting any sleep prior to that and I was recovering from ending up in intensive care (a week after having her was back in for a D&C with retained placenta and lost over 2 litres of blood etc etc - hideous) with post birth complications.

She now sleeps 10.00pm - 7.30 am (done this from from 9 weeks - 11 on Sunday).

She will not nap in her crib though - gets very cross if you try and put her into it during the day time - she seems to associate it with night time.

We use the sleeping bag so that she doesn't kick it off, we also make sure the room temperature is between 19-21 max degrees - lower the better really for her sleeping (19 is best we find). I weighed up all the pros and cons - the risk is very small, we dont smoke etc. I don't know - how can we really 'know' what causes a lot of these things? Is the advice to ensure babies are properly checked by parents and not just left? I understand the breathing idea but for us having sleep, being relaxed parents was better - since we are well rested - she is - so she is not as agitated, which means she has less of the stress hormones running through her system . and on and on was my thought process. I never leave her to cry for a moment though, and for me CIO is not an option, and wont be no matter how old she is, and during the day we are two peas in a pod. I think you have to make the right call for you and whatever gets you through each day the best.

We made the decision to try Indy in his own room for the last two nights and guess what, I've actually managed to sleep and he's started sleeping for 5 hours at a time HALLEFUCKINGLUYAH!!! We have a baby monitor and his room is right next to ours, we could hear him without the monitor but it makes me feel better. I checked on him regularly and he was happy as a clam, he's a tall boy so his moses basket was stopping him from stretching out, in his cot he starfishes and happily trumps away (which is amazing because he gets trapped wind and can be very colicky. He's on colief now) Tempted to get one of those nightvision monitors, DH get's a bonus at the end of this month so we'll start looking at them.

DD went in own room at 8-9 weeks, in the Moses basket in the cot. I can still hear all the snuffles and movements as it's just along the hall (doors open). I also didn't use a monitor which is probably unusual. I'm aware of the risks; it's what worked for us.

She was a great sleeper but has had her moments during sleep regressions/illnesses so we've also co-slept when we thought it best; so I feel we've had the best of both.

She's 15 mo now and goes out like a light (in her room) at 7 until 6 or 7am. BF until 14 mo.

10 weeks for us as DS and I are both light sleepers and kept each other up! I lived in a tiny house though with paper thin walls so we were only about 6 ft from each other and I could still hear him without the monitor (though that was on too) I don't think I would have been comfortable doing it if he was in a room at the other end of the hall or like our current house were there is a room between our bedrooms. I would have worried the monitor would stop working during the night.

Glad you all slept better OP. I would recommend getting one of the movement monitors. God forbid, if you were asleep and your baby stopped breathing, you probably wouldn't hear anything, whereas with the movement monitor an alarm would activate.

We have the Angelcare monitor and it's the best money I've spent. It really gives me peace of mind knowing that it will go off if 10 week old DS stops breathing, even though we are in the room with him for most of the night - we've just started putting him to bed a couple of hours before we go up

We're looking at getting a new baby monitor, was about to post a new thread asking for recommendations. We've tried out two motorola ones but aren't that keen, we really don't like the fact they only come on when they detect sound, we'd rather they were constantly on.

riot we have a Summer video monitor. Love it.

I was just looking at a summer one on argos. Is it constantly on or does it just turn on when it picks up noise?

Think medical advice is that angel care monitors are completely useless? No evidence at all that they work.

The baby reacts to your breath in the air to regulate breathing - so no monitor will reduce the risk that you are taking if they are in another room

A very small baby sleeping in longer stretches is actually not necessarily safe - it's when they wake frequently that they are breathing normally - and they have evolved to do it so that adults will make sure they stay alive and are fed enough

Obviously it's a small risk - but please make sure your decision is properly informed

Like InfiniteJest my DS is 7 months and is still in our room and still wakes a few times a night. The only way for us to get a few hours sleep once he's woken is to bring him in to our bed. I'm interested to see the number if comments saying that their DCs slept better once moved in to their own room. The thought of this has made me slightly nervous - I don't relish the thought of tramping down the hall several times a night rather than just reaching over from my bed.

However, we're moving shortly and his bedroom is half packed up so he won't be going in his own room just yet.

14 months each time. Agree that the guidelines are 6 months and its a decision only you can make.

What persuaded me to keep them in the room was that my cousin kept her Lo in a Moses basket by the bed. Twice she woke in the night and he'd stopped breathing and was blue. Thankfully he survived but had he been in another room she may never have woke and been able to revive him.

Ifatfirst - they sleep so so much better in their own room once past 6 months .... You don't wake and interfere at every whimper and the often quickly fall asleep again once they do wake ...

It is hard to sleep next to a baby, I've been getting insomnia recently and feeling tense, even though before my 3 month DS I've always been really good at sleeping. It is tiring, however, as your baby gets older, it can also be lovely to be close to them at night. I saw him roll over in the half light last night for the first time - his little arms thrashing towards my breast with such determination. Also he has just started being able to help himself to my milk while I dose next to him, which is great as neither of us need to wake up properly. Having just come through a 4 night growth spurt in which he was awake every few hours, i feel weirdly even more bonded with him than before - perhaps because of all those lovely night smiles and gentle touches - i cant believe I'm saying it, but night parenting is pretty special (even for a tired, grumpy sleep monster like me!). That said, totally understand why people need their own room at times - last night I gave ds over to dh and headed off to the spare room for some much needed quality sleep - do what works best for you and your little one - it will get easier in time - the first few months are crazy.

2 days. Basically straight into a routine and her own cot and room next door to mine. Breastfed throughout the night.

Totally happy, slept through from 12 weeks.

Now have a perfect 5 year old DD! Would not do it any other way. The times I have had to share a bed or room with her we keep each other awake!