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Child sleeping in bed with nan and grandad

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27mummmy2boys · 04/11/2013 16:00

My mother in law had the kids one night over the weekend and because a blow up bed had burst WEEKS earlier she just put my 5 year old straight in their bed and all three slept there, not attempting to put him on the floor or top and tail with younger child or anything. I have things he could have slept on if she had asked.

I really don't like this having happened I think he will expect to next time do the same. So I said something and she's totally blew it out of proportion and she's really offended! If he tells people in school I don't want them thinking they have a wierd relationship sleeping with nan and grandad.

Yes I have my children in my bed watching tv of a morning or if they wake in the night upset for abit but I'm their Mum! He doesn't get upset there and I know he would have slept on a duvet or topped an tailed and just got on with it.

Do you think I was unreasonable in telling her off? And am I overreacting?

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Sirzy · 04/11/2013 16:02

Personally I think you are overreacting.

Why on earth would school think there was a problem with a child sleeping with their grandparents?

TunipTheUnconquerable · 04/11/2013 16:04

I think you are a bit, sorry.

Mattissy · 04/11/2013 16:04

Overreaction. Nothing wrong with it, I'd have been fine sleeping with anyone of my 4 grandparents in that way and if be fine for my dc to do the same.

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phantomhairpuller · 04/11/2013 16:05

You're overreacting. Big time.

Morgause · 04/11/2013 16:06

YAB very U

sonlypuppyfat · 04/11/2013 16:07

More than a bit odd to react this way.

Mama1980 · 04/11/2013 16:08

Total over reaction sorry. I used to love sleeping snuggled between my nan and grandad.

misdee · 04/11/2013 16:08

YABU dd1 slept over at grandparents from a young age and often hopped into their bed.

DowntonTrout · 04/11/2013 16:09

Oh dear. Unless you have a reason to be suspicious or feel there is something untoward going on I think YABVU.

How lovely, in my opinion, that your DCs have GPs who will look after them and that your DS was happy to snuggle down in their bed. How is this weird?

Thurlow · 04/11/2013 16:09

Overreacting, and by a lot.

If your DS had said he didn't want to share a bed with his grandparents or had trouble sleeping and she ignored him, fine.

But if everyone slept well... They're his grandparents? Why on earth would sharing a bed with them be wrong?

Sirzy · 04/11/2013 16:13

Unless you have a reason to be suspicious or feel there is something untoward going on I think YABVU. If that was the case then the unreasonable part would have been leaving the children there in the first place, but I assume the OP would have mentioned that if it had been part of her reasoning?

MillyONaire · 04/11/2013 16:13

All sorts of rule breaking is allowed by grandparents: that is the perk of being a gp. I think it's lovely that they are willing to sacrifice a good nights sleep for your child. I wish my dc had grandparents who'd do that for them - even if it was the irritating in laws.
YABU

wheretoyougonow · 04/11/2013 16:14

Unless you have s serious reason for concern I think you are over reacting. It's a grandparents job to indulge their grandchildren and I remember worming my way into my Nan's bed.
My DS often gets into bed with both sets of GP's and I really don't think anything of it.

ThisIsBULLSHIT · 04/11/2013 16:17

My DDs sneak into my dm and DDs bed if they stay there.

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27mummmy2boys · 04/11/2013 16:20

Feel abit silly now to be honest! I wasn't close to my grandparents so it seems very strange to me!! But its obviously not!!

How do I delete this post can someone please help x

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DowntonTrout · 04/11/2013 16:21

Well exactly sirzy. Good enough to babysit but cannot be trusted to have the child in bed with them.

I'm a newish Grandma. One of the loveliest things so far was the two nights I had my GS to sleep over. Snuggling in bed with him was such a treat. dH was relegated to the spare room. I would be very upset to be told off.

Isildur · 04/11/2013 16:21

My lot are nearly always in with someone else when staying over with relatives.

Did you never do the same as a child?

What does your husband say about your attitude to his parents?

clubnail · 04/11/2013 16:23

Oh, well, I'm with you. I would not like it one bit.

DowntonTrout · 04/11/2013 16:24

You don't need to have the thread deleted. It is good you have seen that is it acceptable, well more than that really, it's a pleasure for us GPs.

I didn't have GPs either. I am having to feel my way. Maybe you could apologise to your MIL though.

Lamu · 04/11/2013 16:25

Massive overreaction. We have a rule in our house. "What happens at grandmas stays at grandmas." MIL has shared a bed with Dd, turfing grandpa into the spare room. Dd loves her grandparents.

Dd even at 2.3 knows that some things she can get away with at grandma's whilst other things will not be allowed at home.

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27mummmy2boys · 04/11/2013 16:26

I did apologise for offending her but I said I didn't really agree with it x

Please help me delete it I feel so silly now!

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elliegoulding · 04/11/2013 16:29

You don't need any more 'telling offs' OP or to delete your thread :), you asked were you BU, people said 'yes', you had a rethink, took opinion on board and changed your mind. All is well :)

Clowdy · 04/11/2013 16:30

Just report it to mumsnet and ask them to delete it.

MillyONaire · 04/11/2013 16:31

Don't feel silly OP - it was your opinion and asaik we're still allowed to have those! It'll disappear in the natural run of things soon enough.

Lamu · 04/11/2013 16:31

Don't feel silly. All this parenting lark is such a learning curve. I remember seething with grandma when she fed 7 month old a couple of chocolate buttons at Easter. Now I don't bat an eyelid when Dd eats her body weight in chocolate biscuits there.

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