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very,very,very bad mummy alert.......................

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frangipan · 29/06/2006 22:25

Ok I'll keep this brief...
1-DS1 in Yr1 not making progress with spellings(according to school) not been changed for several weeks

2- mummy told needs to practise more.

3 mummy enraged that all of a sudden teaching to spell is exclusive of mainstream education it would seem

4 the word homework/spellings turns afore mentioned DS1 into vile/moody/unco-operative alien type thingy

5 ds1 not co-op with spellings tonight

6 mummy looses plot about the whole thing and tears sml red spellings book into no less then 60 pieces in front of DS!!!!!

oK LET ME HAVE IT................[SAD]

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WideWebWitch · 29/06/2006 22:27

god the rows we've had about homework! I wish they wouldn't give it to them this young.

flutterbee · 29/06/2006 22:27

woops for you, no advice I'm afraid.

moondog · 29/06/2006 22:27

A woman on the edge..... (and your spelling needs work too Missy)!

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jil · 29/06/2006 22:28

The dog chewed it of course.
Please can ds have a new spellings book.

alexsmum · 29/06/2006 22:29

i think it's outrageous that they have spelling at this age.my ds has also had to be nagged/shouted at etc in order to get him to do his spellings tonight.they were HARD!!! he's only six ffs!!! there are plenty of adults who don't know how to spell sphere!!!

so no, not telling you you are a bad mummy at all!

waterfalls · 29/06/2006 22:34

I would'nt worry too much as long as your ds knows you are no longer cross (even if you are)
I would just worry about what he might tell his teacher.

soapbox · 29/06/2006 22:36

Sorry - not going with the flow here!

Nothing turns me off more than an adult having a temper tantrum

If my children tore a book up in anger I'd be furious - and an adult doing it - well...

Sorry to sound so preachy, but tearing books up really, really not good - although I suspect you know that anyway

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frangipan · 29/06/2006 22:38

in my defence I would like to say that I am even more of a bad mummy as I work full time and DS goes to after school club.

we don't get home until 5.45pm..ish, we're all then shattered and just want to eat and have some play time together.....poor excuse for not doing homework I know.

I just felt that the teacher was blaming me for the fact that DS hasn't progressed, I know he knows the words as he reads them in books.

Have attempted to reassemble spellings book with sellotape....keep thinking of NSPCC advert was the nasty parent rips up the small childs homework!!!

s*t st s*t

interestingly, DS not to bothered about spellings book though

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glasgowgal · 29/06/2006 22:38

Your story was funny and sad at the same time. I would firstly let ds know you're not furious at him. Then I would maybe write a note to the teacher to avoid your son's take on the story- don't get him to say it was the dog. I remember my dd having kittens at the thought I was going to write a note to her teacher about the sheer volume of homework (I ended up chickening out and I have to say I can see the benefits despite may tense moments). I really sympathise with you but you are not the first and won't be the last stressed mummy to do something you cringe at later.

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frangipan · 29/06/2006 22:39

Thanx soapbox

haven't spent the last 6 hours thinking that very same thing....guess you're perfect huh?

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soapbox · 29/06/2006 22:41

Hmmmm- no not perfect - but I don't tend to post my shortcomings on MN for all to comment on

waterfalls · 29/06/2006 22:43

No disrespect frangipan, but you did say 'oK LET ME HAVE IT.........'

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frangipan · 29/06/2006 22:43

I'll most likely look back and laugh at the whole thing.....when DS is 34!

I know it was a bad thing to do, but the red mist just fell and even as I was doing it ( which wasn't in a rage, I was strangely quite calm iyswim) I knew it was wrong, but it also felt very rebellious and satisfying also...oooh the shame of it!

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frangipan · 29/06/2006 22:45

I know that waterfalls, but I didn't actually mean it.......

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frangipan · 29/06/2006 22:49

I wasn't angry with DS when I did it though, I was angry at the school...

parenting is hugely difficult yet greatly rewarding job... I just feel that the formal teaching of spellings should be schools responsibility.

We spell constantly when we are with DS's but not formally iyswim, you know road signs/shop signs/reading/etc etc

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frangipan · 29/06/2006 22:53

thanx for all your words of support, still feeling crappy (which is no less than i deserve)gonna fess up to school but might omit a few of the details.....

actually no I'm not gonna fess up, will think of reasonable excuse.....

second thoughts , yes I will as DS will tell anyway..... might have taught him to tear up spell books but also taught honesty...

night night all xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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fennel · 29/06/2006 23:00

sounds perfectly reasonable to me. i can imagine feeling the same.

dd1 has been in two year one classes in different schools this year. no spelling tests or books in either. it can't be that important.

alexsmum · 29/06/2006 23:01

can i ask what the spellings were?

cat64 · 29/06/2006 23:08

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olivia35 · 29/06/2006 23:09

...hope you concluded the whole routine by screeching '...& you can tell Miss Teacher to shove these pieces up her prim little arse!'

Sorry. That probably condemns me as a bad mummy, a bad teacher, & a bad bibliophile, but hey ho. If going over spellings each night is turning ds into 'vile/moody/unco-operative alien type thingy' then it's probably doing more harm than good, IMO.

exrebel · 29/06/2006 23:29

hi frangipan,

just to say that you made me think about what the future has in store for me, when my dd goes to school. on one hand I caqnt wait to do the homework with them, but I can mtself becomeing really frustrated liek you in the same situation. I will be working f/t and she will go afterschool club, and you ve got so much to do when you come home after a LONG DAY at work. dont beat yourself up about it, i would just be honest with the teacher, explain why it happened and your situation as a working mum and your dd feelings. also a nice honest chat with dd. maybe i am being naive here, but to me it should not matter what it looks like, it best to do the right thing,being honest, rather than the best move. you are human and yes we all lose our temper and do sillyn thing. I do not see this as so bad like some people are saying. you know and oyur chil knows that you are a loving mummy

exrebel · 29/06/2006 23:34

ah why being on here if not posting shortcomings? i thought it is a great place where people can stop keeping up appearnces, maybe I am missing something, and soapbox made a joke

controlfreaky2 · 29/06/2006 23:38

what happened? did red mist descend and you really really lost it or what?? can relate to wanting to do that... but not to actually so losing it to go on and do it.... sorry. has temper got you into trouble before?

fennel · 30/06/2006 08:58

Frangipan, the days we have after school club we don't bother much with reading or homework, we catch up at the weekend. it's much easier doing these things in a few minutes at the weekend when you're all less tired.

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