anyone have more than 3 years between 1st and 2nd?

[katierocket]

I have one DS 2.4 and am desperate to have another. DP wants to wait for 3 or 4 months before starting to try (for lots of reasons but mainly because it's taken until now to get some semblance of sex life back!). I do understand but I am becoming obsessive about it - it's really worrying me that there will be a big gap between ds one and next one. Even assuming I can get pregnant straightaway it will be at least 3 and half years and obviously could end up being much more than that.

anyone else got big gaps between children? does it affect the relationship between them?

suedonim -
just what I wanted to hear!

I am a middle child, with a brother 4 years older and a brother 2 years younger. I always got on with my younger brother better when we were kids but now get on with my older brother better.

I have 3 kids. The eldest was 2yrs 1mth when her sister came along. I still quite regret having such a small age gap, as it didn't give me much time with dd1 and i think this did effect our relationship. When dd2 was 6 days from her 3rd birthday, i had my ds. This gap was a lot better.
I would like another baby but have been advised not to. However if i did, then i would wait until my ds was at least 3, before i started trying.
What ever works for you, is best for you though

I have 5.5 years between my two, not planned that way but its the way it worked out. It is fab. Ds is just over a year old now and they have a mutual adoration going on!
Dh and his sister have a similar gap. As kids they just got on, never bickered as they were at such different stages. As young adults they shared a flat with SIL's boyfriend too and that worked brilliantly and they're still great pals now.
I think a lot has to do with personalities though. My sister and I are quite close in age, just 2 years apart and have spent our entire lives competing.

14.75 years - is that a record?!

My dd1 was 3 when I got pg with dd2 same reasons as Angeliz. She would be in pre-school when dd2 arrived.....seemed logical at the time, now dd2 has to wake up to go get dd1 every day
But seriously dd2 does miss dd1 when she's out and dd1 loves her little sis depends on the child and how secure they feel I think.

There is just under 8 years between my dd, who's 10, and ds, who's 2. She still says it was the best moment of her life when we told her she was going to be a big sis. There was no planned reason for this- just the way things happened (1 m/c between)but we weren't ttc- we just let things happen iykwim.

They mostly get on and have heaps of fun with each other. They bath together, he does her gymnastics-he copies everything she does, which can be frustrating, or dead funny ( he like to put her hair things on and loves being told how pretty he is!) Only downside is that dd can't play with fuuttery thing when he's around.

3 years between dd1 and ds, and, 6 years between ds and dd2. dd1 and ds both get along better with and like dd2 more than each other. In fact they can't fuss over dd2 enough. As my GP said she's going to be so spoilt by them, she's always having cuddles and kisses - no oe else in the house gets them.