Baby fell off bed

[Jennym9211]

Hi all just wandering if this has happened to anyone else, i was asleep in bed this am with my 9 week old next to me she wasnt in a deep sleep as she was fidgiting alot next thing i kbew she had fallen off my bed and onto the floor i feel absolutly awful and cant stop crying got a dotors apot today to check her over just wanderibg if this has happened yo anyone else i feel like a terrible mother. P.s im bf and exhausted.

Not when asleep but when ds1 was maybe 8mo I was changing his nappy on the bed, turned round to pick up a fresh nappy and thump he'd managed to crawl backwards off the bed (he couldn't crawl, this was his first time of 'moon-crawling' ie backwards). He fell onto floorboards and slid under my nappy changing table which ironically I no longer used as it was too high. He cried for a bit but I cried for longer. It's awful but easily happens. Don't beat yourself up. Just look at ways in which you can try to prevent it happening again when you're understandably knackered - I've put a pillow down the side of the bed before which they couldn't roll over. How is your lo? If she's feeding fine and okay in herself I'm sure she's fine. Sending you a hug x

DD first fell off the bed at about 5 months old. She cried a bit and then got over it. I wasn't too worried as she was not in pain and had no concussion.

These things happen, so try not to worry. You are not a terrible mother - you are a normal, very tired person.

when i turned to grab something from the drawers, my DD fell off bed, she was kicking her legs and slid down and ended up falling face forward and bumping her top lip on her cot. She was 6 months at the time. I was in shock and cried, as did she. 2 minutes later she was her smiling, happy self again.

It happens. Don't be too hard on yourself. Just try to think if ways to prevent it happening again.

I think this is extremely common. I've heard of much worse young children are designed to take a few tumbles otherwise our species wouldn't have survived for long.
Just put something in place so it doesn't happen again as obviously no one wants to take unnecessary risks.

All 3 of mine have fallen of the bed at some point, DS3 fell off yesterday, he kinda slid off feet first and landed on his bum I think its just part of the package to be honest.

You've done the right thing though making an appointment with her being so young. You are not a terrible mother! The fact that you feel bad proves that. If you were a terrible mother you wouldn't give a toss that shed fallen off the bed in the first place.

I'd be surprised if you can find a mother that hasn't had this happen to. Babies are wriggly little blighters!
If has stopped crying. Is feeding and not sleeping lots more than she would normally I'm sure she is fine.
What did she fall onto? Carpet? Laminate? It's unlikely she is hurt. You would probably know about it if she was!
Try not to dwell on it. It happens all the time despite the best precautions.

She cried for a lil while then calmed down and seemed to go back to normal, she had about an hour long nap afterwards and then had a good feed. She seems to b back to normal but cant help but worry. Thinking about giving up bf as im so tired i dont want it happening again going to keep her in moses basket from now on. I no bf is best but if it means i can b more aware and alert then ill do anything cant bare the thought of my daughter getting hurt again. Thanks for all your replies

This happened to me when my son was about 3 months old, he hadn't really moved before but he suddenly flipped over and rolled off the bed, which had a wooden surround, hitting it on the way down. I was there, awake supervising him (allegedly) but it happened so fast there was nothing I could do.

We phoned NHS 24 for advice and we had to wake him (he'd fallen asleep after crying) and do some checks and I'm glad to say he was absolutely fine - and yes I did feel rubbish, but to be honest almost everyone I know has had a similar mishap with their babies (not because they're bad parents, but because sometimes they just catch you out).

Needless to say that was the first and only time he ever got the chance to throw himself on the ground!

I know bf takes it out of you but maybe you should ask your gp for a blood test to check your iron and also that you're not anaemic? That will make you feel exhausted and is common after pregnancy and giving birth. I felt like I'd been hit by a truck when I was anaemic after ds1, and took iron throughout my pregnancy with dd2 and felt much better after having her. The sleep deprivation is rubbish enough without having another reason to feel whacked! Might be worth getting checked out.

And just a word of warning Formula feeding does not necessarily mean more sleep!
If you can try and stick it out for a few more weeks, babies often get easier at around 12 weeks. Start sleeping better and forming a routine.
Definitely get iron levels checked.
What about trying mixed feeding for a while. Start with one bottle a night that someone else can give her. Do you have a partner? Might give you a rest but without the guilt that seems to come with giving up on BF.

I thought baby falling off the bed was a compulsory part of being a new mum? :) She will be fine. Get a bed rail and continue BF. FF does not mean more sleep. DS3 was formula fed and woke every 30 mins through the night and slept all day for a while! Bed rail will stop any more falls :)

All three of my boys have fallen off bed AND the sofa, they have had a few whacks to head off door frames too as i was carrying them to bed.

The first time my DS rolled over he rolled straight off the changing table (a lot higher than a bed). He cried for about two minutes and then was fine. I was hysterical for about half an hour and kept having little sobs for the rest of the day. This sort of thing is a right of passage. Get her checked over and then stop beating yourself up. You're doing a great job.

To quote a wise woman "Darling, they haven't ARRIVED until they've fallen off the bed/changing table".

She'll be fine :)

Ds decided to crawl for the first time whilst unattended for a millisecond while I reached for something. He literally catapulted himself off the big high bed onto floorboards headfirst. He cried, I cried and then all was fine. Hes also had a few eggs on his head due to door frames walls tv u its etc. It happens.

Ds is now 2.6 and sustains an injury on average abput twice a day. I keep him safe as much as possible but when he decides to do something like climb the bookcase and "fly like a duck" off the top while I am having a wee etc then theres not much that can be done. Honestly dont feel bad. Ive heard much worse.

Both of mine were freakishly early rollers plus I co-sleep so this has happened to me a lot few times Just arrange your bed so it doesn't happen again - those foam wedges I've heard mentioned on here sound like a good idea to stop them rolling.

Thanks everyone this has made me feel loads better im going docs in a mo so will book to have bloods checked, dont want to give up bf really i like the closeness but it is exhausting especially as my lil one is quite fussy, we give her a bottle of formula or expressed milk in the evenings she still wants breast before she goes to sleep think its a comfort thing to her. Im glad to hear this is very common although still makes u feel rubbish nobody wants to c there lil one hurt or cry :-(

DD now 5 fell off the bed and managed to hit her head on the bedside table at 3 months! I was crying, worried and rang my mum. She told me to check her head for cuts bruising etc and does she seem normal etc. Then started laughing once she had heard that DD was fine. She then said that all 3 of us had fallen off places and that it gets worse as they get older lol
She then came over within the hour to spoil DD with attention
So seriously nothing to worry about!

To quote a wise woman "Darling, they haven't ARRIVED until they've fallen off the bed/changing table". totally agree!

they have had a few whacks to head off door frames too grin as i was carrying them to bed.

Oooh yeah! DD 5.5m has yet to throw herself off the bed but she is a dab hand at avoiding doorframes as I have bounced her off plenty of those whilst carrying her about the house!

I also trapped her finger in a bumbo-type seat the other week and cried for longer than she did!

See, that's why babies can't talk- they would spend the first 6 months calling their parents fecking eejits!

Hope you are feeling ok now, bf does get easier although I didn't believe people when they said it- stick at it until 12 weeks and you will be amazed how much easier it gets.

DS was about 7 months when he fell off a very high bed on holiday. He yelled a lot, and I was fairly convinced he was ok so didn't take him to the Dr. He was 9 yesterday, and it doesn't appear to have affected him too badly.

Don't worry about it!

Happens to everyone eventually. Please don't give up bf just because of this one incident.

I use this cheap foam bed guard one side (which is also v useful when they go into their first big bed) and this babydan rail the other side. Just for some ideas.

My 5 month old managed to crawl backwards and backflip off the end of the bed, landing on his tummy, about a week ago. I burst into tears and he laughed!

Turns out babies move really fast when your back is turned to pick up a nappy.

She'll be fine. You'll feel much better after the doctor's app.

Mine fell off the sofa - she decided to learn to wiggle herself around in the 1 minute I was having a desperately needed pee.

But as the paediatrician who checked her over said, babies are designed to fall out of trees. Whilst I don't advocate testing this theory, it does remind us of our primate heritage, and just how tough young babies can be.

Eat chocolate cake, and have a glass of wine - you will feel much more human afterwards. My bfing advisor told me to do this, and it works miracles on a new mum's psyche.

Been doc appt and my lil girl is fine yay and booked to get bloods checked on monday. Uve all conviced me to stick bf out i hope ot does get easier as my lil one is a grazer and very danding thank u for all ur replies i deel much better now x

Glad all is well OP. Do consider posting in the breast and bottle feeding section if you need some bf advice, or have a look at the kellymom website for loads of info about different bf issues and a list of the national helplines.

FWIW I've found both times that bf is hard going for the first 3-4 weeks and then gets much easier, but if you're having specific problems do ask for help.

Congratulations on your new arrival.

Sorry you are feeling so tired right now - it can really wear you down.

My dd rolled off the bed at 6 months and hit her head on a metal side table. I took her to A & E where they looked her over and she was fine but I was send home with a sheet saying that if she sleeps more than usual, vomits or seems strangely drowsy to bring her back.

Just to reassure you - in triage they said they worry about dc who don't cry after a fall so I'm sure she'll be fine.

You are NOT a terrible mother