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11 yr old DS masturbation. Is this normal?

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Yakky · 03/09/2013 15:45

Just caught my DS masturbating. He was in his bedroom and I just walked in with some ironed t shirts to put in his drawer.
I was shocked and didn't know what to say. He seemed quite nonchalant about it.
If he were 15/16 then I would understand it, but 11!
Is this normal or just far too early?
and what do I say to him about it?

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QTPie · 01/09/2014 22:26

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SolidGoldBrass · 01/09/2014 22:28

Mine has always been quite keen to fiddle with his willy. He is almost 10 now. Oh dear, I suppose I am going to have to start leaving tissues in the bedroom in a year or two.

(Erm, does anyone know at what age they actually need tissues? I mean, as a developmental stage, do they grow stubble first, or get spots or suddenly hairy palms?)

wheresthelight · 02/09/2014 12:42

totally normal! I walked in on dss doing the same a few months back (just turned 11). I do usually knock but his door wasn't fully closed and had arms full of ironing.

we had a brief chat about it being perfectly normal and that I wasn't cross but if he could make sure he cleaned up after himself and if his sheets needed changing then to strip them and put them in the washing machine.

OldCatLady · 02/09/2014 12:49

Totally normal. As others said, you need to knock before entering.

I would just say something like "sorry for walking in to your room the other day, I'll make sure I knock before coming in"

And leave it at that. Unless of course he was using porn, then firmer words needed

Fuzzymum1 · 02/09/2014 19:35

I remember a friend of mine (aged about 14) telling the tale of falling asleep after masturbating - still with willy in hand lying on top of his bed. He woke up to find a cup of tea on the bedside table and a stack of clean laundry on the end of his bed. He was mortified :D

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BastardGoDarkly · 09/04/2016 03:57

What the fuck are you two on about?!

OK, op has now realised she needs to knock before entering get sons room, all the other bollocks you're spouting is completely unnecessary Hmm

BastardGoDarkly · 09/04/2016 03:58

Oh, not two, same poster, two posts. No less batshit.

dizzytomato · 09/04/2016 03:59

My son started having lots of long showers at that age. I didn't think anything of it until dh said he was probably masturbating. According to DH ejaculation comes a lot later, but he was a late developer so I suppose it's like periods, one day it just happens and the age varies. Probably doesn't need tissues just yet. My DS is 13 now and still likes his showers.

Sparklingbrook · 09/04/2016 07:48

ZOMBIE

SofiaandCleo · 09/04/2016 07:51

This must have been a troll post at the time, of course it's normal for boys and girls at that age. Hmm

BellaLou2018 · 18/12/2018 21:06

It is perfectly normal at 11 years old, sometimes even younger - it all depends on when your child begins puberty, ect.

I wouldn't approach the subject unless your son asks you any questions.

Just provide him with tissues & baby wipes and let nature take its course.

chenney1 · 05/05/2019 14:35

mine is 11 too, he is open the subj, not yet ejaculation, no shame for him

chenney1 · 05/05/2019 14:37

mine is 11 too, he is open the subj, not yet ejaculation, no shame for him

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