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11 yr old DS masturbation. Is this normal?

65 replies

Yakky · 03/09/2013 15:45

Just caught my DS masturbating. He was in his bedroom and I just walked in with some ironed t shirts to put in his drawer.
I was shocked and didn't know what to say. He seemed quite nonchalant about it.
If he were 15/16 then I would understand it, but 11!
Is this normal or just far too early?
and what do I say to him about it?

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lottieandmia · 03/09/2013 21:30

Sounds totally normal to me - just act like it's nothing.

AmberLeaf · 03/09/2013 21:30

Why is he against masturbation Cjilly?

OP yep it is totally normal!

Cjilly · 04/09/2013 23:15

Religious reasons. He told me he's never masturbated in his life and I believe him because (TMI alert) when I told him to try (TMI) he went soft.

WantedGSOH · 04/09/2013 23:22

Flossy... I'm also at thought of DS in 10 & half years...

[dear God] emoticon. I thought teenage boys would be easier than girls based on over emotional self & sister
I haven't thought this through at all!

Mabelface · 04/09/2013 23:31

Normal! Boys fiddle from the first time they can get their hand down their nappy.

Toadinthehole · 05/09/2013 11:35

I can't understand why anyone would think this a big deal.

Entering your son's room without knocking first is a bigger deal if you ask me.

Penguin2 · 05/09/2013 11:46

Have namechanged to disclose this information Blush:

I was masturbating to orgasm at the age of 9. I had no idea what I was doing, what it was called, what an orgasm was, why it felt nice, etc. I just discovered it, playing with myself in bed.

I don't think your 11 year old sounds particularly forward in this regard at all. Smile

Penguin2 · 05/09/2013 11:53

And to answer ggirl:

I was not physically developed at all - periods started at 13, in most respects I was quite immature developmentally. And I am not young now so it was not a 'modern thing' - I am talking about something in the 1970s.

I shouldn't think boys have to be particularly physically developed either. After all, even baby boys have erections and touch themselves. I am no expert though. Maybe boys do need to be at some level of development to ejaculate?

burberryqueen · 05/09/2013 11:55

100 per cent normal

ShowOfHands · 05/09/2013 11:58

Of course there are men who don't masturbate. Just like they are women who don't masturbate. I'm pretty sure they haven't made it illegal not to yet.

Lollyheart · 05/09/2013 12:01

Oh god , I have 3 boys , haven't thought that far ahead yet Grin

claraschu · 05/09/2013 12:06

Cjilly, I would be concerned about your husband's attitude, if I were you. Feeling guilty about sex can lead to all sorts of problems for children.

mrspaddy · 05/09/2013 12:10

Totally normal..... I have attended. Lot of courses for Personal and Social Development for teenagers.
Main message is privacy and hygiene.
Please don't worry.

imip · 05/09/2013 12:21

Penguin, I feel quite relieved. My 6yo dd masterbates regularly. Has done from the age of two. It seems she masterbates to orgasam judging by her red checks! I've tried not to be too disturbed about it but have told her that it is a private thing and to do it in her bedroom when her sisters are not awake....

It seems to have skipped dd2 by.

Dd3 3yo sits there swinging her legs to masterbate. Caught her doing it on the monkey bars at nursery (the shame).

Dd4 does it in her high hair. I'm doomed I tell you!

Penguin2 · 05/09/2013 13:24

Not doomed! Grin

I have not grown into a raving nymphomaniac. Wink

I actually don't see masturbation in young children as having any link with sex. I think some people are more tactile (with themselves or with each other) than other people. That's my excuse anyway! Wink

SquidgyMummy · 05/09/2013 13:29

oh my almost 3 year old loves playing with it. obviously nothing happens apart from a little stiffy!!
will bear the tissues in mind - in about 8 years time!

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dementedma · 10/06/2014 21:59

Ds is 12 and seems to show no interest in this. I am always a bit stunned at all the threads about bvoys being obsessed with their willies. Ds has never seemed to be remotely interested in his and I have never seen an erection, even when he was little.
Now I'm worried he's not normal because he's not playing with himself all the time. No sign of wank socks or crusty sheets....

melissa83 · 10/06/2014 22:02

Surely the vast majority of girls and boys wont be mucholder than this?

Locketjuice · 10/06/2014 22:12

I think a toddler/baby fiddling is not masturbation, it's just well that fiddling, to the op, sounds normal to me! My sister and I had this conversation the other day as my nephews are 7-10 and it randomly crossed my mind if she has to knock yet Grin

HeyBungalowBill · 10/06/2014 22:18

My friend mentioned this to me the other day, you can imagine my joy of being told "one day you'll walk in on him having a wank" Grin

claudiabeddingfield · 01/09/2014 22:07

You should get him one of those anti-masturbation suites.

11 yr old DS masturbation. Is this normal?
Cinnamon73 · 01/09/2014 22:17

^ Wtf? ^