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Would this be too big a gap?

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thirtysomething · 18/06/2006 20:55

Already have ds (8) and dd(5) - we have wanted to try for a third since dd was 2 but for various complicated reasons had to keep putting it off and then decided last year the gap would be too large so gave up on the idea.

Now we have both separately started thinking about a third baby again and finally confessed today! I really, really want one and dh has obviously come to the conclusion that he likes the idea too, but I keep thinking that as it takes me a good year usually to conceive, there may be a 9 and 6-7 year gap between the baby and my older two. Would that be total madness?

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brimfull · 28/06/2006 23:57

my dd is 11 yrs older than my ds.It does make family days out a bit difficult as a 14yr old and a 3 yr old don't exactly like the same things,the one and only minus point .But it is wonderful to see how close they are,we have the best babysitter,he loves all her friends and they love him.I wouldn't worry about it at all.

all4girlz · 29/06/2006 00:39

agree with every one the age gap is not a problem the fact that you both would love another baby says it all good luck have fun and keep us posted!!

saltcod · 03/07/2006 21:41

Great thread, thirtysomething. I have dd aged 5 & am (finally) pregnant again (secondary infertility) - new baby not due till Jan, so will have 5.5 yr gap. This thread has made me feel so much more positive about the whole age gap thing

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southeastastra · 03/07/2006 21:46

i've got an 8 year gap between sons they're really close too!

sideways · 03/07/2006 21:56

Agree, great thread. I have dd 3 and am ttc and I was worried about the age gap! I'm not now

fedda · 03/07/2006 21:59

thirtysomething, there are pros and cons for everything in life. It's nice to have 6-9 age gap because you can spend some time with your baby while your other children are at school, your older kids will be very happy to have a little brother or sister and they might help you from time to time. Age difference will make it difficult sometimes to decide where to go. My second child, three, lolves playgrounds and my first, nine and a half, is already bored with them. they often have different interests but i never once had my regrets. I'm so happy I have them. You are lucky your husband also would like another one. My advice if you want it: go for it! It's so wonderful to have kids. If i was younger, I would have more. Best of luck!

luckylady · 04/07/2006 09:54

Thirysomething, my two are 9yrs8months and 2years2weeks. They get on great, DD helps me out with DS to , watching him whilst I hang the washing out or go to the loo etc.

We are in discussions about number 3, but hubby said last night he doesnt want another will have to talk some more.

But good luck to you and number 3 espeacially the trying...

MrsBigD · 04/07/2006 09:56

My friend has 10 years between her kids and it worked out great because the older one was very happy that mums beady eye wasn't on him all the time anymore ;). Also he adores his little sister and helped a lot. So I'd say... GO FOR IT!

sunnydelight · 04/07/2006 20:43

I've got 10 years top to bottom, three in total. DS1 is now old enough to babysit his siblings so I feel like I have got a new lease of life, and because I've got biggish gaps between them all there is much less bickering etc. that you get with lots close in age - go for it, its great.

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