Want a Cleaner - Am I just Lazy or Justified

[aaronsmummy]

Hiya - I have 3 children ages 7, 3 and 1. My middle child is autistic, I can't find time to even scratch my backside at the moment and my husband is a clueless, unsupportive twerp. I need some help. Am I justified in wanting some help around the house?

TOTALLY JUSTIFIED!!!

Oh god yes, definitley justified.

If I had any spare cash this would be the first thing I'd spend it on, and I only have 1 dd.

god yeah!....what are the reasons for not having a cleaner again?

go for it - I've got a housekeeper!!

A mate once told me that if you have children, a problem and some money then simply throw the money at the problem and then don't worry about it. Good advice...it's when you don't have the money that it's tough.

Go for it. Best thing I ever did. I would give up a LOT of other things before I'd give up my cleaner - she is worth her weight in gold. Also, I know she needs the money (I've found her other cleaning work before now when she's asked me to) so we're helping each other out, that's how I see it My dh was very anti to start with but now definitely sees the benefit - less stressed happier wife, more free time as a family at the weekend......

Couldn't manage without mine. She's a fab cleaner and just adores ds1 and ds2 - ds1 "helps" her with the hoovering. I even bought him a toy dyson....

Go for it.

Absolutely, completely and utterly justified!

I'm slightly ashamed to admit that I used to have a cleaner every 2 weeks when I lived on my own (without children)!

I just hate cleaning but it makes me miserable when my house is a mess (does that make sense??).

It now solves all sorts of arguments between dh and me, because we don't bicker about who does what around the house.

Definitely sort it out as soon as you can

God yes you should get a cleaner aaronsmummy.

Definitely justified! Infact why should you justify it, do it if you want it!

I've just got back from Asia where extra help for everything is the norm! Infact I was seen as weird because with one child I chose NOT to have a full time maid and instead opted for a lady to come over and help me keep on top of having a clean kitchen (not into coakroaches!) and ironing once a week. It was a delight.

Try getting your other half to swap roles he would agree with you quickly I am sure!

You are justified.
I am a sahm but have a cleaner 2 mornings a week (she is a total angel - sends me back to bed and looks after dd2 at the same time as turning my bombshell house into a perfect ideal home!!0. I have been ill with kidney problems and pretty severe pnd since dd2 was born (she is 2 and a half) and would never have coped without the amazing Isobel!!
If you need it to cope (and it sounds liek you do) then go for it! You need to preserve your energy to survive.

Yes you are justified, 3 kids must make plenty of mess. Do something more interesting with the time than backside scratching though!

Thanks everyone - I am interviewing someone on Thursday.

Littlefish no need to be even slightly ashamed. I had a cleaner every week before having ds and I lived on my own in a small 2 bedroomed flat. I also like a cleanish place but absolutely loathed cleaning. It transformed my life!

I don't have one now (one Ds and work PT) because I haven't got my a**e into gear to organise it again and also the money is a bit of an issue.

Go for it!