Want a Cleaner - Am I just Lazy or Justified

[aaronsmummy]

Hiya - I have 3 children ages 7, 3 and 1. My middle child is autistic, I can't find time to even scratch my backside at the moment and my husband is a clueless, unsupportive twerp. I need some help. Am I justified in wanting some help around the house?

Justified....go for it!!!

Yes, organise it tommorow, and that's an order.

Thank goodness I asked, dh thinks it's lazyness but hell what does he know - he's only a man!

I stopped reading after the words 'I have 3 children' - no further justification necesssary (and you do have further justification) - YES.

Justified, but if you can afford it, even if it were lazy, why not??

Yep, I stopped reading after the 'i have 3' also. I have 3 and an okish dh and now extra problems and I have a once a week cleaner.............

I will sort it tomorrow - I also have back and neck problems so am in pain a lot of the time - changing the sheets on the boys bunk beds is a nightmare. Thanks guys xxx

Who cares if we think it's justified - if you need the help, go ahead and get it. I'm toying with the idea myself!

Ah well it's a big decision going against dh - he is a control freak so I will be in for major nagging for days. At least he will be nagging me in a clean house lol.

Tell him to clean it then!

Go ahead, get your cleaner - you clearly have your hands full so if you have the funds, go for it!

This is my usual response to my dh when he complains about the cleaner (he doesn't like having someone else in the house). Completely unfair of me as he can't possibly do it himself (chronically ill, not chronically idle as is so often the case). Stand your ground, let your dh complain all he likes! Think of all the perfectly good oxygen he'll be wasting on complaining.

completely justified, not that you need to justify it. it is the best thing i spend moneyon each week, it just takes the responsibility of thinking about cleaning off me. i'm still always tidying etc as can only afford few hours, but definitely worth it.

COMPLETELY justified. I have 2 kids, neither with any difficulties and I'd love a cleaner!! there's never any time to clean a room properly - our front room's been crying out for a hoover for a week now and it's soooooooo depressing (although yes I could have done it by the time I've typed this!). Just would be lovely to have some help! maybe you could advertise for a mother's help (I'm only suggesting this because I met someone yesterday who has someone from 3pm - 7pm three days a week and this seemed like a dream - but she had oodles of money...) who could help with the kids and do some cleaning aswell??

Justified!
I would love a cleaner, I have 2 kids and work full time. I love someone to come and cook all my meals for me too!

The Mother's Help idea is excellent, think I might look into that. Money is rather tight - isn't it always with children, but the DLA for Jack will hopefully go towards it.

As everyone else has said three kids is justification enough. Unfortunately it is extremely difficult to find a cleaner around here.

AM, let me know how you get on with finding a mother's help. I think it might be the best solution to my childcare/housework situation as well - but not sure how to find such a creature, should one exist!

Totally justified. It's nothing to do with laziness. It is not a luxury. It is simply a way to maintain your sanity.

Just tell your DH that you will need him to help you if a cleaner is not an option. He'll probably change his tune then.
I'm very spoilt/lazy. Living in South Africa, where having help around is normal, I have a housekeeper 3 times a week. She also helps look after the kids if I have to go out. 3 times is actually a little - most people have full-time housekeepers.

Nothing worong with being lazy . However with three young children, one of whom is autistic I don't believe it is possible to be lazy. You should definitley get help if you can afford it !!

Jambot - that sounds great - 3 times a week - lucky you.

Can't type YES in big enough letters. It will give you more time for other stuff even if the other stuff is more of the same with the kids, and it will also be one more thing off your mental "to do" list which will give you more "head space" to deal with your lovely family. What does dh know - pah! If you really need to have his agreement before you can do it then try going on strike - when I first lived with dh we both worked but I did most of the housework ho humm. Then the "toilet roll fairy" didn´t bring any new loo roll one week (because of course these things happen in the house by magic, there is no hard work to be done...) and the message struck home. I think it was helped by the lack of clean underwear for dh. In your case you could have course have gone to buy toilet roll, but you just didnt have enough time however if you had some help...

(amd keep a spare roll hidden for you and the kids haha)

so so justified
have just asked for the details from the agency that a friend uses. am going on mat leave at end of summer and with money saved from childminder it's going to the cleaner! I'd be spending that day cleaning anyways.....
go for it!

Good idea kitbit. Going to make some calls later and see if I can get someone recommended to me. It will be bliss in my busy, mad life, to have have 1 less thing to owrry about.