Does anyone else just not like being a parent?

[AndHarry]

Or is it just me? I have two DC (second one unplanned before you ask...), DC1 is 3 and DC2 is 9mo. I know I'm a 'good parent' and do my absolute best for my DC but I find it so incredibly boring and wearing. Everyone else seems to love spending time with their DC and I just want some time by myself. Other mothers at baby groups and activities seem to enjoy talking on the sole subject of their DC's completely normal development for hours on end, week in, week out, with minor forays into TV shows, and I would give quite a lot to have a conversation about the world outside parenting. I feel like my entire life is now 'being a mother' with no room for anything else and I really don't like it.

Is there something wrong with me?

Thank Godddd!!!
There are actually people out there who feel the same as me!!!
I have 2 boys one who's nearly 3 and one who's nearly 2. There is 11 months between them. I am finding parenting soooo testing and emotionally draining yet very boring also.I am constantly tired and recently have begun to think there is something wrong with my mental state . It's such a big relief to see I'm not the only mum who feels like this!! My husband is out to work very long hours with his own business so I feel like a single parent half the time, the other half the time when he is home I am soo emotionally drained that I am no company to him or myself quite frankly! I think for me the only way forward is to get a job ( I just need to have a purpose again other than just mum and house wife) although we will be financially worse off by quite a lot I feel it's either that or I may be in a mental home soon ! People keep saying it gets easier so I guess we have that to cling onto......

Although I like that I am a parent in the bigger scheme of things (ie I knew I wanted a family, to experience nurturing kids) I don't enjoy the day to day of parenting at all. What's to like about
Tiredness
No personal space/brain space
Lack of time with dh
continual demands
No lie ins
Less money
Frequent boredom
The one good thing is my son himself who as he gets older is more delightful, cute and entertaining and dare I say it, slightly easier work!
I work 4 days a week for birth the cash and the sanity it brings me. A year of maternity leave was not good for my mh. However I'd possibly do a full year again for any childs #2 because I think that time is for their good not yours. Oh yeah constant sacrifices, another parenting aspect I dislike...

Yes, you're right. It is boring and not only when they are little. It's boring all the way through. There's a social conspiracy to make women shut up and not say this. There is no reason women should be so responsible for children. The burden could be shared with men and outside organisations. If women give up on themselves then they can't be surprised if others find them boring. They are. Unfortunately the NHS and schools conspire to make women ever more responsible. Private sector is slightly better but you need money for that. Better work, pay for childcare, and hold onto sanity. Don't say yes to your children. Hardly ever. It won't do them any harm.

@shoolt
Why revive 18 year old, and 10 year old threads to point out the obvious? You could’ve started a new thread.

I have 2 DC - a 3 yo and a 1 yo. I've liked the baby stage with both of them but have found parenting a toddler very challenging and frankly, tedious and unenjoyable quite a lot of the time. My 3 yo is in a stage where every sentence seems to begin with "I want..." or "I need..." and the delay tactics/demands at bedtime especially are very wearing. She shouts and squawks at things, even if it's just that she wants a book and it's less than a metre away but she can't be bothered to get it herself.

She can express herself much better now and it's the best when she tells you she loves you unprompted, or gives you a random cuddle. I find it hard to play with her though and it makes me think I'm not cut out to be that kind of fun, interactive, hands-on mum. I hate messy play, I'm rubbish at outdoor stuff and struggle with the lack of attention span of small children, flitting from one toy to another.

I'm a good mum in the sense that they're both fed, clean, looked after and I never forget anything for their bags/nursery/etc, but I feel like that's just the basics of being a parent. I work f/t and sometimes I love being able to escape so I can think and drink my coffee in peace without having to watch Peppa Pig or be shouted at because the game on the tablet isn't working.

I love them both to death and my life is a million times better for them being in it, but that doesn't stop it being hard. I figure that every age is different and it might just be that the testing toddler stage is just not the one I'm going to enjoy. I'm hoping it gets a bit more enjoyable as they get a bit older.

Do you get any time to yourself OP?

You see, I like being a parent, BUT I get time out and I think that’s key. Admittedly it’s easier as we have one child (by choice) but DH and I each make sure we both get a “slot” at the weekend to ourselves and I’ve also structured my week so I get another slot during the week.

I also do a couple of adult activities in the evenings (yoga and swimming club) which keeps me sane

No I was bored shitless and couldn't wait to get back to work for some adult company.
Of course I love DS but oh so much more now he's grown up.