Do you love your husband more or kids more

[mommytobe234]

Just curious to know , plus i am bored. Thanks

My children. My dh gets on my nerves most of the time.

For me, it's if the house was burning down, who would I run in it for?

Answer is DD the cat then OH.

If there was ever a choice, DD would always come first.

My DD, I can't express how much I love her. I love my DP but there's no comparison to how I feel about my daughter, but she's still a baby so maybe it changes in time?

All the same, we r a family. I love each equally, everyone in our family is loved, respected and listened too equally.

I would kill anyone who harmed either my DH or my DS. Before DS i would have said i would die for DH, but i can no longer say that as my priority is to be here for as long as possible to keep DS happy, healthy and safe. It's a very primal instinct i think, to protect your child at all costs.

My love for each is totally different and for that reason is completely impossible to compare. My love for DS is all-consuming and totally unselfish because it's unconditional. It hurts me physically to think of a life without him.

But on the way into work this morning i was in floods of tears at the thought of life without DH (he's had some blood tests). I can no more bear the thought of life without DH than i can life without DS - it's just pain that hurts in different ways.

I love my family

Still can't understand how can someone love their kids more than their husbands. Why one has to be more than the other in a healthy family ?

I love the lot of them.....no more no less

I think that Countrymummy summed up my feelings. I choose to love DP, but I don't get a choice with the children. If DP treated me the way the children sometimes do, I would probably leave him.

On the other hand, the children currently need me more than DP does, so I wonder if as they get older and more independent the love with change and become more of an adult relationship of choice. Most adults I know have somewhat problematic relationships with at least one parent, so it seems likely.

It is a completely different kind of love. I love my DS completely without condition, that will never change. I love my DH because of who he is and what he has chosen to give me. I choose to be with him and him with me and that is completely different to the love I have for my DS.

It is true that I could live without DH whereas I am not sure I could ever cope if something happened to my DS.

Dc (older teenagers) , stroppy, half out of the door, and they owe me nothing, but its them. loving them from an emotional distance. A change from the very involved love whwn they were younger. Dh its respect and care sort of love.

You don't quantify love in this way. All relationships are different but let's say you could compare them all the same way. There is no need to have a pie chart of love and you couldn't anyway, because it's ever expanding.

When I was a child, I loved my mum and dad, and also my siblings, more than anything else in the world. I couldn't imagine life without them. But when I fell in love DH, I loved him just as massively. I had lost my mum by then, but my love for her and my dad and my siblings hadn't gone away or decreased. Then I had the DCs - and again none of those loves I had before diminished. There was just more love.

As for who would you save, that's a bit of a daft question because there would be all sorts of physical factors involved. You wouldn't be coldly weighing it up like 'well, DH will be with me longer, but DC has longer to live'. You would just do what you could.

I love them all equally in that they all have the whole of my love, I consider their needs each day and we muddle on through together, when it comes to saving one, I would definitely save the children, as would husband but I think that evolutionary survival thing is different to day to day love.

My children I can spend most of the day with without loosing the plot but I need space from them, I never need space from my other half.

I look at my children and see my husband and vice versa. We are all a family and I love my family. I don't think there is any need to put values on it.

@Growlithe

Great answer. I feel the same way

My kids. No doubt. Even though they are now older.

I do love dh but there is no way it is as much as my dc. He feels the same and I am happy about that.

mommy2be

Why are you not responding ?

When I was little, maybe about 7yo I asked my mum if there was a disaster, and she had to chose between saving me and my Grandma (her MIL), who would she choose? She refused give an answer, she told me she didn't know.

It's always bothered me a bit, especially since being a parent. I can tell you if it came between saving my DC and my MIL, I'd be saving my DC

I would die for my DD, I would kill for them in fact. I love DH in needy way, though.

But, yes, I love my DC more than anything in the world.

completely different kind of love, but I would die for any of them.

Hmm.

I agree with everybody who has said you love your DH and Dc in a different way not in different amounts and that love expands to include new arrivals as they come- we've had 5 so I speak from some experience. In a crisis I know my DH, who is a soldier's son and was reared on the story of the Birkenhead and "women and children first", would not want me to try to save him before the children, and would be furious if I tried, so I don't have that problem!

Side note : I can live without my kids ( teenagers and ready to leave ) but i can't live without my husband ( married for 25 years)

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Dcs, no contest. My love for them is unconditional, my love for dp is conditional - if he treated me badly I would eventually stop loving him.

Kids. How could anyone feel differently???

I love DH and my DC but there is no question that my DC come first - I would save them first without a doubt and if DH dared save me before our DC I don't think I'd ever speak to him again.

Frankly as much as I love my husband I find all this "i can't live without my DH" stuff weird.