anyone got 2 under 2s?

[joanna1985]

ive just found out im pregnant again, my lo is only 8 months and tbh i am absolutely petrified.

has anyone been in the same situation? what is it like?

my partner thinks its great to have them close together but im worried about my money/sanity/career/
and i feel a pang of guilt already thinking my lo will feel jealous or left out :(

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I had 2 under 2s a few years ago - can't be that bad because I went on to have 3 under 4.

Youngest is 2 now (didn't go for a fourth!) and it's great. They play together all the time, keep each other amused, and are all at a similar stage so it's easy to find activities/outings/holidays that suit everyone.

I am seriously sleep-deprived though!

I have a (planned) 18 month gap. It was hard work, very hard work. Nearly broke me TBH, but I managed despite absolutely no outside support and with very little involvement from DP (who was working 60+ hours a week at the time). It's doable and once they get older it's brilliant.

DC are now 4 1/2 and just turned 6.

Not anymore! Dd1 has just turned 2.

Mine were 20 months apart. It was closer than we planned but has turned out quite well, really. Dd1 has been quite accepting of dd2, I think her young age has helped as she isn't particularly possessive of her stuff or room. It's hard at first, but I think it'll be nice later on.

My top tip is to get a good sling so you have your hands free for the older one.

waves I have an age gap of 15 months between DS and DD, they are now 2.3 and 12 months. Actually was fairly easy initially, as DD was a dream sleeper which enabled us to find our feet and not feel too swamped, and DS too little to be jealous. Hard, and still bloody is, in terms of getting out and about, seems to take forever to get stuff/ them ready, and two lots of nappy changes etc is a ball ache! I'm actually finding this stage now really wearing, as DS is now often jealous since DD became mobile and wrecks DS games/train track, I'm constantly fire fighting and can no longer leave them alone for long as DS will end up pushing DD over/sitting on her/trying to stick random objects in her mouth! They're both too young to understand how not to piss the other one off IYSWIM? DD is a proper madam now so quite hard work in her own right. We're hoping that by the end of the year, once both are a bit older and DD is walking well, then things will start to get easier. Peaks and troughs and all that. Despite the attempted maiming of DD on a daily basis, DS loves DD and always asks where she is if she's not around for whatever reason. Both go to the other for cuddles. I think they'll be close as they grow up.

Oh, and congrats and good luck!

Yep, got a 22mo and a 12wk old.
Was expecting a nightmare, but actually, after the first few weeks, it's been ok so far. Just got to keep the toddler entertained/fed and the baby just sits and watches, gets fed when she whinges, and falls asleep when she gets a chance. All the newborn worries that you have the first time are done away with, so the mental adjustment is easier this time.
Bedtime can be a bit traumatic if DH isn't home and they're both tired and grumpy, but I think you have to accept that sometimes you have to let one cry for a few minutes while you sort the other one out.

Just don't be too ambitious!

Forgot to mention - DS is so sweet giving his baby sister toys/kisses that I now love him even more than I did before. Those little things make all the difficult bits worthwhile.

I have 19 mths between DC2-3, 15 months between DC3-4 and 13 months between DC4-5.
DC2 was 4 years and 1 mth when DC5 was born.
It was just a case of being very organised when they were little.
Now they are older it can be great fun with all the hormones flying around.