Further freakingly fantabulous adventures of the 40+ Mummies Part 2

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Our 2nd thread is full but it won't prevent us from laughing, moaning, keeping on supporting each other, sharing and chatting over our new life with 1 or 2, even 5 children !
Here you go, fantastic 40+ Mums, a brand new thread for all of us, old friends from the pregnancy thread or new joiners

Kids in bed, wine in fridge and Chairman too tired to respond to all the many long posts so this will be a bit stream of consciousness.

Sorry to all with loved ones going through MH issues. A close friend really is in the thick of it at the moment. Voices, paranoia and regular suicide attempts. A bright, tough and capable woman. I fear for her. To have a sibling going through it...I can only imagine.

Partners reluctant to have a DC2 - I get the impression there are an increasing number of onlies out there and as with others have met happy, confident and successful onlies. Friends take the place of siblings. But I understand the longing to have a second child and had to convince a reluctant DH. Friends with more than one were hugely helpful in relaying all the positive aspects. I was also v determined. He has no regrets now and as the kids bond more and more is really touched by their growing relationship.

As for me, I've lost 17lbs in 6 weeks! Woo hoo! No diets as such just sensible eating and exercise 5 times a week. Really pleased to be a third of the way there. Bit of a setback this week with 2 poorly kids and a poorly me. Totally shattered by night wakings and having to get in with a v distressed DS who can't keep still. Loved snuggling up with him though and kind of loved him needing constant mummy cuddles. Pathetic and needy woman!

Still keeping the blues away and finding a balance in our new family.

Will try and keep up more. Sorry for any randomness. Wine time now. See you soon!

DH took DS to watch a show in our hols resort, I m deeding A. And using iPhone to read and post. Apologies in advance for typo if not nonsense!
Very glad to hear from Eagle, Goat, Chairman and Knicky as you have been quiet. Glad DP is feeling better Eagle. V glad Chairman you lost so much weight with balance diet et exercise. Goat, love your style re balance diet :) Knicky, when will HV leave you and baby alone ?

Oups A made me post early !
Seaside, Eagle, mine came back almost exactly when A reached 6 months, I was shocked as I was still BF roughly as much as before, then 2 months later I skipped one cycle and they came back again... Not too scared about being pg though as sex life is a bit on hold, still on hold, I should say. Yes Knicky I m too struggling a bit with DH. The relationship is tense, I can't stand the tone he uses sometime but he seems not to take notice. I m v sorry yours made you cry. Virtual hugs to you.

Somewhere, DS will get used to have his sister around but it is a good idea to have time only for him with your full attention. I still feel guilty when mine has to spend an hour playing by himself while I bathe and feed A. But boredom leads to creativity and I love to hear him talking to himself when he is not aware that I can :) funnily, he plays in English most of the time.
Scarecrow, how was Montessori assessment for L today ? I really like the philosophy behind it. I wanted to send DS from 3 to 5 to a Montessori school but the headteacher sadly passed away. So I dropped the idea. I liked her v much and her personality had a strong impact on the pupils. Really hope T's surgery won't have any side effect. Holding your hand.

Portugal is fab. DH is off most mornings for his tennis and ocean swim. DS and I enjoy the pool while A patiently watches from her pushchair. Then she has her swim with us too before falling asleep on the breast under the pine trees in front of the orange cliff and blue ocean. DS has a little rest too reading stories or practicing his writing. He has discovered Domino and asks to play all the time, which is easy to do while BF! I m more than happy to oblige. For once it is a quiet game.... After lunch, it is nap time for all of us. 4pm, we all go to the beach, DS runs after the waves! With screams of true delight. A seems scared by the sound of the ocean, she would curl against me, circling my neck with her arms and resting her head against my chest as if my heartbeat reassures her. 7pm DS is mesmerised by the live singer/band. 7.30pm dinner is served. 9pm A is in bed and I am too....

No wonder why I look like pg again.... I barely do anything else than eat and sleep! One more week to go! Yeah !

Wave to every one, Cheese, Nananaps, LRM, FF, Midget, VQ....

Urrrrrrgh bbd drooling! Sounds so lovely. Beautifully described. Sorry not been on here my app suggested no one was posting! Too much to catch up on to post at length now.

chair glad your back.

Re my sis don't think it's the worst thing - worse to have a crazy parent - but given the denial I'm still making sense of it in my 40s. Could be a crazy sister bore if I don't check myself.

Have given up 5:2 as became a raging vortex of hunger. But there's a whole spectrum if fasting which I shall bore you with (fasting bore) when I have time.

Oh yes ds has come back to me! He is talking to me, as if he realises the 'remote' expression of love that is conversation will have to take te place of the physical while dd is babe in arms.

Bbh. Sounds like you are having a lovely time. Close my eyes and I am there. Sarong tied around my neck to hide the wobbly body
Somewhere so could not fast would make me very cranky. How do u manage it?

Sending hugs to all. Those of you thinking of baby two extra hugs. D will be an only. If I was younger I may have thought about it but happy with him. Someways wish I have the maternal instinct early to be honest never thought about kids till dp mentioned it in Canada took two years of me going back and forth do I dont I. So to those that do I send hugs and well wishes.
Chair good to see ya well done on the weight lose! !! Impressive you can exercise so often wish I could. I seem to have slowed down with my lose aim is 70 lbs at 62. Happy I can get in my old clothes but I think my toning is going to be awful to do. I was size 24 then a 12 then pregnant then 22 now a 12/14. All in two years my skin is saying no way man! !

Hello back again on the web version rather than app so can check others posts.

goat thought sis must be mad to wish Bg had not been born. Interested that you really want to see her. She must be in a grey area unlike my sister which means you prob won't want to talk about it on here. I know what you mean by dry tinder.

scare hello. The holiday dilemma sounds like a first world problem - I had one with my 'too good school with too many children of chief executives and too much on the wall about leadership' which ds is now going to. But I appreciate its the usual dp male bossiness and therefore annoying. Seven weeks would be de trop.

Good luck with tongue tie. I now live near montessoris and wanted to send ds but it was too late as hed have to go fullish time which I couldnt afford. I might be able to send dd but then I'd feel guilty! Dunno.

knicky I wonder what is going on with your dp? He sounds like he is regressing. Cross with him for making you cry. It's hard work isn't it. Thanks for your words re dd and bond. It is really painful isn't it, the fact they have to share. I mean, bit of a first world prob but at the same time it's in the bible it's one of the oldest themes in the world sibling rivalry and there's no dodging the fact that it actually hurts and is a loss and something is gone that can never come back. But you kind of have to go there to go to the next place which is accepting it and enjoying the new things it brings with it. Probably many times cyclically.

Ds crying! Gotta go xx

Hello folks.

T had his tongue snip: he was good as gold, one little whimper and a confused look... It was odd to see blood in his mouth but he fed well and has been himself tonight so no drama. It's probably the tiredness and possibility that a lot of the long nights and colicky days could have been avoided, but doctor said tongue tie could nt have been worse and would likely have affected speech, even if there had been no feeding problems, so I'm oddly angry/upset that doctor in hospital - who was otherwise so kind and solicitous - was so dismissive when I asked about it. I realise it's an over reaction and fruitless anger but just saying how I feel. Partly in hope admitting it helps it pass.

LRM and Chair, your weight loss very impressive. Can you tell/ remind me what your sensible eating plan was? Haven't worried about losing weight for so long but have spent nearly two months rooted at exactly 12 st when was 10-10st 7 for my whole adult life before and am getting pi**ed off! Have just finished week one of the Couch to 5k programme and very impressed by it and enjoying it.

I lost you all but now you are found. Waves to mums and babies, slaps to dh's being knobs and a big wistful sigh to Bdb and her Portugal holiday - sounds divine.

Hey Midget, nice to have you back, you are as sharp as ever. How is Master Midge ? And his spirited sis ?
Scarecrow, glad T has not suffered at all.
Somewhere, a friend of mine sent his second child to Montessori but his first went to a non Montessori nursery, his decision was based on their character and h
He does not feel guilty. But I know the feeling, because DS will go to a private school I feel I will need to send A to one too.
Just had a choc tart with peanuts, outrageously delicious, just like a snickers bar with fresh dark choc. So glad had to share with DH and DS, a small bite for the taste was just perfect, otherwise I would need a new wardrobe.
A had her swim again today. She really enjoys being in the pool. Thank you, LRM and MrsW for the tips. I will take her to swimming when back in London.

Is anyone up? I had 2 naps today so not very sleepy anymore. Gosh, it will be a long day ! :)

Watching A sleep, she is the most beautiful baby of course of the world ever ever.... I am happy, v happy for all of us. Onlies or siblings, they are our treasures, these babies.

Scarecrow. Diet is extremely low carbs. Breakfast poached eggs and yogurt. Lunch salad with egg or ham or tuna. Tea steamed veg with chicken pork or fish. Pudding is nuts and dried fruit. Will have chilli and sgag bol but with brown rice. Very naughty at the weekends have sandwiches crisps and cake. I dont snack or have any sugar. Boring but I am so not a cook. If you cook then go nuts with any combo of fruit veg and protein. Watch the sauces loaded with sugars. Took 5 months to lose 4 stone. Just wish I had the energy to exercise more. Oh we'll will do 2 hours of walking today at least and carrying around a 25 lb baby also counts
Bbh. I will agree with u A is gorgeous. Also watching D sleep little curls on the side of his head.

Midget. Good to see ya. How's master m?

another night of five hours broken sleep (dd running temp for three nights in a row) and now a pounding headache....but such sweet delight watching DD busy cleaning entire playground with T's muslin. she is determined to dry all the apparatus for the childrens (sic) but it is still raining. bless

thanks LRM. can't give up breakfast cereal but will try and cut snacks and rescue carbs. I'm not cut out for dieting but would.like to gradually shed at least. stone before stop BF. Remind me why men.can't be pregnant and spare us all this post pg cr@p

Can I join the crew?

I'm 43 years old.
DS1 almost 4 years old.
DS2 16 months old.

I would also like to find other older moms in Wiltshire or surrounding areas.

Wilts welcome, it would be great to have you join us... Oldest recent DC on her just turned one, and youngest is about 7 weeks (Cycle?). I think Eagle and Seaside live out west so hopefully they'll check in soon. I'm at the less pretty end of the M4/M3!

There is a list of us near the beginning of the thread...or the lovely bbd will update you after her hols.

I am 42, have a dd of 2.5 with golden curls, honey brown eyes and a lot of cheek, and DS of 11.5 weeks with black hair, blue eyes and the sweetest temperament. We all have the most gorgeous DC on the planet and are not afraid to tell each other

Nice to meet you wiltshire. I'm oop north, not sure if there are any other SW mummys here but the virtual company on here is lovely.

scarecrow, I've missed a post somewhere - I didn't realise DS had tongue tie. My DS had it too, also extremely bad (right at the front of the tongue). He struggled to feed and had it cut when he was admitted to hospital with weight loss. I still feel angry to this day that a baby who had difficulty feeding was discharged, and that the referral would have taken weeks, especially when I saw what a simple procedure it was. Glad your DS has been feeding well and the snip has been done. I think it should be hospital policy for tongue tie to be fixed prior to discharge, and during my last pregnancy my plan was to refuse to leave if DD had it as well until it was fixed. Rant over! On a more positive note, DS's speech seems normal so far and his tongue looks completely normal.

Re eating plan, no plan as such. I hate diets - they make me obsess about food. I've just cut out cakes, biscuits and chips. I'm allowing myself one treat a week. Also the only snacks I'm having are fruit. I have bought some smaller plates and am eating smaller portions. I'm rarely hungry between meals. Exercise- wise, two Buggyfit classes a week, 3 sessions of at least half an hour on the turbo trainer. Walking as much as poss. It's felt quite easy really, and I'm enjoying getting some fitness and energy back.

Sorry for all those with disturbed sleep. It's the pits. Wishing you all a restful weekend, and DPs giving you lie-ins and generally being kind.

How rude of me - I didn't really jntroduce myself. Half asleep!

I'm 40 and have a gorgeous, cuddly DS of 2.3. Also a little blondie with brown eyes. My DD is 3 months old today and she has lovely blue eyes, a tiny bit of brown hair and a big smile. So far the pair of them have bonded brilliantly. Long may it last!

Welcome wilts. I am up north too.
Ds 9 months. Blue eyed brown haired little sweetie. Every thing he does it wonderful and everything new he does is the best thing since sliced bread. I am 44 and have settled nicely into my maternity time boo it ends soon. Welcome to the gang x

Scarecrow. Had long day so just polished off a bowl of cereal. Thought of you while I shovelling in the lovely flakes. Also had toast with jam on whoops. I fear weigh day may not go so well in the morning.